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Labia -> Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 2:32:22 AM)

My Master loves to have anal sex with me. Up until recently I didn't find it an issue. Something had triggred me into not relaxing as of late and I find it terribly painful when he pushes himself into my sphincter and starts the pistion action. It has become so much of an issue that I don't want to sleep in the same bed and he is fraustrated that I don't want it cause it hurts. He has tried a bit to sooth me. From massaging my back, squeezing my breasts. To hurting me in other ways to take my mind of the internal pain of his penis inside my sphincter. Like grabbing a fistful of my hair and twisting it from my sclap to spanking me.
It is getting so bad that the last time I told him to stop he got the shitz and muttered he was about to come and he had to stop.
I want to relax like I used to so it can be enjoyable for me and him.
I have been considering on getting a buttplug just a small one to wear for a short period during the day. Hopefully to get used to it. Is this a good idea? Or is there a good numbing cream to put around the sphincter?



JonasW -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 3:29:01 AM)

I'd be careful about numbing cream...if applied, you possibly don't feel, if something gets injured.

I have made good experiences with long periods of massages around your anal region, widening with fingers or toys (start with smaller diameters) and a lot of lubricant. Try to relax and ask him not to force everything to end with penetration. Perhaps, if you don't have the pressure to be taken anal...perhaps that might help.

I had a gf that loved to finger herself in that region, she even masturbated that way and I never met such a relaxed asshole again in my life till now ;)
Play around with yourself, explore that region. Then I think you'll might feel, that the good feelings dominate.

Don't forget lubricant...



Madame4a -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 5:26:28 AM)

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thetammyjo -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 5:53:33 AM)

If it used to be ok with you and now it hurts, I'd suggest seeing a doctor.

You may also want to review together the steps you used to take before and compare them now -- do you use the same amount of lube, has your diet changed, etc.



abcbsex -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 7:49:00 AM)

the same thing happened to me for a while, it's like my ass just said, "nope! show's over!" and wouldn't budge. I eventually was able to relax it again by masturbating and stimulating my anus at the same time. That way, good feelings were associated with it instead of the pain that would come from any attempt at anal sex. Then after a while of just teasing the outside, I pushed a little further in while masturbating, and over time was able to move up to a butt plug with minimal pain. So, I'd recommend the buttplug but only after you work on it a little bit with just your fingers, and make sure to get yourself horny before you put it in. Another thing he can help with is loosening your anus with his finger while you're having sex, he might not be so discouraged if he's part of the solution!

Best of Luck!



ResidentSadist -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 7:56:08 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Labia
I have been considering on getting a buttplug just a small one to wear for a short period during the day. Hopefully to get used to it. Is this a good idea? Or is there a good numbing cream to put around the sphincter?
Using a buttplug for anal training is a tried and true path to success.  If you use the cream or other drugs the anesthetic can mask the pain from damage being done.  ou may get yourself some hemorrhoids in the deal.  In fact, if you now have pain and didn’t uses to, perhaps you should take the advice of thetammyjo and go see a doctor.



DesFIP -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 9:21:16 AM)

Go to the doctor stat. If this is suddenly turning painful there must be a reason. I'm guessing internal hemorrhoids. Colonorectal specialist, ask your primary for a referral.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 9:40:00 AM)

Is the pain generalised or in one specific spot that doesn't vary.  Does it hurt when you have a bowel movement? If the answer is yes, then you may have an anal tear or fissure, and should see a doctor. Don't use numbing cream - if there is damaged tissue it could get worse if you can't feel pain.

If the answer to the above questions is no, then try the butt plug. It should help loosen the anal muscle.



MladyHathor -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 9:52:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Go to the doctor stat. If this is suddenly turning painful there must be a reason. I'm guessing internal hemorrhoids. Colonorectal specialist, ask your primary for a referral.


I recommend what Des has said here, as those pesky hemos can reside inside--however, anal relaxation takes mental work as well---sometimes the mind isn't in gear ( like labor pains)---so if you check out ok, check out a lamaze tape on breathing and relaxation--the first few times Master needs to realize its an effort but after that you should be back in groove.



