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OmegaG -> keeping it secret (5/1/2008 8:15:32 AM)
As the time draws nearer to my relocation closer to m'Lord, I'm excited that we will be able to have more day to day contact, but I'm also becoming more increasingly aware that we are going to have new hurdles. Thus far our visits have been planned kidless, on the weekends that he is child free and mine have stayed at home. When we are closer to each other there may be times when there are kids in close proximity and if we chose to abstain completely during those times, I am sure that we'd both be pretty dissatisfied. So, this is mainly for those who have small-fry underfoot (and some not so small, mine is old enough to put the pieces together and figure out the facts of life). What are some of the creative ways that you've developed to continue to have the romance, kink, and sex that you desire while keeping the ankle biters blissfully unaware?

DominantJenny -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 8:31:48 AM)
Quickie response (oh, there's a pun there!): Mine are young enough that we pretty much just wait till they're asleep. There are, of course, all sorts of under-the-table type things, the same sort one would find in a vanilla relationship just with that kinky twist, that people do. (Whispering in ears, literal under-the-table groping, etc.) I think parenting is half keeping them close and half trying to get them to go someplace else so you can enjoy each other in peace. :P

GabrielleSlave -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 8:48:26 AM)
Master and i are lucky that my Ums are small enough to be in bed by about 7.30pm! They are also very good sleepers lol! A lock on the bedroom door is also a MUST! Also because Master and i are separated (i am divorced) i have weekends when i don't have the children and so does He....blissful lol! Even when the kids are around (His are older than mine) Wwe can still do some M/s things and they have all got used to me sitting at His feet as quite frankly with 5 children between Uus sometimes sofa space is hard to come by anyway lol! There are ways and means of carrying on a 24/7 D/s relationship in the most vanilla of surroundings i feel, Yyou just have to be creative. Good luck and i wish Yyou both all the happiness in the world Gabrielle x

OmegaG -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 8:53:28 AM)
The sitting on the floor thing is easy when my son is around as my mother and sister tend to sit on the floor too (both my father and my BIL will play with the hair if it's accesible)-- so I don't worry about conotations with that, although his prodigy isn't used to it so he prefers that I sit on the sofa with her around. He went with me for the weekend visit this last time as we were looking at apartments and seeing the sights so he'll have an idea of where i'm uprooting him too. It was actually fun to have both of them play with my hair. purrrrrrrr It's going to be different with the loss of freedom to be totally spontanious, but I'm sure we'll get it sorted out.

Dnomyar -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 8:57:29 AM)
You move to Michigan where the kids can fish, hunt ,play in the snow. Never lose the freedom of total spontanaity.

OmegaG -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 9:00:16 AM)
heh, I'm actually moving away from a place where there are free busses that will take my kid downtown to the free museums and comic book stores to a small town-- he may get mobile after a while, after he grouses about how there is nothing to do anymore. Of course he's never around when I need him to take out the trash, but he won't leave when I want him gone-- kids! And I've been told that the there is great fishing there, but he's not buying it.

subtee -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 9:05:13 AM)
~FR Depending on their ages, I have found that all I have to do is suggest some "together time" and they vanish so fast the only thing you see is the door slamming shut. "Hey guys, let's play Scrabble or start a puzzle or paint somethi---... guys?"

Dnomyar -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 9:08:33 AM)
tee next time I will not slam the door.

subtee -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 9:09:56 AM)
Don't run away, Ray! [Edited to add, even though I will pummel your ass in Scrabble [sm=boxer.gif]] tee hee

Dnomyar -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 9:17:12 AM)
Like Im afraid. I have been hit by girls before. Omega enjoy them while you can they will be gone before you know it.

OmegaG -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 9:25:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee ~FR Depending on their ages, I have found that all I have to do is suggest some "together time" and they vanish so fast the only thing you see is the door slamming shut. "Hey guys, let's play Scrabble or start a puzzle or paint somethi---... guys?" Now-- that might just work.

Mercnbeth -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 10:46:45 AM)
quote: What are some of the creative ways that you've developed to continue to have the romance, kink, and sex that you desire while keeping the ankle biters blissfully unaware? first off, this slave put romance, kink and desired sex on the back burner until they were well into the double digits. could be a major reason why no relationship she had up to that point survived. they came first. however, once they were in double digit territory, this slave encouraged and required them to develop their own interests and activities that required minimal, if any, parental involvement. they were also repetitively lectured about how they will all too soon have lives of their OWN, flying from the nest, as this slave did the above encouraging and requiring. after awhile, it sunk in, because they must, at some point, allow you to have a life of your choosing, as they go about discovering themselves and following their path. best of luck to you![:)]

xxblushesxx -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 10:56:58 AM)
Omega, I know you asked this quite innocently, but every time I've asked this I've been a. skewered by people who believe that a responsible parent doesn't even think about kink during the oh so important task of parenting. (even if no one else ever watches your kids) b. had my thread pulled due to it being against tos.

