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RE: Subspace..... - 2/15/2008 4:29:26 AM   
awakenednj


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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I'm such a sucker for a sincere question.


I am glad you can tell I am sincere...  Thank you so much for the links! :)

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RE: Subspace..... - 2/15/2008 4:30:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bliss1

For me - I think subspace is a daydream.  I hear people talk about it, yet I still have no clear understanding as to what it is.
Been submissive for over 10 years and I find myself wonder - what the fuck am I missing?


Bliss,

i am also one who doesn't do the subspace thing during a scene like i hear about from most submissives. i have experienced it once in 10 years of play, but it is not the norm for me, as it sounds like it is not the norm for you. Usually after the scene is done, if it has been an intense one, i do experience of notable loss of my usual coherence and intelligence, which may be called by some subspace. However i don't experience that most of the time either. To me, whether i experience either of those sensations or not, if the scene was good, i'm happy with it.

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RE: Subspace..... - 2/16/2008 3:47:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: awakenednj
Lucky Albatross- can you tell me where that list of links would be? I am trying ot learn as much as I can....

I'm such a sucker for a sincere question.

Trust me, life will teach you more than anything you'll find here.  ANd that can only be learned one day at a time.

You are just too cool. I hope everyone appreciates what you do.

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Well - I appreciated it! :)

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/16/2009 12:09:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		No, that isn't true, there have been certain times when i have never reached orgasm. not by lack of trying, or getting into it, it just didn't happen. So, i am not sure that substituting *orgasm* for *subspace* would be appropriate.

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/16/2009 3:52:49 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Not everyone can reach subspace, just as not everyone can orgasm. Or, reach subspace with different partners, or orgasm with a partner.
And some of us find it easy. Working hard at trying, puts more of the concentration on the goal and not enough on the ride. In my view that is like being in the desert and trying to catch the mirage for a cooling drink, instead of stopping at the oasis along the way.

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ORIGINAL: imber

No, that isn't true, there have been certain times when i have never reached orgasm. not by lack of trying, or getting into it, it just didn't happen. So, i am not sure that substituting *orgasm* for *subspace* would be appropriate.


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RE: Subspace..... - 12/17/2009 3:19:01 AM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		To me it really depends on the connection and the chemistry,, i can go to subspace with more than one person 

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/17/2009 8:12:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can think of three People that have sent me into subspace, and it's always a wonderful experience.  However, it's certainly not an every-time thing.  I also think it depends on a person's particular kinks and having the right buttons pushed.....at least for me anyway.  Vive le subspace!  lol

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/19/2009 12:58:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		My previous Mistress MADAM done it, but I am sure anyone could, in the right setting. I would love to try.

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/19/2009 10:20:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		i would think more than one person can bring someone to subspace

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/21/2009 3:52:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: imber

I was just thinking, is it just one person that can put Y/you into subspace, or is it possible that many can?? So far i have only had that experience with Sir. I would just like to know more about this from people that have been there.


I don't see why it could not be duplicated by more than one person, unless you need a serious emotional connection to put you there

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/21/2009 1:14:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

One rule of thumb that I use is seeing whether someone loses total track of time.  As a Mistress I found it not uncommon to ask someone, "Do you realize we have already been at this for 20 minutes?" and to see a look of total shock on their face.


LoL I know that one...I experienced it last week completely unexpected and as my C-Dom has the annoying habbit to remove my watch from my arm when we are busy I had no chance to check the time once we were finished...I have no idea if we were busy for 30 minutes or 3 hours...no idea

I almost missed out the fact that we had sex because I only came once back in reality whilst he was already busy with me...and then I received a huge slap in my face and off I went again

It is sooooo weird to have no memory really about what happened, how I ended up from lieing on my tummy to lieing on my back later...(so if he managed to prompt me to turn around or if he turned me around)...it is quite weird...

But that being said...with a person you deeply trust and feel you can trust him at any time it is also plain awesome at the same time

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/21/2009 8:36:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

i have never reached subspace as commonly defined.  my body does not seem to produce endorphins in response to pain.  i have never felt that feeling of flying or felt disconnected to the scene.  Actually, Master prefers that i am fully aware of my suffering so it works well for us.

i have often wondered if the capacity to undergo hypnosis and the ability to reach subspace could be connected somehow.  i am not able to go into hypnosis either, despite a desire to.  *shrug*


i am exactly the same way. cannot reach sub space, and cannot be hypnotized.   sighs   sometimes i really wish!!! star

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/21/2009 10:05:07 PM   
UniqueRaven


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Status: offline 		Yes, more than one person can send you into subspace - as it depends upon you (in my experience), not the Dom who is sending you there.

i go into subspace very easily - often find myself slipping away while the bonds or restraints are being placed upon me.  i think my work with meditation, and yoga, has greatly contributed to this.  Subspace (at least for me) is a very meditative disassociated state of mind, floaty, dark, peaceful.  And yes, time does fly by!  And i can physically *make* myself go into subspace now - it isn't something that he has to force me to do.  i simply calm my breathing, focus on the sensation, and go to that other place in my mind....it truly is an experience of my own creation, and its wonderful.  This comes in quite handy in dealing with stressful situations in everyday life too, btw, not just in a D/s "scene."

i would recommend to those who have difficulty to try meditation, especially with kundalini yoga - it does take time, and discipline (it took me over a year to experience results) - but once you find that space, it really is amazing.  And i know this not only from my experience, but from talking with others.    Not sure about the hypnosis part of things, but would be fun to try as well.

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/22/2009 4:52:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: eyesopened
i have often wondered if the capacity to undergo hypnosis and the ability to reach subspace could be connected somehow.  i am not able to go into hypnosis either, despite a desire to.  *shrug*


I doubt that one thing has to do with the other...I also would not be someone who is able to go under hypnosis...nevertheless I went to subspace...All I can say that I am grateful that I went there with C-Dom as he - as mentioned in my profile - is the best Dom I ever experienced and so it should not really surprise me that he got me there...When he and I met the air was always full of sparkles (in regards to our chemistry) and so I guess more that it depends how much you can let yourself go...apart from whatever other aspects of course...and for me letting myself go in context of hypnosis and in context of a truly amazing guy are two different pair of shoes

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/22/2009 6:48:21 AM   
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" Quote"I was just thinking, is it just one person that can put Y/you into subspace, or is it possible that many can?? So far i have only had that experience with Sir. I would just like to know more about this from people that have been there."unquote"

 I like sub space, different people have taken me there, some people not.
Mostly I feel it to be a matter of how much I really submit and the skill of the Top.
There is One though that can play me like a (your choice). Able to, at will, take me in and out of subspace. Primary states of mind are, Normal waking consciousness with fear and will issues of the surface ego, some altered relations between mind and body with sensations of separation and of sensations of hyper-awareness of the 5 senses. Always the distortion of time. Another Who sends me into s.space with a prolong sensation of mind and body separation resulting in a more "floaty" afterburn.
The skill of the Top to me is very important.


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RE: Subspace..... - 12/22/2009 3:43:19 PM   
submittous


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Status: offline 		As a Dom/me couple who like to work together in SM we prefer to believe that more than one person can more easily get a sub into subspace...

More seriously, our experience has been some people find that mindset and high easily and others not. Like most everything in bdsm YMMV

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RE: Subspace..... - 12/22/2009 4:02:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Damn it. Old thread. Can't add anything!

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