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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 2:01:49 PM   
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i haven't posted much and haven't figured out the quoting, plus i'm doing this from a mobile device. Please excuse me if it is formatted poorly. i'll learn.

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That is consistent with my observations.  From personal experience and from talking with other masochists, it seems common to find it difficult or impossible to speak while in intense pain (i doubt this is confined to masochists).  i suspect something happens in the brain that interferes with the speech centers.  This is specifically interesting to me because my Master requires verbal feedback while He is torturing me.  It has been quite a challenge learning to provide that.

i find that pain need be neither intense nor bound to any "object of great attachment" to be/become pleasure, though both facilitate this.  i truly enjoy and need pain, and can experience it as pleasure at almost any intensity and in a wide variety of situations.  Certainly the pain i find most pleasureable (among other things), is intense pain inflicted on me by my Master, to whom i definitely have a "great attachment," but this goes well beyond the physical sensation and involves, most notably, my Master's pleasure.


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An interesting idea.  Are you saying that an infant can experience pain and pleasure but not distinguish the two until maturing enough to place them in context?  If that is true, it would mean i was not born with "crossed wires", but just learned to understand pain differently from most people.  Interesting to contemplate, but i'll stop here before i get into a nature/nurture debate.

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 3:29:35 PM   
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Intense physical pleasure and intense physical pain do not simply resist language but actively destroy it, bringing about a reversion to a state anterior to language, to the sounds and cries a human being makes before language is learned.


"Destroy" is a little dramatic. You're welcome to it, of course. Do you think it serves here better than, say, inhibits, interrupts, temporarily supplants, or some other potential alternative?

Do you think humor destroys language too, laughter being not-very-linguistic and available  before verbal behavior? I don't think so, myself, certainly not necessarily. So much of our laughter is the result of understanding a punch line or something comparable. Even when laughing too hard to talk (reverting to a state anterior to language, externally) we might very well be processing and reprocessing the joke in ur heads, seeing yet more humor and laughing ever harder.

And awful lot of pain is comparable in impotant ways. News of the very bad fortune of a loved one can instantly inspire "pre"-verbal teeth-gnashing, sighs, moans and cries. Maybe sometimes we do disengage from our linquistic abilities in cases of this kind--and in soem cases of straightforward physical pain too.

So I suspect that sometimes your description is apt, I think the various sorts of exceptions can be interesting too.


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Unlike any other states of consciousness physical pleasure and physical pain can exist without referential content.


You can use words any old way you care to, so please go ahead. That said, the way you've used some here has hidden rather than revealed your intended meaning from me.

Is pain a state of consciousness in any familiar sense? I understand the assertion that pain (or pleasure) is a sensation. But State of Consciousness to me points toward something more wholistic. While in a given state of consciousness (awake, asleep, comatose, for instances) we may have sensations of pain or pleasure. I don't know what else yhou would want to rule in as states of consciousness.  Being alert? drowsy? stoned? sober?  Again, pain and pleasure seem available in all of these states and so discussing pain and pleasure as states of consciousness themselves seems to lead immediately into an unhelpful thicket of Nested States of Consciousness, or something.

Enough pain for enough time can activate body chemistry which will impact state of consciousness. That's for sure.But I can't understand sensations, or categories of sensation in this case, as states of consciousness. Maybe you can help me see it that way.

As for states of consciousness exisiting only with referential content, well I don't follow at all. Awake is a state of consciousness, right? What is the referential content of awake? Asleep? Some transcendental meditator in the so-called Alpha state ... what is the referential content of this state? I can't offer any comment until I have some idea of what you mean by these curious applications of familiar terms.


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Neither physical pleasure nor physical pain need be of or for anything


Okay. But, as opposed to what? I'm not disputing here. I just don't see what you're trying to highlight. Does "calm" need to be of or for anything in whatever sense you intend those terms?


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Often, intense physical pleasure will, if deprived of an object, begin to approach the neighborhood of pain.


Again, maybe I'm being dense but I don't know what you mean by something being the object of a pain. Can you elaborate, maybe with examples?

I've heard people say things like: "It feels so good it almost hurts" but I haven't ever been inspired to say this myself, that I can remember. I can sort of imagine something like a physical sensation so pleasant that it inspires someone to, I don't know, feel unworthy and therefore emotionaly conflicted in some way. Emotional conflicts are intelligibly described as painful sometimes. But does physical pleasure start to hurt?

Or maybe you're referring to some sort of overstimulation. One might not want to be touch just *there* anymore in the moments following orgasm, say. I can understand that as pleasure approaching the neighborhood of pain. Is that the sort of thing you had in mind?

