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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 1:31:04 AM   
SNoB


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ORIGINAL: spinninsweetness

I agree wholeheartedly- I have gotten 'told off' for viewing the profile of a slave that I accidently clicked on. Her Dom decided to message me telling me not too- well dont have it if you dont want viewing!



I would have made it a point to view that profie every day.

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 2:19:49 AM   
madshysoul


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ORIGINAL: SNoB

quote:

ORIGINAL: spinninsweetness

I agree wholeheartedly- I have gotten 'told off' for viewing the profile of a slave that I accidently clicked on. Her Dom decided to message me telling me not too- well dont have it if you dont want viewing!



I would have made it a point to view that profie every day.



Same here. Small-dick-syndrome should -not- be rewarded with demand-compliance.


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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 2:31:27 AM   
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< Message edited by spinninsweetness -- 4/25/2008 2:34:16 AM >

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 2:33:13 AM   
spinninsweetness


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ORIGINAL: spinninsweetness

quote:

ORIGINAL: madshysoul

quote:

ORIGINAL: SNoB

quote:

ORIGINAL: spinninsweetness

I agree wholeheartedly- I have gotten 'told off' for viewing the profile of a slave that I accidently clicked on. Her Dom decided to message me telling me not too- well dont have it if you dont want viewing!



I would have made it a point to view that profie every day.



Same here. Small-dick-syndrome should -not- be rewarded with demand-compliance.




I would keep going back, to annoy- but I cant be arsed.

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:09:12 AM   
ToysAndTies


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Status: offline 		Only once I received a message saying "remove me from your favorites" or something to that extent.  At the time, I was using the favorites like I would on a web-browser...they were people I thought were interesting whose profile I would read from time to time.  I didn't realize it popped up on there screen as "you have an admirer" or whatever til much later.

Anyone can view anyone, but one pet peeve of mine is when people clarify explicitly in their profile "I AM LOOKING FOR FRIENDS ONLY"  usually in caps, then when you view full, they are actively seeking everything under the sun.  If you only want friends, then Just click "Friends only" not the entire list.  Otherwise, the searches make no sense.  Cheers     

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:14:24 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		It is a profile, it is there to be looked at and there are many reasons to view them... most common being "Don't know them, who are they?", closely followed by "Interesting post they wrote... who are they?".

Someone doesn't want to be viewed... don't have a profile, if you have one, you will be. Thats life, deal with it.

One thing I will say regarding those that are Owned... it is far clearer to have that stated right at the top of the profile rather than tucked away at the end as if you are ashamed of it. At the top it is far more likely to be noticed (not that some bother reading at all... but block soon sorts that out)


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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:36:40 AM   
MzMia


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......IF someone posts a profile on the internet and wonders why someone "dares"
to look at it, take it for what its worth!.....

 

I even added to my profile--that I enjoy looking, and I will continue to look at every single profile I can.

If you don't want someone to "view" your profile, take your profile down, simple as that.
The only thing I don't like is, those that insist on sending emails BECAUSE you looked at their profile.
I am going to stop answering those emails, I don't have to exchange emails because I look at your profile, for gosh sakes!

Lets see I will put my picture and profile on the world's largest BDSM site and go bonkers
because people look at it?

< Message edited by MzMia -- 4/25/2008 4:51:03 AM >

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:40:26 AM   
MzMia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SNoB

quote:

ORIGINAL: spinninsweetness

I agree wholeheartedly- I have gotten 'told off' for viewing the profile of a slave that I accidently clicked on. Her Dom decided to message me telling me not too- well dont have it if you dont want viewing!



I would have made it a point to view that profie every day.

I have a few that I make a point of looking at often, just to fuck with their minds.
lol 




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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:41:59 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		I certainly don't send a mail to everyone who views My profile, but sometimes them looking draws My attention to them and one looking at theirs I see something I wish to comment on, so I do.

But I don't automaticaly assume that because someone reads My profile they are interested in a relationship. As I say above, The most common reason people are likely to view any profile is that it caught their eye and are curious enough to look further. If they see anything that does draw their interest them they would memo!

< Message edited by RavenMuse -- 4/25/2008 4:42:23 AM >

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:53:14 AM   
Evility


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ORIGINAL: MzPatti4femslave
Are there others here, like me, who would like a little twist in the sites setup. Something that you can do, when searching, that won't bring up those that are owned. Like the option we have of sex, orientation, location, etc?


That is actually a pretty good idea. I read another recent thread by a male submissive who wanted a way to filter out pro dommes who are looking for customers. A couple quick check boxes could solve both of these issues.

