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RE: Copy Machine - 5/22/2008 4:09:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
"Baggage" is a rationalization for anticipating future failure. People don't come with "baggage" they come with experience; some good - some bad - most neutral.

Thank you! This really needed to be said.

i would like to add that most creatures, including humans, will travel in the direction they are looking. Keep looking backward and you're extremely apt to repeat the past.

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RE: Copy Machine - 5/22/2008 5:23:49 AM

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i'd like to think my baggage is a small Louis Vuitton matching set. Honestly, i've known some Doms whose baggage was 2 army issue duffel bags and a Hefty Lawn and garden trash bag....it goes both ways, i'm just sayin'.....

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RE: Copy Machine - 5/22/2008 10:23:52 PM

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Thank you constrictor. It is hard to ask something here in writing because it can be taken in so many ways. You think that you have thought out your question then see the different types of answers. I did'nt mean to imply that baggage was a bad thing. Some types of baggage can be worked thru. Seeing that personalities vary some people won't accept any baggage.

*nods* i'm 44. i've been married (and divorced) twice. i didnt fall off the tater truck last night, i've had a wee bit of experience in life. i'm not perfect (hence the two divorces) but i keep trying. that's the important part as i see it.

i think its not so much "people come with baggage/experience" as much as "can i deal with the baggage/experience that this person is carrying along with them". how does this person deal with that plaid trunk they're dragging around with them? if i do something like their ex/sibling/parent/family member did, are they going to react to me or to the feelings that those memories evoke?

i have a few triggers, i admit. i'm also self aware enough to say "i'm reacting to a memory, give me a minute or two" instead of getting all up-in-arms at the person i'm with. and i tend to discuss those triggers well beforehand, so that my reaction (if any) isnt a shock.

i'd absolutely be willing to consider a dominant that already knew what he was doing, why wouldnt a dominant be willing to do the same?

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RE: Copy Machine - 5/22/2008 10:34:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

This thought came to me while I was at the copy machine this morning. I notice a lot of post on here from old subs/slaves on here saying that they can't find a Dom/Domme. I don't mean age wise just the ones who have been around here for a while. Seems most of them have had past relationships with Dom/Dommes already.

My question is does it influence your dession to pass them over because they have had a relationship with another Dom/Domme.

Only if they expect me to be just like a past partner-and cannot get over themselves with it.

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RE: Copy Machine - 5/23/2008 4:00:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Only if they expect me to be just like a past partner-and cannot get over themselves with it.

My thought is that if I wanted a past partner, he wouldn't be a "past partner". We would still be "present partners". Past is past for reasons. I go forward, not backward.

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