Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM?

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IXian -> Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 11:49:28 AM)
Seriously, I'm a bit surprised at the behavior of a certain user her on CM. The person in question sends me an threatening letter because I added her to my favorites list, and when I point out to her that my favorites list isn't hers to command she then insist I shouldn't even look at her profile. Well, now she says she and friends of her has reported me as a stalker. sigh Not that I'm particulary impressed or intimidated by such behaviour, she's definetively not on my favorites list anymore. And i do pity the people that has to deal with her IRL if this is how she behaves online. Seriously, don't people even read the http://www.collarme.com/personals/help.htm page before leaving their common sense behind? Oh well, I do know that this is a onesided representation. But back to the topic in question. Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? IXian.

colouredin -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 11:50:58 AM)
Not really, why waste your time with them? You can patronise them explain to them take the piss whatever but why would you want to unless you are having a bad day and want to rant.

Najakcharmer -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 11:54:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IXian Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? That would pretty much be it in a nutshell. There will always be wankers, time wasters and total nutjobs bugging people on the Internet. There's nothing you can do about it other than blocking their access to bug you.

OmegaG -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:00:45 PM)
Why would you want to have someone on your favorites list that didn't want to be there? Personally, everysingle man who has added me as a favorite had never sent me even one e-mail. I have little respect for these people and do consider them wankers and collectors. Were I to wake up on the wrong side of the bed one day, I may be inclined to ask them to remove me. If they retorted as you did, I'd know what quality man they were and I'd be through with them. I think you are acting strangely about this.

IXian -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:04:34 PM)
Now, first of all I have to apologize for posting this to the general bdsm section. But Thank's to the nice moderators for just moving it into the proper place for a Rant rather than slapping my wrists. Najakcharmer, colourdin: Your right, I really should known better. Thanks for your friendly replies. :) IXian.

hisannabelle -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:08:11 PM)
huh. personally i always think it's sweet and charming whenever someone adds me to their favorites; a few of them are people i've messaged with but most have never contacted me. and i just tend to add people i really, really adore for whatever reason from the forums, but don't necessarily have personal contact with. some people are just weird. but yes, block and ignore is the best method. :)

IXian -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:14:14 PM)
Oh, I don't want to have any such person on my favorites list so the person in question is quite and permanently gone from my listings . What I find strange is how people asume the viewer is a psyhic and therefore should know how the profileowner imagines what their admirer/favorite listing is about. And I've allways respected what people write in their profiles. IMHO Besides I'd rather not be aquainted withsuch narrowminded people. What irritates me is that they make assumptions about my intentions beyond "this might be an interesting person, let's add the to the favorites list and then review them before considering wheter i should write a well thought of message." In fact, doesn'tt such behaviour actually reward those that cut&paste canned responses because they won't need to use such reminders? IXian. <Edited to correct weird syntatic sugar> (Computer science joke.)

LaTigresse -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:23:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IXian Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? IXian. You can always go to the forums and start a thread with a childish hissyfit, whining about their behaviour. It seems to be the in thing to do.......

TwistedLeather -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:25:08 PM)
laugh, and get some personal amusement out of their own lack of common sense? i don't get offended, i find humor. When someone rants and insults me, i can't help but laugh. Besides, it gives me the perspective that some of my issues... aren't nearly as bad as other people's are!

KatyLied -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:44:58 PM)
quote: You can always go to the forums and start a thread with a childish hissyfit, whining about their behaviour. It makes me wonder how he behaves in real life.

subtee -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 12:48:01 PM)
Perhaps refine the criteria by which you choose your favorites? What are they anyway?

Termyn8or -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 1:23:51 PM)
I dunno IX, I would say you have an aggressive personality, but I am not saying it is a problem. This friends list and favorites list, I just don't see the reason for it. And if someone gets pissed because you viewed their profile, well why did they put it up in the first place ? We disagree on some things, but I am with you on this, people are just funny sometimes. That profile is public, and I am not sure, but I think non members can view them as well, thus the rules about the content. Now that I think of it I might have to take a few things out of my own. When we sign up here, we are admitting to being kinky, as if there's something wrong with that. I have seen people on here who's kinks are abhorrent to me, things I would never do even at gunpoint. But that is their life and their choice. In a way having a profile is like having a nude portrait of yourself in your livingroom. You just must decide who to let in. It is public, and everything we write on these discussion boards is public. Personally I have no use for the friends or favorites. Doesn't bother me either way. T

domiguy -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 3:53:02 PM)
I have placed hundreds of women on my favorite list....I have never asked for permission. If they send me a confrontational message as to why they are on my favorite list...I simply tell them to shut the fuck up or I will kill everyone that they love. Thus far it has seemed to be a highly productive way to have them leave me alone....Try it...It's fun!

