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marsneedswomen -> What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/16/2008 10:46:32 PM)
What cities (world) are the most kink friendly and why? I'm currently looking for work and given circumstances I could be relocating. Given this change, I started wondering about what city is most tolerant, has an open and vibrant scene, and is conducive to being kinky. So it would be helpful if you can tell me why your city/home town the best place to be kinky. thanks

MasterFireMaam -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/16/2008 11:03:05 PM)
Pretty much all large cities have a BDSM element. Chicago, NY, Atlanta, San Fran...etc. etc. Master Fire

marsneedswomen -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/16/2008 11:14:43 PM)
Perhaps I am asking the question the wrong way. How about what qualties of a city/town makes for a good and active scene?

Reflectivesoul -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/16/2008 11:42:13 PM)
As far as I know BDSM is taboo everywhere, ok yes theres a more active public scene in say New York and in the UK than say here in ohio. I think the main goal if you're looking to relocate for work, would be to relocate and then look around for the local scene, just cause its not out in the public doesnt mean its not there somewhere. Theres also no rule that if you move and there isnt a local scene that you cant poke around and start a small get together. I would guess that the bigger the city and more diversly populated, the more " tolerant" it would be to alt lifestyles, but again at the same time I dont think the " flaunt" it idea is a very good one either....

SailingBum -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 12:36:56 AM)
sunny beach is all I need BadOne

MistressNoName -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 12:45:05 AM)
It truly depends on the type of environment you're looking for. Every city's scene is different. For instance, what I've noticed about things here in NYC is yes, we've got so much to offer in terms of a very diverse population and a plethora of community groups to choose from. And while all that is great, the downside is that because there is so much to choose from, there is perhaps less of a feeling of a cohesive community...more cliches and less of an "one for all, all for one" feeling. Not that there isn't a sense of commonality amongst kinksters, but folks do tend to stay with "their own kind," as it were. But if what you're looking for is choice and diversity, NYC's got plenty. MNN

MasterFireMaam -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 12:51:37 AM)
I would say if the city has a tolerance for GLBT and non-Christian religions, you stand a good chance of being accepted and there being a community. Master Fire

Paulsgirl -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 1:11:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marsneedswomen What cities (world) are the most kink friendly and why? I'm currently looking for work and given circumstances I could be relocating. Given this change, I started wondering about what city is most tolerant, has an open and vibrant scene, and is conducive to being kinky. So it would be helpful if you can tell me why your city/home town the best place to be kinky. thanks Yes i know the city. It's called Taboo Island....... where is it? Read on..... This sounds like a case of 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence'....but on Taboo island well it also needs mowing, weeding, sowing....... in other words it's not the town it's the relationships and what we need to do to nurture them in bdsm/glbt which holds the 'scene' together. You could find (via this miracle here called the internet), well you could find the 'one' or 'the many' on another continent. Might i suggest you are looking at this from the wrong perspective? If you are going to re-locate do it for work, for life, for family but don't do it for kink........kinks may come and kinks may go but rooves over our heads?.....and the daily slog?.......i simply love love love the work i do and my family and yes i am collared but we all understand that it is my daily committments to keeping my family and a roof over our heads that come first.....

crouchingtigress -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 8:53:14 AM)
AZ, Seattle, and SF would be my choices if i was going to move....Maui is small but we have a really wonderful family here, no drama, and great folks...plus we have sea turtles and waterfalls.

MiladyElaine -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 9:03:02 AM)
I would suggest choosing a state where your area of expertise is most desired, you would like the climate, and the pay was to your liking and THEN try to match kink by going to the BDSM directory and emailing the various groups for that state with your questions.

ThunderRoad -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 2:14:54 PM)
I will second that you should look for a city with a good GLBT and Poly attitude and established communities in those areas.. You'll definately find good groups then. Chicago, SanFran, Austin, Boston, Seattle, Portland all come to mind immediately. Generally, I think "blue states" will be more kink friendly, but the metros tend to be blue in most states even if the outlying areas are more red.

probablyknowme -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 4:41:41 PM)
The first place I always think of when I think of open lifestyle is San Francisco. (But hey be sure to wear flowers in your hair! [:D]) But that's not to say that there aren't some lovely groups right here in the Bible Belt. I lovingly refer to Oklahoma as the buckle of the Bible Belt, and even here we have a very active and thriving BDSM community. I think that if you want to find the community, it is there. Heck, if there isn't a club already formed, you could always start one. There are kinksters in every state.

Daddysredhead -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 4:53:38 PM)
The Washington, D.C. area has a pretty nice local scene. People from VA and MD are all kind of in the mix and there are clubs to play and stores to buy all your kinky stuff. However, you have to be careful in the burbs... still an air of resistance there.

Sinergy -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/17/2008 5:05:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum sunny beach is all I need BadOne What he said. Surfergy

chellekitty -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/18/2008 7:41:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MiladyElaine I would suggest choosing a state where your area of expertise is most desired, you would like the climate, and the pay was to your liking and THEN try to match kink by going to the BDSM directory and emailing the various groups for that state with your questions. i second this...it's a bitch trying to go to play parties when you're working the drive thru at McDonalds on friday and saturday nights....

Dnomyar -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/18/2008 7:58:21 AM)
Forget the red and blue states. Find a purple one. Because they love you and you will love them. Reflectivesoul had the right ideal. Find one where you can find a job first unless your rich.

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/18/2008 8:04:28 AM)
I live just outside Charlotte NC...there is a very large active group in this area (CAPEX) but no public dungeon...you need to travel minimum of an hour to get to the closest public dungeon...I am currently visiting NYC, and I LOVE the scene here...public dungeons, active lifestyle groups...very very kink friendly place

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/18/2008 9:49:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam I would say if the city has a tolerance for GLBT and non-Christian religions, you stand a good chance of being accepted and there being a community. Master Fire I agree with Master Fire to a point. I have found that most places that has a GLBT community that is strong is usually kink friendly but that's not to say that all GLBT folk are kinky because a lot of them aren't and think we are sick fucks! With that said though and based on three major cities I've lived in (Nashville, Atlanta, and San Francisco) and 3 I visit frequently (New York, Las Vegas and Washington DC) I notice that (with the exception of NY and DC-and that has just changed over the past 6 years) that the larger the city the more SEPARATED the "communities" are. In Atlanta (unless things have changed and I admit it wasn't always like this) the heterosexual kinky community and the GLBT kinky community did many events together even while having separate events that catered to them. While San Francisco is a huge community and things have changed to more inclusiveness, there is more self segregation than most places (exception San Jose). When I talk to my queer leather friends many agree with me (as some don't as well as some hets) and they say that many come from small towns and just want to be by like minded queer people, that they don't have to mix with hets and many communities mix because there are less of them. One example a friend gave me was to look at the African American culture of Atlanta, many move to Atlanta because it is considered the Black Mecca to be around black people and stick with their own kind. The big kinky (and kind of commercial) BDSM event here, The Folsom Street Fair is mostly a gay event but as the years have gone on it has become more inclusive. Dore Alley Fair (or what I call, Folsom Street Walk Through) is still pretty segregated except for the heavier players. That's my take and my opinion. Z-

Viridana -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/18/2008 1:46:26 PM)
FR You can walk around in fetishgear, in collar and in a leash in public without anyone bothering you here in Reykjavik. Done it countless times and I've only gotten positive remarks for it, intellectual questions and many a kinky confessions. :P

Wyrd -> RE: What Cities Are the best to live in... (2/18/2008 3:36:05 PM)
My girls walk around with their collars on in public all the time, and this is in SC, the bible belt, most people won't bother you, an those that will are everywhere.

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