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Maya2001 -> RE: CyberStalker? (3/29/2008 10:16:18 AM)
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Some people can be extremely obsessive and from past experience I learned that it can be downright dangerous especially trying to free yourself of them as the case with my ex husband
I had met on online here like that , it start off okay and he seemed okay initially I had given him my phone number, then one day he had phoned I was not home, and started going nutty as in where was I, what was I doing ? was seeing someone else? after would be phoning at around 2 in the morning to check up on me, noted he was obsessed with one partcular photo of mine. I finally sent him an email telling him it was over.....I get a call telling me I can end the relationship as it is suppose to be a joint decision, I hung up on him , unplugged the phone for several days and blocked him on my computer, and then did an internet search on my internet user names to see if any personal detail was online that could lead to him finding out where I live as a precaution.
My computer died a few months later and I had to switch to another I have here, only problem on this one I had deleted but not blocked him on my IM so he was able to contact me again and then he said he would be coming here to my area during a period he knew I would be on vacation and that he wanted to meet me, I told him I was seeing someone else and had not intentions of meeting him for one he was still angry and I have no intention of taking a risk of meeting someone for the first time iand possibly putting myself in harms way with a person knowing they are pissed off with me. then blocked him. A few months have passed again I am now on that vacation time, surprise ...surprise .. I get a request to add him onto my messenger [sm=hair.gif] over 1/2 a year has went by since i ended
I am so glad I did not give out any personal info that could have allowed him to show up at my door step and that I did do an internet search as soon as I had serious concerns about him --had a business that extended online so had put up contact info which I quickly altered, also glad I do take my time getting to know a person online first to get a feel for them before agreeing to meet in person. His strong obsession over my photo and constant bringing it up in conversation with him repeatedly revealing his fantasties about what he would do to me whenever he looks at it, once an obsessive starts talking about it becomes very hard to steer the conversation away from, and tends to repeat in each conversation, over and over. Having my photos online may attract more of the obsessive personalities to me but it also adds the benefit of becoming a screening tool to help weed them out by how much fantasty interest they take in the photo. and there is a huge difference between admiring a photo and being obsessed with, as a result I am not about to remove my photos to try and avoid having some attracted to me, as I would much rather find out a person is an obsessive personality online than after meeting and learning where I live
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