oblige
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I still have not figured out how to do partial quotes in the nifty little little boxes here, <g> So..
You said:
"My question is this, does anybody else go through the same or similar thoughts when exploring potential future relationships in your mind? "
Oh my yes!
Since other than a few scenes at public events and tons of reading and talking and listening defining and then un-defining who I am and what I want, I am new to all this and seeking to explore with someone(s.) all I do know is I tend to be submissive-- sexually as well as a general service orieted giving nature, and so have only so far desired to bottom. The rest is wide open and exciting (scary, but I tend not to be the fearful, jaded type) so mostly exciting!
I think in life, not just in D/s or M/s dynamic we each mold and shape one another just by human interaction. (I read that discussion too) I guess that has always been one of my views--that life is a process or journey in which every event, person and expereince shapes the path(s) followed. Definitions are handy for conversations and general points of commonality within a sub-culture, but experiemtation and openness can be a good thing too. Once I tend to "believe" or "know" something definitively, my blinders are on and I might miss some great opportunity from the periphery. (In the above I refer to relationship interactions, of course.)
As far as s/m play, who ever is participating should know how to do it, and as a bottom I should have some knowledge of what to expect..for obvious safety reasons. But to me a D/s relationship part takes care of a lot of the s/m part, since with trust edges can be pushed and exploration happens.
Since I am not a major masochist..(so far,) I tend to trust who ever is Topping me after we have visited/negotiated some. I have only played a few scenes in public venues,. There is soo much I want to explore in relationship as well as s/m activities, gradually, especially after atending a large function in Portland, OR. called Kinkfest the past 2 years, and watching sooo many interesting activities in the dungeon parties. <eg> It's kinda hard to do as a single though, so off I go to munches sometimes in a town 45 miles away, and here I am. *sigh*
I have been told by a Master/ freind of mine who I respect a lot, (and agree knowing myself and being no youngster,) that I am a pretty high functioning, smart, assertive, competent submissive. It is like I am now FULLY conscious that I have also been missing a huge blank spot by never having really had a D/s relationship. Oh, in my vanilla marriage I certainly served and pampered and gave, but they were not D/s per se. My desire to serve and be Dominated is also growing by leaps and bounds. <g> I am so glad there seem to be many subs like me who have found a Dominant partner(s.)
Thank you for your thoughts! ~oblige
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