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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 2:46:13 AM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 4:15:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		If it's online, I tend to read everything.  I enjoy reading and learning about things, especially things I haven't experienced or don't know anything about.  If I don't have personal experience with it, I most likely will not post any comment....sometimes a question if I sense the poster is open to that.  Just enjoy different perspectives : )
 
If it is in person and a group> I am totally a voyeur.  Depending upon the group of people and my comfort level, and the kink, is what determines whether I am upfront watching lol or in the background quietly taking it all in.
 
If its a one on one conversation about kink, or a very small group that I am very familiar with> I will most likely be asking many questions and engaged in conversation about it ,wanting to know more.
I enjoy talking about mine, but will admit I will often wait for the prompt of a question about it, before opening up about details.  But, I also love being asked questions and so that works out.
(It does make posting online/boards a little challenging because I prefer to be asked question than to just dive in and start talking about myself....I am still making the effort to get better about that. )
 
 
If the conversation begins to lean towards MKIBTYK  then I will get quiet.  I am not going to get into debates about theirs or/vs mine. If that happens and its one on one convo> then I try my best to stay in the  "I" statements  vs getting into the " you" statements..
 
 
 

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 4:21:13 AM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 4:22:29 AM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 4:23:08 AM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 4:29:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I usually handle it as I would any subject I find not of interest or uncomfortable---I walk away or hope the subject changes.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 4:55:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		'The ones that grate on me are the book length ones. If you have something to say get to the point and say it "

Is there a class or book I could buy that teaches that knack/art/gift ???    I would SOOooooo take it/buy it.
 
 
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 5:20:58 AM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 12:15:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like reading all posts whether they are my kink or not.  I like learning about other kinks, and I examine why they're not mine.  It doesn't make any difference if they are or aren't.  If a topic comes up that I feel I have something worthwhile to input, I will.  Otherwise, I just read and pass on by.  At play parties, I like to watch others and everything they do.  Some are interesting, some are icky, some make me think I would like to "try that someday". 

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 12:35:35 PM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 12:39:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		personally .. when in the faceof a kink that isn't ringing my bells ... I do my best to be polite about it and inoffensive as I can be .. out of respect.

it seems that people are actually less respectful towards the dynamics people livein than their individual kinks ... which is sad .. if you can cope with one respectfully .. why not both?

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 12:39:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite

All Y/you can do is move on unless Y/you can find some sort of common ground. As simple as that.


One would think.  But we often see post after post from people who object or mock those activities they do not like or agree with. The wonderful "Ewwwww" is a particular favorite of mine. 

As for the OP's question, whether in person or online, I am usually interested in the thoughts behind the activity.  Why do they like it?  What motivates them to do it?   What is their overall goal?  I am fascinated by learning why others do what they do.  Even if something gives me the heebie geebies, I still want to know about it...usually, lol.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 12:47:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm usually pretty level-headed. But I had to smack-a-bitch over on the "Sex? or No?" thread for a dude one-true-waying my BDSM/ice cream kink.



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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 1:35:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm pretty open minded and accepting so it wouldnt particularly bother me - if it did i would stay away from the subject.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/26/2008 6:26:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't expect everyone to agree or respect my kinks. I am pretty open minded, but for some who go into areas that I believe are just wrong ... I leave the discussion and try (I really try) to leave it alone. Those who think they can do permanent harm or death, involve unwilling, underaged or mentally unstable people or pray on those who are desparate, I will protest and do whatever I can to stop them. If I just find it distasteful, I move on. There are those who say we shouldn't judge others. But there is a line beyond which people shouldn't go.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/27/2008 3:41:32 AM   
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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/27/2008 3:47:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Of course, inspired by another thread.

How do you, personally, handle those mkiyk situations?  Do you skip a post?  Leave the room?  Talk about something else?  Do you find a different connection, and leave it at that?


ALL of the above.  Though, occasionally when i feel the thread calls for it, i find mockery a powerful tool....but i realize mockery may just be my kink...

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/27/2008 2:12:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your mockery is my kink too.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/27/2008 4:29:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Of course, inspired by another thread.

How do you, personally, handle those mkiyk situations?  Do you skip a post?  Leave the room?  Talk about something else?  Do you find a different connection, and leave it at that?




It depends - there are a couple of kinks that I find just funny and lucridous so I'll leave the room or back out of conversation because I really don't want to burst out laughing or start snickering during someones scene (I do really think that would be rude of me).  I can't really think of a kink that would disguist me to the point of leaving, chances are I'd just stay out of curiosity for at least a few minutes.  A good example is years ago I stood for like two hours watching a shark hook suspension at Hellfire because I was just curious but it did definitely fall under the somewhat grossing me out category.

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RE: Handling mkiyk - 3/27/2008 7:53:19 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Of course, inspired by another thread.

How do you, personally, handle those mkiyk situations?  Do you skip a post?  Leave the room?  Talk about something else?  Do you find a different connection, and leave it at that?




Depends on which end of it I'm on. ;)

If folks are having a discussion about a kink I'm not into for whatever reason, I tend to handle it just as I do any subject I am not interested in or have a disagreement with I wish to avoid:  I sit and listen politely and wait for the conversation to turn or start chatting on another subject with someone else.

If it's just the two of us talking, then I listen politely and then let them know it's not an area I'm into or knowledgeable of either pursue an area of shared interest or have us disengage.

Or, in the case of online forums, I read and learn, share what I can in relation to it or skip to the next post.

If I'm on the receiving end of someone making it unpleasantly clear they don't approve of my kink, I tend to handle it much the same at first.  I try to deflect or ignore it, but if they persist beyond polite disagreement for an extended time or level then I'll express myself more directly or forcefully... assuming they're not causing me to laugh due to their viewpoint and/or how they're expressing it.

Ditto, again, on forums.  I tend to avoid things if people get that way, but if there's too much stupidity or rudeness taking place I'll sometimes make a comment, usually a joke as I'm cracking up from it.

Oh, and if we're talking about seeing a scene that makes me sick (I'm a bit squeamish in regards to seeing or hearing about medical things, though I'm fine to do them) or upset then I just focus on something else or go to another area away from it.

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