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RE: Dom/Sub Intimacy - 5/3/2008 4:40:33 PM

vampchick88

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It is basic psychology that everyone tends to act differently depending on who they are around, family, friends, co-workers, etc. I know that I don’t let everyone see exactly who I am in every day life, although there are small pieces in every scenario that I’m in. pet has seen the full picture, he has seen the fun goofy me to the other extreme the Domme in me. Over time I’ve learned that I can relax and by myself, he has seen sides of me that no one has seen. He sees it all, it is very intimate when I can open up and be my complete self. I think it’s a wonderful thing that I’ve found pet and can be this comfortable to let all guards down in my life. ~Lorelei

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RE: Dom/Sub Intimacy - 5/3/2008 10:27:01 PM

EnferCatin

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Playing out sexual fantasies is great, but in the end it's all role playing. Really, he's not my Master, I may call him that, but if I decide to leave - guess what? I can. He is a role player as am I. True, I may also call him Husband and that is a role, but it's a role based in reality. There is a legal document to prove it. The State stands behind it as does society in general. That is simply not the case for his Master status.

To be a real Master one must have real, undisputable power over another He may be my Master in my heart, but once I dispute his hold on me, there is no one that will back his claim to regain me.

We are playing, and when role playing displaces reality it gets in the way true intimacy, it can only be anathema to anything real when the ones playing the parts can't distinguish play from fantasy.

I don't think we are the who are lucky. Our fantasy lives are so profound and intense that the sheer power of our ability to play them out often gets in the way of building lasting, fulfilling relationships.

I look at it the same way I look at my friend who is addicted to World of Warcraft. If he were so lucky as to be able to jump into the computer and actually become his character, he may never come back - but nothing he did would ever be real again.

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RE: Dom/Sub Intimacy - 5/5/2008 4:24:57 PM

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to often intimacy and sex are used interchangeably. but sex is a act and intimacy is based on trusting your partner knowing all that will/can harm you and trusting them not to use it. for me i find that trust is hard won. for me i have been hurt greatly in the past and so i don't like to expose myself to the pain. i have many acquaintances but few real Friends. i have found with my Dom/sub relationship that i can trust without fear again. i trust my wife and my M'Lady fully and hide nothing from them i am very intimate with both of them and can have sex with only one of them. all of us have a facade that we use to shield ourselves with, its learning that we don't need it thats the hard part.

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