SteelofUtah -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:01:41 AM)

You may be experincing a structural tear of the Outer Sphinxter It is like chapped lips the tears will be there untill you let them heal however you want them to heal and still be able to have anal sex and so the best advise is to do what has already be suggested.

Masturbate your Ass, Use Toys however a Butt Plug is NOT advised because it won't help stretch out the Structrual tears.

It will be a little painful and uncomfortable at first but USE LOTS OF LUBE or if you really wanna help it along Use Unscented Lotion. If you got this once so you know you can get it again. If it is important to you to keep up with this you should mausturbate your ass regularly.

My andi is currently going through a bout with this if you do nothing it will keep hurting if you want to enjoy it you will have to start to fix it and so that you know it will also be painful however I wouold suggest masturbating with something smaller than his penis and possible getting into Enema Cleaning as well as Keeping it clean will help in the healing process.

As Always

Steel



OmegaG -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:08:48 AM)

another thing that hasn't been considered, which admittedly is improbable at your age is a tumor.  I'm in the go see a doctor camp.



cjan -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:10:04 AM)

OP, you have gotten some good advice here, so far, and I suggest you follow it. However, once you've done so, perhaps you might consider donning a strapon and pegging your , ummm, Dom. That way, whether he is ready to cum or not, he may develop an appreciation and a li'l empathy, even, for the discomfort that it has caused you. I know, it's sooo unsubbly, yada, yada, but, it seems to me, what's good for the goose, etc....




ResidentSadist -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:21:02 AM)

Now that a 1,000 lbs of sensible advice has been dispensed, lets get to the silly and sarcastic stuff.  Try this to loosed your ass up:

Use Bengay as lube, it says it loosens tight muscles..  LOL



dawntreader -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:21:24 AM)

Seriously, see a doctor~



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:29:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cjan

OP, you have gotten some good advice here, so far, and I suggest you follow it. However, once you've done so, perhaps you might consider donning a strapon and pegging your , ummm, Dom. That way, whether he is ready to cum or not, he may develop an appreciation and a li'l empathy, even, for the discomfort that it has caused you. I know, it's sooo unsubbly, yada, yada, but, it seems to me, what's good for the goose, etc....




OMG!! That made my day!![sm=passthelube.gif]



abcbsex -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 10:33:32 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: cjan

OP, you have gotten some good advice here, so far, and I suggest you follow it. However, once you've done so, perhaps you might consider donning a strapon and pegging your , ummm, Dom. That way, whether he is ready to cum or not, he may develop an appreciation and a li'l empathy, even, for the discomfort that it has caused you. I know, it's sooo unsubbly, yada, yada, but, it seems to me, what's good for the goose, etc....





This backfired for me... it wasn't a strap on but I had been complaining that our butt plug had a painful bump or imperfection... so once when I was gone all day, Alpha tried it on himself... After that he didn't have much sympathy but we still got a higher quality buttplug. Now I just have the excuse that I have a dainty lady ass and his is tough and manly.



xbutterflyx -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (4/30/2008 12:00:13 PM)

See a doctor ASAP!

After a clean bill of health is obtained, i would try a small and very pliable plug. It "gives" somewhat and lotsa lube. Also, bearing down helps open and relax those rather tight and strong muscles "there".

Trust me on this: "Not all plugs are the same."


xbx



Labia -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (5/1/2008 12:15:13 AM)

Hey guys Thanks for all your wonderful feedback.  When I do Bowel movements it is just as usual.   I am however going to the doctor on Monday. So I'll just tell you how it goes. :)



SubJordanTyler -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (5/1/2008 11:19:35 PM)

I tend to agree - go to the doctor.  I've had tears and such before from some pretty extreme and rough anal play, and I will just go to the doc if it's bad enough.  I would try and train with buttplugs of different sizes.  Stretch your asshole out by working your way up among the different sizes.



babygurl4daddy -> RE: Should I wear a buttplug or use numbing cream? (5/2/2008 3:49:58 PM)

umm, time for a new dom that will respect you. i love being a babygirl... daddies are so sweet yet very strict and take care of you in every way.



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