Dnomyar -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 11:16:58 AM)
The tos must have a hell of a dead thread pile by now.

persephonee -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 11:29:25 AM)
my child is well under the double digit age range and i live in cramped quarters....also, at the last bbq we were invited to, one of my Doms put his hand on my back while i was at the sink and my son came up and asked pointedly..."why are you touching MY Mommy?"...a touch Damian-esque. So i will be following this thread closely. Of course i do not play at home while my son is home, but eventually, if a live-in situation would arise, i can see already that im going to need some assistance in this area. My friends who have children behave much the same as mentioned by others here in the common areas of the house and no one including myself as a guest even pays attention....sitting on the floor at someones feet isnt necessarily an out of place thing to be seen doing in a casual setting...more of a display of affection...but i do have concerns about noise levels and disruptive things like that...All i know for sure is you can not unring a bell and my personal life is a bell that i would prefer my son to never hear. Unrealistic as it is...

KatyLied -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 11:43:35 AM)
I would suggest making friend in the neighborhood and trading overnights with other families. This way the kids have fun with their friends during sleepovers and the adults have privacy. And it's a low cost solution that can be bartered with other adults who long for some privacy.

OmegaG -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 11:51:25 AM)
That is a very good idea. I've babysat for married friends for date night but never actually worked out a schedule that was mutally beneficial.

ProfJoe -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 12:03:32 PM)
Beware the deep stench of the teenage years. We have a 16 y o um called Swamp Thing whose bog is down wind of ours. I'd counted on this as a time in her life when she couldn't wait to get out of the house. Unfortunately, like many of the folk on her, her "life" is more online than out of the house, so our spontaneity has taken a terrible hit. But some creativity has helped a bit, so long as I think it out ... and fortunately I love the mindfuck which works well in silence. There's always the park ... not much good for outright wrasslin' sex, but plenty good for teasing her and occasional spankings. I pulled into an abandoned subdivision (building bust, y'know) and lowered the seats. Don't tell her but next time she's gonna get a whuppin over the trunk lid of the car. I'm also big on voice training and can get in her head and make her come anytime we're alone, and most of the time in the movie theater, w/o touching her. That's a lot of fun. I'm working on loosening her up sufficiently in restaurants, but there's too much chance of distraction and she tightens up a lot. Of course, there's always the good ol motel for the more vigorous play when $$ allows. Most of all, at the bottom of the desktop I have a counter. Today it is 761 days till Swamp Thing finds her own bog to destroy! Meanwhile, tonight I want to wake her around 3:30 or so ... I have these nipple clamps and an interest in some oral service. But we'll have to see what 3:30 brings and if how bad a day she's had at work. Best wishes on your adventure -- creativity is the watch word. Prof Joe

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 1:02:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OmegaG What are some of the creative ways that you've developed to continue to have the romance, kink, and sex that you desire while keeping the ankle biters blissfully unaware? if mine find the hanging file folders missing and my bedroom door closed, they know not to disturb me while i'm on the phone with my pet. HOWEVER, it doesn't always work that way because my 6yr old daughter decides it's "mommy and me" time. she likes being attached to my hips and conversation but she's gradually learning mommy does need alone time ...far far far away from her. now my teen - she's not oblivious to anything about Daddy and my pet but doesn't butt her nose into my love life anf private affairs.

KnightofMists -> RE: keeping it secret (5/1/2008 1:25:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OmegaG So, this is mainly for those who have small-fry underfoot (and some not so small, mine is old enough to put the pieces together and figure out the facts of life). What are some of the creative ways that you've developed to continue to have the romance, kink, and sex that you desire while keeping the ankle biters blissfully unaware? lock the bedroom door as far as having the sexual intimacy... but I assure you... my young that are old enough have the pieces put together..... and I am not sure what the problem with that is. Today... I learned that a friend of my eldest is pregnant. My daughter was very disappointed in her friend. I am raising my young to be aware of choices they might make and the consequences to those choices. Fortunately my daughter at 15 understands that this choice has very serious consequences that is not to her benefit. She is making a different choice.. she is also learning how to show affection/romance in a constructive and enjoyable manner with consequences she can control and handle. She is learning responsible behavior. I suggest that you consider what is appropriate for your young to know... and if they can do it... they better know it... regardless if you want them to do so or not. It's not the knowing that is the problem... it's not knowing HOW to deal with it that is the problem.

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