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ORIGINAL: sophia37

I dont know if you'll see this post but I'm posting to thank you for something you said way back in November. I posted to ask for suggestions about my mothers care since I knew she was not long for this world. You gave me information on body donation.

Im writing now to inform you that my mother passed away Thursday night. And between then and last November, I did look into body donation and signed up with Anatomay gifts registry in Md to donate her body. So far so good. And in the near future they will be telling me how her body was used in medical research.

I write you this because its not often we hear that in some way in the world, what we have done or said, has actually made a difference in a persons life. And here you are a total stranger who has touched a total stranger in a significant way. Its been a long road to get to this place for me. And not only do I thank you, there were other people in Novemeber who wrote back to me in a compassionate manner, with real life information which touched me in a very profound way. To those of you, although I cant recall your names, I thank anyone whos ever had the heart to reach out to stranger and talk to them about their own experiences. We do more good in the world than we can ever know maybe.

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboyHello!  A long time CMer- dropped  me a CM email.   :-)

This is a tought journey no doubt.  Life has its ups  and downs.  I made sure I phoned an old friend.  She lost her husband of  60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. 

With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the  ditsiness in life,  it is not often we get  a moment in time. 

I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner.  As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said.

The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride.  Western culture is awfull at dealing with death.

In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close  friends- but I cant know.  I dont want to know.  Yet- i can not negogiate it either.

Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do.  Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on.

I feel good that I made a difference in someones life.    :-)

My condolances as well. 

Hugs!  hugs

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ORIGINAL: sophia37

I have gained so much more than I have "lost" throught this whole ordeal of caring for an elder. Whats hard is how it feels inside you, when you know a person is no longer in this world. Even if a person has been failing, its still strange to go thru thier stuff or look at photos of you and your life with that person who was in your life. Its suddenly a new chapter in your own progression. And if you really think about it, the same thing will happen to you. So the best you can do is learn from it and try to make it better for others as you go along. Which is what Im trying to do. 

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboyHello!  A long time CMer- dropped  me a CM email.   :-)

This is a tought journey no doubt.  Life has its ups  and downs.  I made sure I phoned an old friend.  She lost her husband of  60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. 

With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the  ditsiness in life,  it is not often we get  a moment in time. 

I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner.  As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said.

The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride.  Western culture is awfull at dealing with death.

In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close  friends- but I cant know.  I dont want to know.  Yet- i can not negogiate it either.

Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do.  Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on.

I feel good that I made a difference in someones life.    :-)

My condolances as well. 

Hugs!  hugs

PaHunk....ya can't spell worth shit...but, you sure are a sweet guy.

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

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ORIGINAL: pahunkboyHello!  A long time CMer- dropped  me a CM email.   :-)

This is a tought journey no doubt.  Life has its ups  and downs.  I made sure I phoned an old friend.  She lost her husband of  60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. 

With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the  ditsiness in life,  it is not often we get  a moment in time. 

I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner.  As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said.

The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride.  Western culture is awfull at dealing with death.

In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close  friends- but I cant know.  I dont want to know.  Yet- i can not negogiate it either.

Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do.  Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on.

I feel good that I made a difference in someones life.    :-)

My condolances as well. 

Hugs!  hugs

PaHunk....ya can't spell worth shit...but, you sure are a sweet guy.