All the while though, I think it ignores a whole lot too invest more than a little in the metaphor of pleasure and pain as exclusive neighborhoods. I don't even see the two words as naming a dichotomy except in certain ways which must be stated pretty carefully in order to hold up under scrutiny.


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And intense physical pain, when indissolubly bound to an object of great attachment, can flow into and out of the greatest pleasure.


Do you mean something other than "strongly" by indissolubly? I mean after the instance of pain ends and the couple go to sleep; go off to work the next day; meet new people; drift apart and eventually break up, mightn't that bond be dissolved?

If instead you're trying to describe an instance of pain which has as part of its own immediate architecture the relationship in which it is evoked, then I think you're right. And I think a few sorts of inverse-ish casles also obtain. The physical pleasure of sexual contact, occuring in a criminal rape, will not be felt unaffected by the context. What must meet one very circumscribed definition of pleasure will nevertheless be felt as something very far from pleasant.

Of course no indisoluable bonds to objects of great affection are required for the pain-as-pleasure alchemy. Some people love getting walloped by strangers. With the right sort of humiliation kink it might take someone repellant laying on the hands in order to transmogrify the pain to pleasure, wouldn't you think?


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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 3:47:54 PM   
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If that were comletely true, wouldnt we all be masochists?

WAIT, you understand what the OP is saying? Could you please translate, i didn't understand a word of this.
 
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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 3:54:01 PM   
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i am so glad i'm not the only one who is confused.. 

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 3:58:19 PM   
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I have a degree in gibberish and it's got me completely flumuxed!

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 4:02:32 PM   
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Ahhh i actually get it now.. pleasure and pain are contextual.. But the point of this thread is?

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 4:13:43 PM   
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Recognizing Odysseus' Scar: Reconceptualizing Pain and its Empathic Role in Civil Adjudication

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Dude, it is bad form to lift another persons research document without crediting it.
 
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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 4:39:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Recognizing Odysseus' Scar: Reconceptualizing Pain and its Empathic Role in Civil Adjudication

Jody Lynne Maderia.
 
Dude, it is bad form to lift another persons research document without crediting it.

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So you're thinking that
.youdidabadbadthing. is not Jody Lynne Maderia?

Thanks for the research. Maybe in context all the curious language got sorted out. I'm not betting my lunch money though.

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 4:53:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ididabadbadthing
Intense physical pleasure and intense physical pain do not simply resist language but actively destroy it, bringing about a reversion to a state anterior to language, to the sounds and cries a human being makes before language is learned.

> SO UR SAYIN DAT WHEN I BE CUMMIN' N' SHIT, DA WERDS OT OF MY MOUF ARE DA FIRST WERDS DAT MAN SPOKE?
 
YO,,, DAT SHIT IZ DOPE!!!!!!!!!

Unlike any other states of consciousness physical pleasure and physical pain can exist without referential content.

How?
 
Physical pleasure and physical pain always has a reason for occurring. Please explain what you mean and your reasoning behind it.

Neither physical pleasure nor physical pain need be of or for anything.

> Physical pleasure and physical pain always has a reason for occurring. Please explain what you mean and your reasoning behind it.

Often, intense physical pleasure will, if deprived of an object, begin to approach the neighborhood of pain.

> I disagree, unless you're talking about "blue balls".
 
How can a "object" feel pain?
 
I know a "subject" can, but then that would make it a "subjective" experience, now wouldn't it?

And intense physical pain, when indissolubly bound to an object of great attachment, can flow into and out of the greatest pleasure.

So people that are dying of cancer are flowing with intense pleasure? Yeah...
 
  I had to look up [indissolubly] in the dictionary; too bad it was a superfluous repetition of words!

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 5:01:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Recognizing Odysseus' Scar: Reconceptualizing Pain and its Empathic Role in Civil Adjudication

Jody Lynne Maderia.
 
Dude, it is bad form to lift another persons research document without crediting it.
 
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I wasted my fucking time.
 

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 5:41:41 PM   
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 Pain is a sensation we are hard wired to be averse to. However for a suitably powerful reward we will often endure pain. Intense pain also cause the body to release endorphins, creating an addiction for some people. BDSM can also cause the body to release adrenaline, again creating an addiction for some people.
Some subs are approximately the same person in a sense as the guy who plays football to get good looking girls with the exception that the football star is dominant in his sexual relationships.
I believe that the exteme difference between the sensations of pain and pleasure causes the pleasure to more enjoyable and more intense than simply pleasure alone, much as we use spices on our foods to change the taste instead of always eating bland food.

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/24/2008 6:30:34 PM   
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Uh.. what the hell did he say?




