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sophia37 -> to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 5:36:49 PM)
I dont know if you'll see this post but I'm posting to thank you for something you said way back in November. I posted to ask for suggestions about my mothers care since I knew she was not long for this world. You gave me information on body donation. Im writing now to inform you that my mother passed away Thursday night. And between then and last November, I did look into body donation and signed up with Anatomay gifts registry in Md to donate her body. So far so good. And in the near future they will be telling me how her body was used in medical research. I write you this because its not often we hear that in some way in the world, what we have done or said, has actually made a difference in a persons life. And here you are a total stranger who has touched a total stranger in a significant way. Its been a long road to get to this place for me. And not only do I thank you, there were other people in Novemeber who wrote back to me in a compassionate manner, with real life information which touched me in a very profound way. To those of you, although I cant recall your names, I thank anyone whos ever had the heart to reach out to stranger and talk to them about their own experiences. We do more good in the world than we can ever know maybe.

camille65 -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 5:38:11 PM)
Oh sophia I truly am sorry for your loss.

Griswold -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 5:38:41 PM)
Incredible post. [:)]

angelikaJ -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 5:39:05 PM)
I_am_sorry_for_your_loss.

MissHarlet -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 5:40:03 PM)
Sophia .. I am sorry for you loss .. but happy you obtained the information you needed to allow your loved ones passing to be meaningfull and allow her to live on in others in a " real " way.

GreedyTop -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 5:49:46 PM)
hugs Sophia.. sorry for your loss.

ominousdominus -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 6:32:49 PM)
Great post, be well-OD

MontrealPhoenix -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 6:42:40 PM)
huge hugs Sophia....i'm really sorry for your loss. Phoenix

windchymes -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 6:49:09 PM)
So sorry for your loss, sophia. My mother did the same thing when she died about 3 years ago. She had been a lifelong diabetic, but lived to the age of 70, which is somewhat of a rarity, and she wanted her body to be used for research to help future generations. About a year after her death, my sister and I received a letter saying that they were finished, she was being cremated, and they were holding a memorial service for all of those donors, and we were invited to attend. My aunt and uncle, her sister and brother-in-law, have already signed the papers to do the same. It's a wonderful and thoughtful gift to give of yourself. Anyway....just want you to know I understand [:)] P.S. The one thing that is kind of strange is that there is no gravesite to visit.....so we donated a tree to her church in her memory and they planted it in their yard. So it's there.....

sophia37 -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 6:52:16 PM)
I have gained so much more than I have "lost" throught this whole ordeal of caring for an elder. Whats hard is how it feels inside you, when you know a person is no longer in this world. Even if a person has been failing, its still strange to go thru thier stuff or look at photos of you and your life with that person who was in your life. Its suddenly a new chapter in your own progression. And if you really think about it, the same thing will happen to you. So the best you can do is learn from it and try to make it better for others as you go along. Which is what Im trying to do.

pahunkboy -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 6:53:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sophia37 I dont know if you'll see this post but I'm posting to thank you for something you said way back in November. I posted to ask for suggestions about my mothers care since I knew she was not long for this world. You gave me information on body donation. Im writing now to inform you that my mother passed away Thursday night. And between then and last November, I did look into body donation and signed up with Anatomay gifts registry in Md to donate her body. So far so good. And in the near future they will be telling me how her body was used in medical research. I write you this because its not often we hear that in some way in the world, what we have done or said, has actually made a difference in a persons life. And here you are a total stranger who has touched a total stranger in a significant way. Its been a long road to get to this place for me. And not only do I thank you, there were other people in Novemeber who wrote back to me in a compassionate manner, with real life information which touched me in a very profound way. To those of you, although I cant recall your names, I thank anyone whos ever had the heart to reach out to stranger and talk to them about their own experiences. We do more good in the world than we can ever know maybe. Hello! A long time CMer- dropped me a CM email. :-) This is a tought journey no doubt. Life has its ups and downs. I made sure I phoned an old friend. She lost her husband of 60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the ditsiness in life, it is not often we get a moment in time. I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner. As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said. The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride. Western culture is awfull at dealing with death. In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close friends- but I cant know. I dont want to know. Yet- i can not negogiate it either. Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do. Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on. I feel good that I made a difference in someones life. :-) My condolances as well. Hugs! hugs

