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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 3:46:31 AM

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ass play always does it for me

the way my mistress feels from her touch and the sexiness of her smell ..love it what can i say ? love her loving and caring nature but her aggressiveness and determination to max the scene out i am no match for ..when im with her i gladly give myself to her and our time together is priceless

love submitting to a woman in control ..the strength i feel from her womanly body is amazing ..have fun ..mal

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 8:35:55 AM

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Mine and Alandra's one requirement in play is to "not think and just react". We are not to allow our mind to distract us. Some times I find this more challenging than other times. I have tried many of the techniques of meditation in order to accomplish this while playing; focusing on my breathing and visualizations are two techniques that have worked for me in the past.

What are some other techniques that people use to empty their minds, especially during play?

Knight's Kyra

I don't have an order to not think, but quite frankly what I enjoy about play is that I don't think and just react and I find that its the best when I'm able to get to that point. I saw a few of the comments and quite frankly I've got a busy job, busy life (and I'm a chronic multi tasker) and so I can get distracted and definitely have to take proactive steps, usually at the begining or sometimes during a difficult point to make sure I'm not thinking. I do mostly the same two things you mentioned - rhythmic breathing, mantras, meditation, and sometimes just saying to myself to let go and relax.

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 9:17:13 AM

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I don't have an order to not think, but quite frankly what I enjoy about play is that I don't think and just react and I find that its the best when I'm able to get to that point.

My experience is the same. However, when I do become distracted it is not because of work or school or family or life. I find when I "think" it is that I am focusing on what my body is doing, or, dare I say, trying to control what it is doing. I have learned to "let go" (my translation of emptying my mind) and totally give my body over, meaning sometimes I know he prefers me in a certain position so I try to stay in it rather than let my body flop around or fall to the ground or do whatever it is going to do as a result of what he is doing. Sometimes during orgasm my insides seem to be contracting all on their own and my lungs feel like they're constricting so I try to manage my breathing rather than just let whatever happens happen. There have been times when I would try to anticipate what he is going to do next and mentally prepare for it, which, consequently, has me no longer in the moment of what he is doing "now."

Emptying my mind means letting go of everything, and I quite often find myself at a breaking point in my head, at which time I actually make a conscious decision to let go and give it all over to him. It's at that point when I feel his energy enter me and take over, and I focus on that and ride that wave, and my body just reacts as it will from that point on, with no interference from me.

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 9:32:47 AM

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Playing with Ma'am seems to be the only time I can actually clear my head completly. The only time the thoughts come rushing in during play is when i hear her tell me how much she loves the toys i got her. That is only cuase the toys i got her are two of the ones i dislike the most and i know she is about to use them. So its more thoughts of "oh s*&t here it comes" than anything else and those are gone usually after the first swat.

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 10:43:07 AM

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Kyra, I'm curious how you handled this requirement during your long term captivity scene?

I think I may have used some misleading terminology in the OP. To clear that up, it isn't about having no thoughts; it is more not considering our thoughts. Most of our life is spent maintaining certain behaviors that he requires. During play all of those restrictions fall away and we are given the freedom to react and behave in any manner that we wish. If the thought enters my mind that I want to do something I am not supposed to think about whether I should do it or not, I am supposed to just react. If I think that I want to hit him back, then I do.

During our long term play, it was very easy to do this until just before he ended things. Most of the time I was in some sort of bondage and when he was not in the room I was usually suspended in his cage. I was able to rock the cage and just float; rocking has always been soothing to me and I do it a lot when we play. This was also one play that I knew about well in advance and I was able to mentally prepare myself for it. For the spur of the moment plays, it tends to be a little more challenging to let go of controlling my behavior.

BTW, we are going to be back in OK next month for Tribal Fire, but unfortunately we will not get to make it down to Austin. Our best to you are your partner.

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 11:27:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Mine and Alandra's one requirement in play is to "not think and just react". We are not to allow our mind to distract us. Some times I find this more challenging than other times. I have tried many of the techniques of meditation in order to accomplish this while playing; focusing on my breathing and visualizations are two techniques that have worked for me in the past.

What are some other techniques that people use to empty their minds, especially during play?

Knight's Kyra

Try focusing on HIM!

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 7:52:59 PM

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Try focusing on HIM!

Sometimes that would actually be a negative in our relationship. He tends to get off on Alandra and I fantasizing about having sex with other men (or women) and then having/telling him that fantasy when he is fucking us. As long as it has a positive impact on our head space, focusing on other people is a good thing *eg*

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 8:01:37 PM

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all i have to do it listen to Zees voice in my ear and im gone. i cant hear or think
about anythign else.
blindfolds work good too ;)

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 8:09:56 PM

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quote:

I think I may have used some misleading terminology in the OP. To clear that up, it isn't about having no thoughts; it is more not considering our thoughts. Most of our life is spent maintaining certain behaviors that he requires. During play all of those restrictions fall away and we are given the freedom to react and behave in any manner that we wish. If the thought enters my mind that I want to do something I am not supposed to think about whether I should do it or not, I am supposed to just react. If I think that I want to hit him back, then I do.

Ohhhh, well I did misunderstand your OP!
I have a tendency to ‘shut down and shut out’ when feeling overwhelmed. S. prefers a fight rather than a flight response. He sometimes pushes that and the closest I have ever come was once I finally blurted out “Permission to punch your lights out, Sir!” After he was done laughing he denied permission but hugged me and said “Atta girl!”

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RE: Emptying Your Mind in Play - 3/31/2008 9:56:26 PM

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puddles finds that a variety of things help puddles get to that space. she doesn't actively do it on her own. it generally starts as a "dance". puddles trusts MsterB. MsterB takes the reins. more and more puddles can't think. thoughts disappear. puddles continues to trust MsterB.

MsterB is a good listener though.. so that helps because it's not that puddles feels that she's not going to be listened to. in fact MsterB encourages her to talk quite a bit outside of playtime on a variety of topics, and perhaps that helps build that space. puddles does know that life stresses can cause the process to get all clogged up.

puddles thinks that the most important part might be to not criticize self when one can't actually empty the head. the more one feels negative about a particular activity, the more one can not get out of doing that activity.

ETA:
by no thoughts puddles does mean .. just react. submit, react, feel. not think/ponder/worry/stress/overanalyze/distract.

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