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Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:23:18 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Of course, inspired by another thread.

How do you, personally, handle those mkiyk situations?  Do you skip a post?  Leave the room?  Talk about something else?  Do you find a different connection, and leave it at that?



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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:29:10 PM   
TheLookingGirl


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Status: offline 		mkiyk....my kink isn't your kink?

I move on. Nothing to dwell on unless you're talking about in a relationship situation...at which point, I don't know.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:31:46 PM   
HerLord


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Status: offline 		pls explain... I was only able tp find reference in these forums under one of your other posts... Is it " My Kink Is not Your Kink" Just another in a long line of acronyms that disguises and vanillafies my sex life and yours... (sorry)

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:45:24 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Depends on the situation/kink.  Very few kinks would make me feel the urge to leave the area- I'm far more likely to be intrigued.  More often I want to leave the area because some asshole is leading a sermon or some chick is obviously faking happiness and I don't want that crap fuzzing up my aura.

Are we talking about comparing kinks?  A discussion group on that kink?  Some guy trying to force me to do that kink?  Very different reactions.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:47:20 PM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		why should anyone have to "handle" it at all?  not everyone enjoys the same thing, we're all individuals, so let go of the concerns about who likes what!  why should anyone care unless you're being tied up and forced to participate?  mkiyk?  well, ykimk!

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:47:55 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		For those not familiar with the acronym, yes.  I am specifically referring to 'my kink isn't your kink'.  That can be anything to face slapping, to sexual, to AB.  I am more interested in the mindset, rather than the particular kink itself.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:49:42 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		If it isn't my kink being discussed, I won't post on that thread.  I will ask questions if I'm chatting with someone and wish to learn more.  If it's something my Master is interested in I'm more than willing to explore, but if this were before I was with him, and I was still chatting with other doms, I wouldn't have been so open (that comes with trust).

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:50:22 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		The only kink I avoid is toilet play. It disgusts me, and so I avoid thinking about it and discussions about it. I know full well there are others that enjoy it greatly, and to each their own, but I cannot be part of it. I will avoid conversations, I let my D/s friends who are into it know how I feel and ask them not to discuss it around me, and I have turned down invitations from friends to take part in group parties where someone is showing off a slave with that training.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:51:26 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Of course, inspired by another thread.

How do you, personally, handle those mkiyk situations?  Do you skip a post?  Leave the room?  Talk about something else?  Do you find a different connection, and leave it at that?




I would butt out and let those who do engage enjoy their discussion. As for finding a different connection .. that would probably mean taking a thread off-topic and, generally, I think that's rude.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 8:53:44 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Well, that just blew My thoughts of saying hello on the other side and saying thank you for your honest opinion.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:03:58 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		LP,

I honestly didn't think of going outside the thread. My own narrow vision. My apologies. Of course, you make perfect sense.

My bad.

Wanna spank me?

Celeste

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:08:51 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Um... you wouldn't be thinking of MKIOKYIN, would you? (My Kink Is Okay, Yours Is Not?)

If you are, the best thing to do is simply get away from that person as politely as possible. Never argue with an intolerant person. It's like wrestling a pig in a muddy sty: you get dirty, and the pig just likes it.


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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:12:41 PM   
HerLord


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Status: offline 		OK... I waited to be sure this is what I wanted to say. It is. I wont say it well but here goes.

As far as mkiyk goes, I fuck. Sometimes I fuck in ways that would melt you. Sometimes I fuck in ways that would make you sick. But either way, YOU are not my fuck, so it don't matter. What you think of it, aint my problem. So it is, the other way, I am not your problem either!?! As I get to learn the people I speak with, I decide what I disclose with them about me and what I like so... It rarely becomes an issue anyway.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:13:29 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Celeste. ah, it isn't right to tease a Domme.  Little do you know, dear, that I am quite happy in the realms of casual play, especially when a good mindset has been established.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:14:53 PM   
TheLookingGirl


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Status: offline 		Just adding that I hate acronyms.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:16:33 PM   
petitespitfire64


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Status: offline 		BiPOlar..i think she is referring to MAIBTYA.
(my acronym is better than your acronym)


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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 9:16:52 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bipolarber

Um... you wouldn't be thinking of MKIOKYIN, would you? (My Kink Is Okay, Yours Is Not?)

If you are, the best thing to do is simply get away from that person as politely as possible. Never argue with an intolerant person. It's like wrestling a pig in a muddy sty: you get dirty, and the pig just likes it.




If this helps in any way.....

I see a complete difference between mkiyk and mkioyin.  I have absolutely no problem with those sharing what they wish to in their own dynamic.  My thing is, don't ask Me to validate it, because it doesn't work for Me.  I can't always transpose what works for Me when posed with particulars about what works for someone else.


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Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/25/2008 10:03:12 PM   
madshysoul


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Status: offline 		Depends on how the situation is presented to me and my reactions.

If its at a party, and the scene is something that bothers/upsets/squicks me, I leave the room.
If its at a party, and the scene is something I simply don't understand, I wait till it's well over and politely ask questions.
If its at a party, and I have good reason to believe the scene is actively dangerous to the participants, I find the host.

If its online, I vote with my mouse.
In a conversation, for the most part I'll simply gracefully say 'Not my Thing' and change the subject.

For a relationship, that gets stickier. If there's only one Thing we don't mesh on, and we match otherwise...then go have fun finding someone to push that button. I've yet to find a partner that shares all of my kinks, why would I expect to share all of anyone else's? If their sole kink (for example) is diapering, then we've got a potentially decent friendship that's never going to go anywhere else.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 12:47:11 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		I'm a little like LA here, I enjoy learning about new things in general but as far as the Kink World goes, I want to atleast have a basic understanding about all kinks. However and here is where the line gets drawn and I walk away. if I am listening to or reading somethinf by someone who not only knows what he or she is talking about, I'm hookes and will want to ask questions. If however the orator or writer is taking the "Hollier than thou" attitude and basically infers that everyone who dosn't agrees is a semi literate, ill educated sub-human. I walk. he has taught me nothing other than what he is like. If your kink interests me enough I'll probable want to talk to you some morte about how I go about trying it on for size..

Iron Bear
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(A Victorian Lifestyle poly home)


"I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester) . 

< Message edited by IronBear -- 3/26/2008 12:50:13 AM >

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 1:36:17 AM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		There are kinks than I have no interest in participating in myself for example cutting or having labia piercing, body modification  but still have curiousity in, and  want to understand more about and may find  artistic value in when observing the results or find fascinating, therefore a post about I would be willing to read and possibly ask questions,   scat play to me is disgusting  I want to part of but does not bother me that others find it interesting but if I seen a post about I would likely ignore

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