I dunno, but, I'm pretty sure he'd like to go back to the "preverbal" state. Works for me...*grunts*


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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/25/2008 2:17:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: impossiblesub

Pain is a sensation we are hard wired to be averse to. However for a suitably powerful reward we will often endure pain. Intense pain also cause the body to release endorphins, creating an addiction for some people. BDSM can also cause the body to release adrenaline, again creating an addiction for some people.
Some subs are approximately the same person in a sense as the guy who plays football to get good looking girls with the exception that the football star is dominant in his sexual relationships.
I believe that the exteme difference between the sensations of pain and pleasure causes the pleasure to more enjoyable and more intense than simply pleasure alone, much as we use spices on our foods to change the taste instead of always eating bland food.


Ummmm... qué?

Maybe i'm missing the point here somewhere but i don't see how this relates to the OP?


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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/25/2008 3:35:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ididabadbadthing

Intense physical pleasure and intense physical pain do not simply resist language but actively destroy it, bringing about a reversion to a state anterior to language, to the sounds and cries a human being makes before language is learned. Unlike any other states of consciousness physical pleasure and physical pain can exist without referential content. Neither physical pleasure nor physical pain need be of or for anything. Often, intense physical pleasure will, if deprived of an object, begin to approach the neighborhood of pain. And intense physical pain, when indissolubly bound to an object of great attachment, can flow into and out of the greatest pleasure.


Funny, I said those exact words to my submissive just the other day....
 
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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/25/2008 3:58:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: metalmiss

quote:

ORIGINAL: impossiblesub

Pain is a sensation we are hard wired to be averse to. However for a suitably powerful reward we will often endure pain. Intense pain also cause the body to release endorphins, creating an addiction for some people. BDSM can also cause the body to release adrenaline, again creating an addiction for some people.
Some subs are approximately the same person in a sense as the guy who plays football to get good looking girls with the exception that the football star is dominant in his sexual relationships.
I believe that the exteme difference between the sensations of pain and pleasure causes the pleasure to more enjoyable and more intense than simply pleasure alone, much as we use spices on our foods to change the taste instead of always eating bland food.


Ummmm... qué?

Maybe i'm missing the point here somewhere but i don't see how this relates to the OP?


Just my 2 cents about the subject of Pain and Pleasure.

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/25/2008 4:53:40 PM   
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so what quality of pain would be hooks through the skin and rope attached to it secured over a door and not allowed to move for an undetermined amount of time. Would that make the person a masochist....
 
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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/25/2008 4:58:17 PM   
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Ya know, my 100 post rule is a great suggestion. Can we get it incorperated into TOS?

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RE: Pain and Pleasure - 4/25/2008 5:24:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ididabadbadthing

Intense physical pleasure and intense physical pain do not simply resist language but actively destroy it,

Yer they stop the words coming out of MY mouth alright.
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bringing about a reversion to a state anterior to language,
also makes me feel like I am regressing backwards in time to before social language

to the sounds and cries a human being makes before language is learned......well sounds and cries in my opinion are a form of language but I understand how, if you think sounds and cries aren't language then yes you could make a statement like that

Unlike any other states of consciousness physical pleasure and physical pain can exist without referential content....this depends on how many changes of consciousness you have experienced. I have expeienced certain meditational states and certain drug induced states and certain ritualistic states that existed without referential content, usually by altering what my ego did with references....usually referred to in words that express being out of reference as in: far out, out of my head, off my trolley, out of my tree, outside the box, off the planet, up the wazoo......

Neither physical pleasure nor physical pain need be of or for anything. no they don't,  I agree, but usually they first occur as associated with something like danger, or accident, or illness, or punishment.....

Often, intense physical pleasure will, if deprived of an object, begin to approach the neighborhood of pain. ....I can't say that I have ever experienced physical pleasure without an object even if that object was centred on my own self as in mouth, or genitals or on something imagined, like god, but if the pleasure was associated with an object or a substance then yes i agree the pain of withdrawal is awful.......

And intense physical pain, when indissolubly bound to an object of great attachment, can flow into and out of the greatest pleasure... amd yes I also agree that often pain and pleasure get 'crossed' in certain circumstances, especially at the threshold of tolerance to a substance, or say in situations of deprivation when anything, even punishment becomes some sort of (pleasureable) attention....this is the root of masochism and when there is only the self as an object of pain then this is the root of self-harm as a form of control....

at least seven stages there, much like an abstract from a scientific theory on the innate stages of the formation of masochism........so? and? furthermore?
ed to add: yes there is a close link, for me, between god, googoogaga and my genitals


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