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MasterLoganAndrews -> Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:32:08 PM)

I was going through the Poly section and saw where someone was complaining about not being able to find a third.  One of the suggestions was that he improve his profile.  It made me think.  Just how good is my profile?  I've managed to talk to a few people, had others view me, but no real connections yet.  Of course the century is still young ;)

So I, a decided lurer, decided to start this thread to get some feedback on my profile and to maybe get others to ask for feedback on theirs.

I'll even start with a generalized comment based on many profiles I've seen: Add more interests to your list than scene related ones.



HerLord -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:35:34 PM)

I don't know that I or any one really will start exploring my or your profile just because of this thread, but, I may take it under advisment to leave a comment or two about profiles I do visit, If only as something to do.



GreedyTop -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:36:26 PM)

two words: spell check :)



HalfShyHalfWild -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:37:16 PM)

Looks good to me. Nice, clear, you list exactly what you want and are offering. 



AquaticSub -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:38:07 PM)

I'd agree with you - add more interests that don't have to do with kink or your sexual attraction. All I'd be able to figure out from your profile is if you might be attracted to me sexually. Do you have any hobbies that you'd like your future partner to share with you?



HerLord -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:42:53 PM)

On the other side of the same coin... what is it people want to see when they go to "perv" a profile. what are you looking for. I have found that too lengthy a profile loses my interest. So maybe too much is just too much?

On the other hand. "I am Me. I wnat to get laid." Just aint gonna get far either. So what is the happy medium. What is the information the consensus looks for?



AquaticSub -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 5:53:17 PM)

Depends on who you want to attract. Unless they are the length of War and Peace, I read profiles. I want to know about the person. I want to read an overview on a person. I'd like to know a bit about them, some hobbies, maybe if they looking for a 24/7 relationship. Unless there is something to write about (ie. a common interest isn't kink), I probably wouldn't write - unless the picture was really hot. [;)]



probablyknowme -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 6:10:38 PM)

~FR~

Gee, now i have to go re-evaluate mine...a subbie's work is never done *sigh*

(Before the flames start, "subbie" was said tongue-in-cheek!)



MasterLoganAndrews -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 6:50:53 PM)

Thanks for the responses so far.  I've fixed the spelling and added a few things.

I'll have to be honest and admit that I briefly forgot about posting this thread (I've got a mind like a steel sieve) and when I saw all these people under "Who's Viewing Me?" I was a little stunned at first.  But it is certainally appriciated.



ChainedExistence -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 7:11:11 PM)

Honestly...when I read your profile I wonder how you could possibly have time for a sub! You seem to already have a lot of irons in the fire, and yet you are wanting more? You may be a fantastic person, but I think many will feel like they are simply another one of your many diversions.  Unless they are strictly about casual play, I can't see many subs taking a chance on becoming more than another notch on the bedpost. I don't think it's the profile working against you.  Finding poly partners is always a more difficult proposition, but you aren't even wanting a second...you already have one of those, too! I don't think there's a huge pool of candidates looking to be a third, but I am sure if you look long enough, you will find someone who wants that role. All I can say is be patient and eventually you'll find what you are looking for.



SailingBum -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 7:15:57 PM)

Anything more than a few paragraphs.  I won't read and no I didn' bother to check yours out.

BadOne



HerLord -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 7:16:09 PM)

My First information I want to know is actuall status of individual. The preformatted options are not specific enough to know what type of person the profile holder is looking for or what they are seeking to gain from having a profile on a site like this.



MasterLoganAndrews -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 7:23:20 PM)

Chained, if I gave an implication that I was looking for a long term partner here, I appologize.  Like the profile says I'm looking more for a play partner who can do the things my others can't.  While it seems I am very busy, so are they.  Regardless, it's amazing how much down time I do have.  I do a lot to fill a lot, be it with video games, reading or what ever.  Sometimes I even make discussion posts!  ;)



Madame4a -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 7:28:05 PM)

While other interests are nice, there are some, myself included, who are not looking for a partner and while its nice to know I'm viewing a whole person, I sometimes don't care beyond their kinks.  That's likely just me, but CM is diverse and so are the things people are looking for.

