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How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 5:47:27 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Do you change the amount of seriousness of a reply depending on the type of question posted to the boards?

I've often noticed that questions, depending on how they are phrased, tend to get better reactions.  It's been My perception that things involving safety in wiitwd, skill sets, off screen dynamics, seem to get better responses than posts detailing risky encounters, how do I types, and the online relationship woes.  Perhaps this is due to My own cynical thinking of late, but I'm wondering if anyone else has thought the same.

Of course, I do realize that certain folks who post do it almost purely for the comical aspect.  Others can't respond to a question without writing a novel that has more to do with themselves than the questions posted.  There are variations.  I was just wondering what other people thought.


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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 5:55:39 PM   
HerLord


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Status: offline 		I ONLY answer in the mind set I am in when I read the posts... Sometimes I am replying to OP. Sometimes I am replying to the voices in my head. But I am only ever replying to hear myself push buttons.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:05:56 PM   
TheLookingGirl


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Status: offline 		I've noticed this as well. Whenver I'm responding to a question and reading who has responded before, the moment I spot a name/picture of a paticular person (in this case person's) I know that they are going to take about two sentences to the OP and the topic, then spend the next three paragraphs on themselves.

There are those who are never serious on this site as well. Equally predictable with some cute mockery of the OP or the question asked.

But I'm a little bitchy right now...so mabye I'm not a good answer-er *like that?* of this question.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:05:59 PM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		Much like real life, my level of seriousness usually matches how seriously I take the person I am talking to.


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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:10:51 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		For me it depends on the person posting as much as the topic.
I noticed though, that if I happen to be moody, I'll take things the wrong way. 
Unfortunately, I'm moody a lot these days.. :(

I tend to get on my high horse when someone uses absolutes.
Or I may get my "hackles" up if I can't explain myself quite right.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:18:21 PM   
daddyncherry


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Status: offline 		i mostly post seriously, mostly my tone is nice, occasionally i am annoyed and make that known (rare) and sometimes i am just plain old goofy or silly........all depends on the question, other responses and my mood and how much time i have.

Also, from my point of view, i may talk about myself, or my relationship (never taking it personally that something was meant for me or anything) but if i am disucssing myself/my dynamic, it is in relation to the OP, which i see alot of people doing.....a way of sympathizing or relating to them since i or they may have gone through it............If not talking about our personal experiences or from them, then where would the basis to give to the OP come from?


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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:27:58 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Some threads, I see who started them and deliberately DO NOT READ, because I know it's just going to be another ride on the drama llama.  Certain of the newbie topics or the dead-horse ones, I know I have nothing relevant to add, so I pass by.  If I am in a good mood, then I just leap on in and display my glorious wisdom for the masses because HEY another 10K posts and I'll be insane too.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:38:23 PM   
HerLord


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Some threads, I see who started them and deliberately DO NOT READ, because I know it's just going to be another ride on the drama llama.  Certain of the newbie topics or the dead-horse ones, I know I have nothing relevant to add, so I pass by.  If I am in a good mood, then I just leap on in and display my glorious wisdom for the masses because HEY another 10K posts and I'll be insane too.

Add one to the post count... Check.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 6:44:53 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do you change the amount of seriousness of a reply depending on the type of question posted to the boards?



Generally, I am more serious minded but I do have my moments.  Overall, I respect most of the questions which are posed and take them at face value assuming the OP wants a serious answer. It seems to be fairly obvious when someone is either flippant or being tongue-in-cheek and those sorts of threads tend to get moved downstairs.

If it's an op-ed as opposed to a question thread, then I answer those as the subject matter moves me.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 7:00:18 PM   
MissHarlet


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Status: offline 		It depends on who the Op is ... and the topic for me ... some Ops are so drama filled that I can not be positive in my responses .. and try try try to refrain from posting .... but at times just have to ........its the evil Dominant in me that comes out <EG>

Some threads are meant to be fun and I post in the spirit of them.....

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 7:16:48 PM   
Arrrchibald


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do you change the amount of seriousness of a reply depending on the type of question posted to the boards?



Indeed.  I try to carefully analyze the message I intend to convey, proportional to how t0t4lly gh3y the thread is.

There are *very* few people here I take seriously.  Those that I do, I usually email. 

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 7:37:15 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Do you change the amount of seriousness of a reply depending on the type of question posted to the boards?

Absolutely.

The fact that I reply at all is a signal of a positive response- even if I respond harshly or snarkily.

quote:

Of course, I do realize that certain folks who post do it almost purely for the comical aspect.  Others can't respond to a question without writing a novel that has more to do with themselves than the questions posted.  There are variations.  I was just wondering what other people thought.


This is a written English word medium- the better you can utilize it, the more you'll get out of it.  I'm ten gazillion times better here than I'll ever be at a group munch, but I'm betting a few sucky posters here get loads of love at munches.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 7:40:53 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Yes, I do change how I answer something depending on the type of question, how it's written and, to an extent, who asked the question and what I already know about them.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:09:25 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		I try to give informative information, be empathetic, and use real life examples.  (Maybe I'm the one that you feel talks too much about themselves.)  I will admit, though, I told one whiner today to give himself a titty twister. 

Actually, I am more drawn to the topics where someone may have gotten in over their heads and needs to know what to do, or where it is posted that they have a problem.  I tend not to answer ones such as "What is subspace" because I know that a lot of other people will give excellent answers or point the person to a web page that talks about it. 

I love helping people with relationship problems who seem to really want an answer and not just vent.  I believe that most posts are put up because the person is really looking for input, though some are obviously just to upset people.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:12:47 PM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		sometimes no matter how hard you try, you just can't take the OP seriously.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:14:13 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the replies.  I've been wondering of late, if My own cynicism has colored some of My responses.  I look forward to hearing more.

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:34:51 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		I pretty much always try to take a poster at face value and give them the benefit of the doubt that theirs is a serious question or problem.  If I feel I can add something to the discussion, I do so.  I have found myself getting more cynical - I am here long enough now that I'm a bit tired of reading 'what is subspace'?  I understand the snarkiness that some posts like this generate, but try to refrain from snarking. 

I have the hardest time with those 'i'm in over my head' posts or those which complain about relationship problems when the OP has only known the dominant for a week and they're already collared, but have yet to even speak to one another on the phone.  Sometimes there is a post that sounds like the person sincerely needs help with a relationship; most times, the OP just needs a good kick in the shins to make her see common sense.  Those really annoy me! 

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:38:58 PM   
SummerWind


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Status: offline 		I never reply seriously to Red Heads.....

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:43:12 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		To the OP.....It is ALL about me!...in other words, it depends on my mood at the time..I believe I am fairly balanced..sometimes I am of a lighter joking frame of mind, other times I am of the serious bent..of course there are exceptions to the rule...If a post requires a serious answer I will do my utmost to give my best viewpoint (wrong or right)...otherwise ,as I said its all about ME!...:0)..Tempting

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RE: How seriously do you answer - 3/25/2008 8:43:55 PM   
LadyPact


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