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Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 6:18:05 PM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Having had the pleasure of scening with a fair number of doms over the years and watching many, many more scene with their subs I have noticed that a lot of doms seriously curtail their actions or even completely stop the moment they realize their sub has entered space. I've also, thankfully, scened with dominants who know how to use sensation to guide and prolong subspace for an extended period of time.

Do you stop when your subs enters space and if so why? Or do you guide the ride?

Subs, do you prefer your dominant to stop as soon as you enter space or do you prefer to take a long, guided trip?

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 6:29:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see it as a stop sign... nor do I see it as a goal.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 6:32:29 PM   
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I don't see it as a stop sign... nor do I see it as a goal.


Oh oh oh....I didn't mean to imply that it SHOULD be a goal....guess I should have clarified. I was only asking in reference to occasions where subspace is a part of the play.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 6:58:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't care if He stops at that point or not (although a small curtain is good because continued intesity can lead to a lot of in-and-out of fully subspacing), as long as He doesn't walk away. If He leaves the room and I come out and he's not there, Whoops! There goes my sanity for the next few minutes. No good.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 7:33:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Do you stop when your subs enters space and if so why? Or do you guide the ride?

Depends.  But generally guiding is my preferred path.
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Subs, do you prefer your dominant to stop as soon as you enter space or do you prefer to take a long, guided trip?

Depends on what type of subspace it is and what will happen after the scene ends.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 7:34:30 PM   
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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 7:38:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Subs, do you prefer your dominant to stop as soon as you enter space or do you prefer to take a long, guided trip?


I prefer a long guided trip. I want to dwell in subspace as long as possible. Unless I have something to do after a scene and can't grab a nap.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 7:49:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Stop when entering subspace?!?  Gawd No!  That's too much like coitus interruptus! 

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 8:09:12 PM   
Adelphus


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Status: offline 		Glad you asked, because I was beginning to wonder about this!
I've only made it to subspace maybe three times (by three different dommes), and every single time, they pulled out of subspace moments after I entered it.
VERY FRUSTRATING!
I think I know why they do it, because once you're in subspace, you really can't be relied on to safeword when you should, but I'd rather not stop dead, but glide around awhile. Really, it's like have an orgasm cut short.;-p

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/25/2008 8:20:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Excellent question, and I would like to thank you for bringing it.

In My view, I do not see it as a signal to stop.  I tend to see it as the potential for a gateway for so much more.  I fully admit that a time that My boy is in space is not the opportunity to push limits or boundries, but to explore those places where he has given level-headed consent for where he might like Me to take U/us.  The potential is vast.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 12:37:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		this is a great thread and one that should have ben covered a long time ago... to me I would not stop because a sub enters subspace.. because i know the frustration that comes with it... to me i love they floating.. flying sensation of subspace and love to take my sub's there..... and personally.. my Mistress has a way of keeping me up for days .. it is the most amazing experience

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 12:40:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		He'll push it as far as he feels like.  He enjoys me there and will prolong it and push it farther and deeper if possible.  Usually a goal for him, definitely not a stop sign.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 2:41:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		It depends on how well I know them or how well we connect. If I feel confident that I'm not heading in a direction that will damage them, I'll continue...if I want to.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 4:26:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see a sub hitting subspace as a sighn to stop, more an indication that things are going as they should and everything is fine, I'd want to prolong it and play with it for as long as possible.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 4:31:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		If the sub's feedback is needed to prevent damage, then I can see them stopping, especially with a new partner.

The Man does not like me going into space, he wants me there, and focused on him. If there's time he'll let me go at the end after he'd finished. It's a great day when I'm allowed to float and go from there to sleeping like a baby. But alas we rarely have that much time.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 4:48:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I guide the ride and allow him to slip deeply into subspace. I love to see the sweet expression on his face and hear the soft sounds he makes while he is flying. Then I bring him back out of it slowly as the session turns more sexual.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 5:00:13 AM   
TysGalilah


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Status: offline 		I think Tyson uses it as a gateway.
........unless it is taking me into a primal space..then he doesn't leave me there very long ( he tells me afterward ).



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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 6:39:49 AM   
Taboo4Two


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Status: offline 		Entering subspace is a signal for change for me.

Once dee is there I back off a bit on intensity if I want her to stay there. Once she's solidly in space I stop because past experience has shown it to be the best way for her to have a positive sub space experience which is usually one of my goals for our scenes.

Other times I'll increase intensity or change to a technique that I know she does not enjoy enough to get to space. I do that to bring her back when I'm not ready for our scene to end.

I like sending her to space so it is a goal for us.

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 6:50:18 AM   
mistoferin


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ORIGINAL: Taboo4Two
Other times I'll increase intensity or change to a technique that I know she does not enjoy enough to get to space. I do that to bring her back when I'm not ready for our scene to end.


Not sure I understand. Does her being in subspace indicate the end of the scene to you? Can you use those changes in intensity to keep her solidly in subspace for an extended time, maybe hours?....or does she experience negative effects from being kept there?

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RE: Doms...do you see subspace as a stop sign? - 3/26/2008 6:56:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Do you stop when your subs enters space and if so why? Or do you guide the ride?

I guide both boys. My goal with them is to put them into subspace fairly quickly, which isnt hard in either case, and then let them enjoy the scene that way. We do not do extended sceneing . At best, they have gone an hour or so. Most of the time, playtime gets so sexually arousing that they have their orgasm while still in subspace and then I bring them back down.

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