Profile thoughts:  say something -- something real about who you are and do list everything you "want" if you label yourself as submissive

watch the label slave, especially when you say you have no experience



heartcream -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/17/2008 10:33:27 PM)

[:D]



MidMichCowboy -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/18/2008 3:29:46 AM)

Wow, I think its pretty ballsy to ask people to comment on your profile. Anytime a person puts themselves out there for criitique,  and thanks people for their honest answers .. well dude, you're ok in my book.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/18/2008 8:35:22 AM)

A profile is kinda like a resume. A resume has sections.

1. Personal info. This includes a decent (both in quality and in topic) picture and the stuff you filled out. 2. Education. Where have you gotten the information that you know? What more information are you looking for? This includes lifestyle AND mundane education, if you wish. 3. Experience. What kind of experience do you have?
4. What you want in a relationship? Try to be as specific as you can. Sometimes, it's easier to list what you don't want. 5. What you think you have to offer? What qualities do you possess or skills do you have that will be beneficial to a potential owner?
Keep it short. Do it just like you'd do a resume....write it up in Word then edit, edit, edit until it is concise and says what it needs to say in as few words as possible.
Although, I'haven't ever had a Ds relationship develop from online, so what do I know?

Master Fire



crouchingtigress -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/18/2008 8:45:37 AM)

i echo madame4.... you dont need too much personal stuff because you are looking for a kink matchup.....and i think that your profile is fine, you can tell your active in bdsm and in poly you seem to have a good bead on what you want and like....and you seem quite ballanced...good luck finding it...and when i am maryland next and if i have any time, ill drop you a line.

how is mine? feedback?



subtee -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/18/2008 8:53:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterLoganAndrews

Thanks for the responses so far.  I've fixed the spelling and added a few things.

I'll have to be honest and admit that I briefly forgot about posting this thread (I've got a mind like a steel sieve) and when I saw all these people under "Who's Viewing Me?" I was a little stunned at first.  But it is certainally appriciated.



You made the OP last night and you forgot about it already this morning? Perhaps it is as ChainedExistence suggested and you're too busy?:

quote:

Honestly...when I read your profile I wonder how you could possibly have time for a sub! You seem to already have a lot of irons in the fire, and yet you are wanting more?




MistressNoName -> RE: Profile Feedback (2/18/2008 9:00:49 AM)

Master Logan,

I think your profile is basically fine. I appreciate that you are clear and honest and upfront about what you are seeking. I don't think anyone will mistake your intention. I don't know what it looked like b4 you tweaked it, as I came along a little late in the game. But, I will also say I am a person who doesn't care to read very long and involved profiles loaded down with all sorts of interests. I tend to only skim those and hope that I'm latching onto the salient points.

But I think what you may be experiencing by way of lack of responses, is that probably most female subs on here are not seeking poly situations and are not just looking for play and many may simply not be looking for local community involvement. At least that is the impression I am getting on my end, as I am not seeking to own at this time, but rather for play partners and those who want to explore my local BDSM community. It now seems to be counterintuitive that I had expected the search for play partners to be easier than searching for a long-term thing. But, it does make sense, in a way, that it's even more difficult - considering that so many ppl are still so closeted and that kinky or not, most ppl still prefer monogamy and most subs want a collar. Plus, you have an additional challenge to contend with...that is that most women don't actively seek, even in this day and age, women still prefer to be pursued and not to pursue. That means most women will hem and haw and sit back and wait for you to contact them rather than go on and contact you.

So, maybe talking about your search techniques might reveal something you're missing or foster some ideas on how to do that piece a little better. Frankly, that's what I think I need at this point b/c your profile is fine - a little long, but fine. It clearly shows that you are intelligent, connected with the community, honest and a well-rounded person - not to mention attractive. But having all that going for you is no guarantee you're going to find what you're looking for.

Best to you,

MNN



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