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RE: Non judgement - 4/12/2008 3:03:32 AM

kallisto

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Making a judgement call on something you feel is right or wrong is human nature. It is our way of completing our reasoning and thinking. Being judgemental regarding an action of others is also human nature. However, being judgemental and trying to force our beliefs on others is what causes problems. IMO. I try very hard to live by "just because it may not be right for me, has no bearing on whether it's right for you".

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RE: Non judgement - 4/12/2008 5:32:34 AM

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There is a big difference between giving an opinion and being judgemental..... unfortunatly all too often the former is reacted to as the latter.

There are many things around WIITWD that I don't personaly like... How questions about those things are phrased will determine how I answer.

"my Master wants to take me to a club and watch me suck off every stranger that asks for me"... maybe replied to with a basic "not My bag but if it floats your boat then fine and dandy"

If the same question is posed about if *I* would do something of that nature then the responce would be quite different, the answer would be from My perspective, My principles, the inherent danger *I* see to a girls self worth if such is done wrong, also the fact that I would get absolutely nothing from a bunch of john does getting a freebie with My property.

In the latter case, sure as egg's is egg's someone would react to it as a 'judgemental post'... yet it is far from it. It is a statement of opinion, a personal perspective. In relation to them and their actions directly, My attitude is the former, if I was being judgemental then thats where it would show, not in the latter statement of My PoV as relating to Me.

Why does such come up so often.... well We have far more to say about our personal PoV that We have about someone elses.... More can be said about the "not My bag" than about the "but if it works for you then great".

That isn't to say that I am not judgemental about everything, there are a few things where I am and I make no appologys about it...If people where honest there will always be SOME things each and every one of us ARE judgemental about..... even if only about judgemental people

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RE: Non judgement - 4/12/2008 7:44:43 AM

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I don't have a problem about judgements whether they are negative or positive. What I intensely dislike and try to avoid is when judgements are made based on assumptions. I like LA's comment, "good informed judgement making procedures". People tend to make assumptions regarding others and judging them on those assumptions.

I do form my own opinion about the people I meet and of the people that post to this board. It is based on my perception of what they present. There are many people that I read here and that I know face to face who do not fit into my definitions of the labels I use. What I say or don't say to them about it really depends on my relationship with them. Most times I say nothing because it has no bearing on my life and is irrelevant to theirs.

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RE: Non judgement - 4/12/2008 7:49:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

It is a statement of opinion, a personal perspective.

In order to arrive at an opinion, you make a judgement on what it means to be a human being.

It's inevitable that we will judge one another. We weigh up what it means to be a human being and shape our character accordingly. Inevitably, we are making a judgement call on what we see around us; as per the saying, "take the good and leave the bad" - this requires a judgement call.

Of course, you could quite easily say, "to each their own providing you don't step into my space"; this doesn't mean you're not sitting in judgement.

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RE: Non judgement - 4/12/2008 2:25:03 PM

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I'm very judgemental of Myself and others. On the other hand, I'm also very accepting. People don't have to think like Me and I'm very interested in knowing what they think.

What will make Me cringe are people who do not think or can't form a real opinion for themselves. That does pose Me a problem, but then again, it's their business, not Mine.

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