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Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 7:50:08 PM

LadyEvyl

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Ok, got a question. I got my answer but I want to know yours:
Applicant sub with a penchant for queening and nudity...with an ignorant girlfriend about his sub desires seeking a Mistress...do you think he is cheating on the gf or not?

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 7:51:44 PM

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If the understanding is that they are monogamous, yes. And usually by the time they get around to calling each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", absence an agreement to the contrary, they are exclusive.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 7:52:15 PM

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Of course it's cheating. At least in my book!

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 7:54:39 PM

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Simple answer. Yes.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 7:59:33 PM

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quote:

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If the understanding is that they are monogamous, yes. And usually by the time they get around to calling each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", absence an agreement to the contrary, they are exclusive.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 8:09:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEvyl

Ok, got a question. I got my answer but I want to know yours:
Applicant sub with a penchant for queening and nudity...with an ignorant girlfriend about his sub desires seeking a Mistress...do you think he is cheating on the gf or not?

If there are lies,deception,manipulation in this equation...then...~scratches head~...YES!!!......I wonder?? and what was your perception of it?..Tempting

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 8:11:17 PM

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And hes making it worse by carrying on behind her back rather than leaving her to fill his desires.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 8:16:34 PM

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Oh I absolutely think he is cheating. And as soon as I found out about the gf (which he did not mention at first) I terminated his application to me. I aslo told him of and accused him of cheating. To this he asnwered he did not see it as cheating...especially since he has not even married.

I feel really sorry for his gf.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 8:21:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEvyl

Oh I absolutely think he is cheating. And as soon as I found out about the gf (which he did not mention at first) I terminated his application to me. I aslo told him of and accused him of cheating. To this he asnwered he did not see it as cheating...especially since he has not even married.

I feel really sorry for his gf.

I'd say you did the right thing. She can never blame you for anything that went on, because you stopped it as soon as you found out about her.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 8:24:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEvyl

Oh I absolutely think he is cheating. And as soon as I found out about the gf (which he did not mention at first) I terminated his application to me. I aslo told him of and accused him of cheating. To this he asnwered he did not see it as cheating...especially since he has not even married.

I feel really sorry for his gf.

Me too he is another perfect example of an online wanker

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/1/2008 8:29:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEvyl

Ok, got a question. I got my answer but I want to know yours:
Applicant sub with a penchant for queening and nudity...with an ignorant girlfriend about his sub desires seeking a Mistress...do you think he is cheating on the gf or not?

I can understand this mans perspective more than I care to admit. I have a girlfriend who I wish would let be all I can be for her, yet, she ends up being whipped by me (Metaphorically speaking). Thing is, I care about her enough to put my desires of wanting to submit aside. As much as I want it, I want her to be happy more and so in a way, it's a bit like, orgasm denial. But instead of being denied an orgasm, I deny myself from seeing a Dominatrix so as to remain faithful to her. How ever, should a dominatrix cross my path who understood me more than she did (because whilst she doesn't understand the whole, submissive side of me, she understands me better than anyone I've ever met in other aspects of my life) then I'd leave her, and submit whole heartedly to the mistress. If I was single, I'd be looking for a mistress.

So I understand how this man feels, but, he should be stronger and have either one or the other I think. I think deep down, all subs or alot atleast would want their wives and girlfriends to be a Dominatrix. How ever, when you find someone you love, you make sacrifices for them. To an extent thats what being a submissive is all about. It might be that sacrificing the right to a mistress, is the ultimate sacrifice for a sub, and if you can find someone whose worth that sacrifice, maybe you've found your souls-Mistress? I don't know, I'm new to this.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 2:49:54 AM

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Yes, he's a wanker and a cheat. Hardtotame, you make a valid point: I believe a mark of a true submissive is the ability to sacrifice something they crave for their Mistress or loved one. Their sexual gratification is secondary to Hers. IMO...someone who claims they're a "sub" but willing to disrespect those they claim to care about are just here to get their rocks off and not worth the time. A major pet peeve of Mine.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 3:24:17 AM

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Of course.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 3:25:47 AM

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Yes but, on the same token, this is something I couldn't take beyond the bedroom either. The whole "bowl at my feet" thing is beyond me. It's a dominant personality I seek, not a dominant script. I think alot of people who want the whole slave life style, probably want the script. The dominatrix with the whip saying "Worship me slave" and pay for that satisfaction and make it a life style and so forth. I think people who want it purely for sex, don't so much want the script, more so they want a dominant sexual partner. A dominant person. Not a dominatrix. Should their partner not offer that, then they may feel a need to see a professional dominatrix as a way of expressing that sexual desire, with out having sex. Remember, alot of professional dominatrixes if not all won't have sex as part of the service, and so I can understand how they can see it as NOT cheating. Because in their eyes they're not having sex, they're just being punished. If I had a girlfriend who was my mistress, and then went and saw another mistress, that would be in my eyes, cheating of the service. Just like, I have my dentist and doctor, if I go to a different one, a part of me feels like I'm cheating him, but of course, not to a point where it matters at all because, it's professional. So it depends on your definition of cheating. Personally, if the girl I love can't bring this into our sex life, that doesn't mean she's any less of a women. She deserves no less aduration than a mistress would. I love them both the same way. I'd grovel at both of their feet if they asked it of me, but with a girlfriend, if a Mistress asked it of me now that I'm not single, I wouldn't obey. Infact I'd probably laugh at her. Love is all about sacrifice. It's about making sacrifices so the person you care for is happy. Giving up your deepest darkest sexual desire to please her, is the ULTIMATE sacrifice.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 4:32:31 AM

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He most definitly is. If his gf doesn't know about the relationship and the sex, I fail to see how it could not be cheating, or how he can seriously justify it.

I just find it soooo selfish when guys say that:"well I have these desires inside me and my gf can't understand and it makes me really unhappy... boohoooooooo". Well, if you're not enough of a pervert to assume it, then live with the consequences of your choice.

Men! Those guys just make Me angry......
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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 4:38:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEvyl
with an ignorant girlfriend about his sub desires seeking a Mistress ...do you think he is cheating on the gf or not?

You answered your own question, if she doesn't know, then he is cheating on her.

Rather obvious, which raises the question why you even brought it to the boards!

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 4:41:29 AM

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Exactly, and good morning sexy eyes.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 4:41:58 AM

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Mmmmm sounds like a rush to judgement here. We are only hearing one side of the story. Shame on you people.

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 4:44:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HardToTame
then they may feel a need to see a professional dominatrix as a way of expressing that sexual desire, with out having sex. Remember, a lot of professional dominatrixes if not all won't have sex as part of the service, and so I can understand how they can see it as NOT cheating. Because in their eyes they're not having sex, they're just being punished.

Hard to tame. You hit the nail right on the head there. Because this thought came across my mind. Except he was not looking for a pro, he applied to be a slave to me without being able to devote himself to me. Why would I as a Domme waste my time with someone who cannot even devote themselves to me. Or maybe he is a cheapskate on top of it?

B ut yeah what he needs is a pro

< Message edited by LadyEvyl -- 4/2/2008 4:48:56 AM >

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RE: Is he cheating? - 4/2/2008 4:48:04 AM

LadyEvyl

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse
You answered your own question, if she doesn't know, then he is cheating on her.
Rather obvious, which raises the question why you even brought it to the boards!

As I said...I have my answer. I am just curious as to what other's think. this is a topic with varying opinions and I am curious to hear them if CM members whish to reply

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