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 4:53:19 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 5:07:01 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		I don't mind my profile being viewed, it happens, since I post in the forums regularly. Where I (and my master) have problems, is where I am contacted by a dominant who wants to get to know me better, not us, just me. Or has happened recently, where a sub wanted to get to know my Master but not me, yet kept looking at my profile. Ummm, it's ok to say hello - I don't bite heads off. Much. Unless it's warranted. *winks* Or someone who views my profile multiple times without saying "hello, just looking".  My profile does state that I'm owned, right up front and I never did say I was actively looking for anything since I just joined for the forums. Finding my master was a shock and totally unexpected.

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 5:11:28 AM   
MzMia


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ORIGINAL: LadyRainfire

I don't mind my profile being viewed, it happens, since I post in the forums regularly. Where I (and my master) have problems, is where I am contacted by a dominant who wants to get to know me better, not us, just me. Or has happened recently, where a sub wanted to get to know my Master but not me, yet kept looking at my profile. Ummm, it's ok to say hello - I don't bite heads off. Much. Unless it's warranted. *winks* Or someone who views my profile multiple times without saying "hello, just looking".  My profile does state that I'm owned, right up front and I never did say I was actively looking for anything since I just joined for the forums. Finding my master was a shock and totally unexpected.


I understand your points, you made them well.
But does someone HAVE to say "Hello" because they view you multiple times?
This is the part I don't understand, if someone views you every day 50 times, do they need to ever
say anything?
Help me out here, this is what I really don't understand.
 
These profiles might as well be pictures in a magazine, that is how many view this site.
Profiles and pictures to read and look at, nothing more and nothing less.

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 5:13:41 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		they can view but cannot touch ...sometimes i view back or merely delete the name off the list - problem solved

< Message edited by sambamanslilgirl -- 4/25/2008 5:14:11 AM >

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 5:36:49 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		I figure if you're viewing my profile regularly, then either you see something we have in common or that you like. So why not show some courtesy or courage and just say "hello, I see we both like sewing" or whatever. I've dropped a line to people I know from the forums where I say "hello, just checking your profile based on a comment on the such and such thread". It only takes a minute and gives a quick explanation as to why I viewed them. It then gives the opportunity for us to either further talk more or not, the choice is theirs. Likewise if you cmail me. 

But do you HAVE to say hello? Nope - it's all about the choice....  

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 5:37:05 AM   
dawntreader


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Covers my privates with my hands (mmm 2 hands to cover a whopper). Don't peek please.


Oh my!!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 hands?

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 5:51:06 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		I take it as a complement when someone reads my profile. pro bably 75% who do read it, do so because of something I have posted. Mostrly I pop over and read theirs too. If I like a profile I'll send a note congratulating them on it, even if someone has said they are taken or want female contact only or what ever. never been told some was upset or insulted by a complement..

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(A Victorian Lifestyle poly home)

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 6:13:06 AM   
LadyRainfire


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Status: offline 		Sheesh, I need to work on my caffeine intake this morning, I just had another thought. (And no, it wasn't too lonely, I do have them on occasion!)

A lot of times, people take reading a profile as a sign that someone is interested in you, unless it's someone who posts regularly to the forums. When Joe Blow, who has never posted to the forums looks at me and then I get the message "I'm looking for a LTR with a slave who has no limits", well, what am I to think? Someone didn't read the first line of my profile or doesn't read the forums.  At least when I get that kind of message and I can see that they've never read my profile, I just tell them to read the profile then block them if they keep bugging me. *grins*

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 7:23:06 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Welllllllllllll I hope that some of you dont take this the worng way. But I will click on a profile as a short cut to get to my messages to avoid having to come back to the room the long way.

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RE: Reading profiles... - 4/25/2008 7:43:07 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		A long while ago, I had gotten blasted for viewing this chicks profile. She was an owned straight slave.  I didn't send her a note or anything, just thought she was incredibly beautiful and liked what she had written in her profile. She sent me an email telling me to never look at her profile again.  I responded not by email, but by proceeding to look at her profile every chance I got.  (yes I know that it's childish, but I couldn't help myself. *snickers*) She even (or so I suspect, don't have proof.) came up with a another profile, (a Male Dom.) who wrote to me, saying to stop. I wrote back asking if she had any mental problems, or was pregnant or anything like that. He said "no"  I said "well then, I will view anyone on this site that I feel like. Though I did drop it down to once a week or so. She left the site a few months later.  Later on, (from a cm friend.) there was a female slave that was blasting ladies on viewing her profile, and that it was rumored that her Master was thinking of having her have sex with another woman, preferably a switch or Domme.  My friend couldn't remember the girls nic, but I'm pretty sure that it's her.

I do that too, Ray

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