Griswold -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 7:02:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pahunkboyHello! A long time CMer- dropped me a CM email. :-) This is a tought journey no doubt. Life has its ups and downs. I made sure I phoned an old friend. She lost her husband of 60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the ditsiness in life, it is not often we get a moment in time. I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner. As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said. The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride. Western culture is awfull at dealing with death. In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close friends- but I cant know. I dont want to know. Yet- i can not negogiate it either. Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do. Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on. I feel good that I made a difference in someones life. :-) My condolances as well. Hugs! hugs PaHunk....ya can't spell worth shit...but, you sure are a sweet guy.

ownedgirlie -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 7:03:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sophia37 I have gained so much more than I have "lost" throught this whole ordeal of caring for an elder. Whats hard is how it feels inside you, when you know a person is no longer in this world. Even if a person has been failing, its still strange to go thru thier stuff or look at photos of you and your life with that person who was in your life. Its suddenly a new chapter in your own progression. And if you really think about it, the same thing will happen to you. So the best you can do is learn from it and try to make it better for others as you go along. Which is what Im trying to do. What beautiful posts you have written, touching many of us who do not know you. So you have taken what one stranger gave you and you have passed it along to many others. I thank you for that. I relate to your words about gaining more than you lost in caring for her. I cared for my father as his illness took him from us, and it was the most painful yet beautiful experience of my life. I am sorry for your loss, but I am glad you see what you have gained in its place. I send you warm and loving wishes as you grieve and as you remember her.

Level -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 7:06:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold quote: ORIGINAL: pahunkboyHello! A long time CMer- dropped me a CM email. :-) This is a tought journey no doubt. Life has its ups and downs. I made sure I phoned an old friend. She lost her husband of 60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the ditsiness in life, it is not often we get a moment in time. I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner. As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said. The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride. Western culture is awfull at dealing with death. In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close friends- but I cant know. I dont want to know. Yet- i can not negogiate it either. Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do. Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on. I feel good that I made a difference in someones life. :-) My condolances as well. Hugs! hugs PaHunk....ya can't spell worth shit...but, you sure are a sweet guy. Agreed. I've said it before, if we ever have a CM spelling bee, I'm avoiding him like the plague, but other than that, pahunk's a good guy. And Sophia, I'm sorry for your loss.

pahunkboy -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/23/2008 7:22:44 PM)
LOL- on my spelling. You should see me go fast working construction! glunk. hehe

Gwynvyd -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/24/2008 5:01:30 PM)
I am so sorry for your loss sophia37. Your words have touched many of us here. I cared for my mother for years.. and I know some of the journey you took. I would as one reconmended planting a tree in her honor some where stable such as a church or a public park that you can always visit. and your right pahunkboy is a great person.. atrocious speller... but great person. He can be on your team when we pick spelling bee teams. smiles hugs you both Gwyn

subtee -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/24/2008 5:08:35 PM)
~blubber~ Cool on you, Sophia for posting this. Cool on you, PaHunk for you... Good thoughts and hugs for you both. Tee

stella41b -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/24/2008 6:00:57 PM)
sophia37, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss and pray that you find strength and peace in this difficult time.. As for pahunkboy he is a wonderful example of a man and the words he posted for me after what happened in Atlanta made a difference for me too, as did the words and gestures of so many others here, for which I am truly grateful.

Maya2001 -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/24/2008 7:08:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Griswold quote: ORIGINAL: pahunkboyHello! A long time CMer- dropped me a CM email. :-) This is a tought journey no doubt. Life has its ups and downs. I made sure I phoned an old friend. She lost her husband of 60+ years New Years Day, Today- Easter- is the anniversery of her sons suicide. With people so busy and caught up in the rat race, and the ditsiness in life, it is not often we get a moment in time. I lost a dad in a simmilliar manner. As always folks are awkward-and there is nothing that can be said. The grieving process is a turning and tumultous ride. Western culture is awfull at dealing with death. In my situation, mom is still alive. So I dont know what it is like. I have been told by 2 close friends- but I cant know. I dont want to know. Yet- i can not negogiate it either. Donating her body to medical science is an homorable thing to do. Anyone that has had surgery- the surgion once had a cadabera to learn on. I feel good that I made a difference in someones life. :-) My condolances as well. Hugs! hugs PaHunk....ya can't spell worth shit...but, you sure are a sweet guy. [sm=applause.gif] so right !!! My condolences Sophia

Celeste43 -> RE: to PaHunkboy (3/24/2008 8:29:11 PM)
So sorry for you Sophia.

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