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GregorianChant -> HELP! I'm losing my faith in kinky humanity! (5/14/2008 7:27:39 PM)
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I have to get something off of my chest: I'm getting REALLY tired of several groups of lifestyle people. I encounter them with painful regularity, and my feelings towards them worry me. I always made a point of seeing the validity in other peoples viewpoints, kink, and who they were in general. This is getting harder and harder. I was raised to view everyone as equals- and I actually can't stand people who believe their kink to be better than someone elses. This is however not about kink at all- this is about WHO we are... Not simply what we do or have done to us by our significant others in the bedroom.
There have been a few contributing factors in my gradual loss of faith in kinky humanity. I apologize for the bitch thread I'm making, and I genuinely hate whining- but I really would like to have my faith in people restored.
First- and I know this will seem childish to some older lifestyle people (Ironically the people who will find this childish are probably the people to whom I refer)- I'm getting tired of being condescended to by older lifestyle people. At this point I've been in the lifestyle full time for coming up on five years. Granted some of you out there have been involved for 15-20 years... And have a HUGE amount of experience. That being said it's not that hard to wield a flogger- and the more squishy parts of BDSM include a tremendous amount of talent- not merely experience.
Second- I'm getting genuinely sick of watching perfectly good subs harrassed into a foxhole by imbeciles. When I say imbecile I mean a grown adult who has discovered that submissives are far more likely to put up with their horrible body odor, lacking social skills, and general evil nature than vanilla girls. These parasites latch onto the fact that submissives tend to feel the need to be needed more than the general norm- and usually fuck their lives up but good.
Third- I'm getting really tired of perfectly good doms being damaged by codependent flaky submissives. I have bad news, my definition of submission (and yes- in my world my definition of submission is the one that matters.. not yours dearie) does not involve my caring for someone who doesn't have a scrap of willpower to do for themselves. I'm a sadist not a knight in shining armor. I want to manage my girls life, NOT micromanage it. I don't have time to tell you when to eat, sleep, shit, or go to work. I'm here to help you become the best person you want to be. You have to want it.
Mainly I'm just tired of having my insecurities triggered by hanging out with losers who happen to have discovered kink. I have a good job, I go to work nearly every day, I go to school, and I manage to maintain a 24/7 relationship with my slave. I like my friends to be the same sort of people. I'm not saying that kink should be some sort of exclusive club- and I'm not saying that money is a measure of a persons quality. I'm saying that this life is hard otherwise everyone who was turned on by it would be doing it. Everyone else out there like me- don't lose hope.. The only thing you have in common with that guy in the "I'm with stupid" t-shirt and makeup is handcuffs somewhere in your apartment.
Edited to make my intro make sense.
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