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MzPatti4femslave -> Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 10:35:51 PM)

I am curious as to how many get messages, where you are cussed for looking at a profile of an owned submissive/slave? I have not had such messages, but have read some journal entry rants regarding such. These were the entries of those that are owned. Asking...why am I being viewed when it clearly states that I am owned? In my opinion, if you don't want to be looked at then take down your profile. If it's there, we are under the impression that we can read it. I am anyway, but I am always interested in how others live.  Are there others here, like me, who would like a little twist in the sites setup. Something that you can do, when searching, that won't bring up those that are owned. Like the option we have of sex, orientation, location, etc? I am just curious if there are others who feel like I do. Thanks.



Leatherist -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 10:41:48 PM)

They are probably just tired of the wankmasters. Let it go.



phoenixinchains -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 10:44:26 PM)

i don't feel CM needs to change their site for that problem. i'm owned and am fine if others view my profile. i have wrote that i am owned, and will not repond to men. if a male does write to me, it goes to my bulk mail. i read them, because some of those messages are just plain funny, and delete.

i can't reason that someone would be offended if an owned slave's profile was simply viewed. but i'm not everyone. now if someone viewed and wrote an unkind message, then i could see getting a nasty message back.



SNoB -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 10:57:49 PM)

I really dont view that many profiles, but I will laugh if I get a nasty message for viewing one of someone that is "owned" to me that means a "dom" has been reading to much shit on the internet and they are a huge fake.

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ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains

i don't feel CM needs to change their site for that problem. i'm owned and am fine if others view my profile. i have wrote that i am owned, and will not repond to men. if a male does write to me, it goes to my bulk mail. i read them, because some of those messages are just plain funny, and delete.

i can't reason that someone would be offended if an owned slave's profile was simply viewed. but i'm not everyone. now if someone viewed and wrote an unkind message, then i could see getting a nasty message back.


So you delete mail from men, even if its actually to be friendly?  



Leatherist -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:03:24 PM)

Or that he's gotten annoyed at the hosers who keep writing and dissing him to his girlfriend.




phoenixinchains -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:07:19 PM)

yes, on my phoenixinchains account here. i'm fine with answering replies on the couple's account i share with my Master. on this account, i asked that males not write me. it's nothing personal, i jus find it saves me a lot of drama, becuase if i resonded to the nice and polite ones, and yes people do write nice polite kind letters to female slaves, than i'd feel compelled to to write to the people that are really mean. i don't need to get myself worked up over people who are just leading sorry lives and out to make everyone else miserable.

i reason that if someone is interested in friendship, they will read everything that is in my profile and figure out the account i will reply from.

this has worked for me so far, so why mess with a good thing?



phoenixinchains -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:14:36 PM)

Leatherist, what's a hoser?



crouchingtigress -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:15:02 PM)

folks get bees in their bonnets for all sorts of reasons i have found, and its not healthy to take them seriously,

if some one actually takes the time to admonish other es for looking at them say in a letter or in a post, me thinks they protest too much...and are just looking for attention.



SNoB -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:16:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Or that he's gotten annoyed at the hosers who keep writing and dissing him to his girlfriend.



Writing to and viewing are two totally diffrient things. 



RumpusParable -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:17:07 PM)

It's like the males on the boards here who have felt the need to repeatedly express how straight they are because males have been viewing their profile:  Foolish and rather an ego-trip.

Common sense tells us that one can't know if another is owned unless they view their profile, whether short or full form. 

Same with whether a person is looking for same-sex partners, unless the person viewing specifically does a sexuality search... which also means nothing as not everyone feels their prefered sex partners factors into who they want to know as friends or play partners.

Then there's the entire aspect of looking at profile for completely non-partner-searching reasons like accidental clicking, interest in their forum posts, friendship seeking, passing time while waiting on another page to load, finding their username interesting, comparing profile styles, exploring some of the new search and profile options, just wanting to view pictures, general learning about the BDSM community for new or just new to this site, and on and on.



Leatherist -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:23:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains

Leatherist, what's a hoser?


Otherwise known as "asshats" or "fucktards".  Egocentric assholes.



Leatherist -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:25:11 PM)

Males look at my profile all the time. Including gay ones. There's a gay guy who posts here on my friends list.

He's there becuase I think he's a cool *person*-not because I expect to be having sex with him. Same as the gay friends I have in real life.



phoenixinchains -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/24/2008 11:27:07 PM)

Thank you. i am learning new things every day[:D]



SweetiePie26 -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 12:10:24 AM)

I think I would laugh if I got a nasty message for looking at someone's profile. i'll admit I look at profiles all the time, people on the boards and all, just because I like looking.



mnottertail -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 12:23:31 AM)

only want to see you laughing in the purple rain;
never wanted to be your part-time lover----

and I know, I know, I know-----






ownedgirlie -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 12:25:38 AM)

I honest to god do not understand why people get upset for their profiles being looked at.  If one does not want a profile viewed, then hide it!  It's bizarre to me, and actually not something I even care about understanding.

Sure, my profile gets looked at a lot.  I get some weird emails, too.  My name pretty much spells out that I'm owned, but some people either don't comprehend it or don't care.  I just don't answer.  Do I get upset?  Nope.  I get upset by real problems I encounter in life, but surely not by someone looking at my profile or even saying something about it. 



TJsCheekypet -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 12:28:42 AM)

i just figure if someone doesnt want thier profile looked at then why add stuff to it? Leave it blank to save yourself the trouble of getting annoyed when someone actually takes the time to view it! sheesh![sm=anger.gif]



madshysoul -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 12:28:52 AM)

*ponders* Can you even -tell- if someone is owned -without- viewing the profile?

In any case, if they're owned, and don't want to be found, then they should list as "Friends only". Then again, if they list as "Friends Only"... what's to say you aren't out just looking for friends? Just because a Dom/Domme views my profile I don't automatically assume they want to Own me... that's rather presumptive and arrogant on my part after all.

The only way I would respond rudely to an -email-, is if the email were rude to begin with. Aside from that, common courtesy and manners apply in all things. (Or maybe my momma just done raised me better...)



eyesopened -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 1:01:47 AM)

i've never been cussed for looking at a profile.  i've never cussed anyone for looking at mine.  It's a profile.  On a public website.  i have much larger events in my life to be concerned about.

Here's a hint for people who do not want a lot of unsolicited emails... It's not necessary to check anything at all in the "actively seeking" area.  Leave it blank.  That way you won't show up on people's search criteria. 



spinninsweetness -> RE: Reading profiles... (4/25/2008 1:16:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

Then there's the entire aspect of looking at profile for completely non-partner-searching reasons like accidental clicking, interest in their forum posts, friendship seeking, passing time while waiting on another page to load, finding their username interesting, comparing profile styles, exploring some of the new search and profile options, just wanting to view pictures, general learning about the BDSM community for new or just new to this site, and on and on.


I agree wholeheartedly- I have gotten 'told off' for viewing the profile of a slave that I accidently clicked on. Her Dom decided to message me telling me not too- well dont have it if you dont want viewing!

I also look at profiles of those who have viewed me, but didnt message. Not as some poor-me ego thing, just to see the type of people who want to look at me! And I've had appologies from one person, a Domme who viewed me than said sorry I was just looking....

Not that keen on the idea of knowing who you've viewed because I sometimes return to people I'm chatting with to refresh my memory.... and sometimes get emails about that too!



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