Level -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:17:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IXian Seriously, I'm a bit surprised at the behavior of a certain user her on CM. The person in question sends me an threatening letter because I added her to my favorites list, and when I point out to her that my favorites list isn't hers to command she then insist I shouldn't even look at her profile. Well, now she says she and friends of her has reported me as a stalker. sigh Not that I'm particulary impressed or intimidated by such behaviour, she's definetively not on my favorites list anymore. And i do pity the people that has to deal with her IRL if this is how she behaves online. Seriously, don't people even read the http://www.collarme.com/personals/help.htm page before leaving their common sense behind? Oh well, I do know that this is a onesided representation. But back to the topic in question. Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? IXian. Well, with the mood I'm in, if you can send them to my house, I'll gladly stick their head in the toilet, and slam the lid down on them a few dozen times.

lronitulstahp -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:17:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IXian Seriously, I'm a bit surprised at the behavior of a certain user her on CM. The person in question sends me an threatening letter because I added her to my favorites list, and when I point out to her that my favorites list isn't hers to command she then insist I shouldn't even look at her profile. Well, now she says she and friends of her has reported me as a stalker. sigh Not that I'm particulary impressed or intimidated by such behaviour, she's definetively not on my favorites list anymore. And i do pity the people that has to deal with her IRL if this is how she behaves online. Seriously, don't people even read the http://www.collarme.com/personals/help.htm page before leaving their common sense behind? Oh well, I do know that this is a onesided representation. But back to the topic in question. Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? IXian. i'm sorry...but i see some humor in this...am i a bad person? i thought your physical person was threatened. Sticks and stones....[sm=2cents.gif]

sirsholly -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:23:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: IXian Seriously, I'm a bit surprised at the behavior of a certain user her on CM. The person in question sends me an threatening letter because I added her to my favorites list, and when I point out to her that my favorites list isn't hers to command she then insist I shouldn't even look at her profile. Well, now she says she and friends of her has reported me as a stalker. sigh Not that I'm particulary impressed or intimidated by such behaviour, she's definetively not on my favorites list anymore. And i do pity the people that has to deal with her IRL if this is how she behaves online. Seriously, don't people even read the http://www.collarme.com/personals/help.htm page before leaving their common sense behind? Oh well, I do know that this is a onesided representation. But back to the topic in question. Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? IXian. Well, with the mood I'm in, if you can send them to my house, I'll gladly stick their head in the toilet, and slam the lid down on them a few dozen times. ooooo...i love an agressive Dom!! sorry you are having a bad day Level. Hug*)

Luciferica -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:29:45 PM)
LMFAO

Level -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:30:55 PM)
Thanks, holly, I do appreciate that.

Luciferica -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:31:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level quote: ORIGINAL: IXian Seriously, I'm a bit surprised at the behavior of a certain user her on CM. The person in question sends me an threatening letter because I added her to my favorites list, and when I point out to her that my favorites list isn't hers to command she then insist I shouldn't even look at her profile. Well, now she says she and friends of her has reported me as a stalker. sigh Not that I'm particulary impressed or intimidated by such behaviour, she's definetively not on my favorites list anymore. And i do pity the people that has to deal with her IRL if this is how she behaves online. Seriously, don't people even read the http://www.collarme.com/personals/help.htm page before leaving their common sense behind? Oh well, I do know that this is a onesided representation. But back to the topic in question. Are ther eany recommended policy on how to reply to those that show such behavior other than block and ignore? IXian. Well, with the mood I'm in, if you can send them to my house, I'll gladly stick their head in the toilet, and slam the lid down on them a few dozen times. Aww, well while we are having bitch time here, would you like to tell us whats wrong..Sorry your having a bad day :(

atursvcMaam -> RE: Rant: How to deal with abusive people on CM? (4/7/2008 4:32:08 PM)
Keep it simple.....Block, Ignore, and get over it. Repeat as needed. Come to think of it that should work for both of you.

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