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RE: Playmate "etiquette?" - 2/14/2008 6:42:35 AM

StormsSlave

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1) As a sub do you refer to your "playmate" Dom by a title/honourific outside of the bedroom? (Likewise...as a Dom who doesn't want to lay "claim" to a sub as his own...do You *still* prefer that she use a title with You at all times?)
No, we only truly use "titles" in the bedroom. He's master, I'm his whore. Then only occasionally. It would be awkward in public and with our friends/family. If anyone has any suggestions for subserviant type titles that would be not so awkward, I'm open the idea.

2) If the Dom prefers to have more than one play partner, is the sub allowed to have more than one, also? Why or why not?
This sub is encouraged to have more than one play partner, both male and female. She is also adamantly encouraged to take her camera and bring back pictures for his enjoyment, and/or bring back my playmate for same.

3) Would you agree to be the playmate of a sub (or Dom) if you had "feelings" for them, which made you wish for an actual "partner-type" relationship with them? And if so, do you think this has been helpful or harmful to you?
I find it hard to believe that any "feelings" I might have could begin to compare with the depth of emotion that I share with my man, so this is really irrelevant to my presence circumstance. I think it wouldn't bother me otherwise as I find I am able to keep sex and emotion seperate and independant from one another (much to the consternation of some of my past partners.

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RE: Playmate "etiquette?" - 2/14/2008 11:32:33 AM

chellekitty

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quote:

1) As a sub do you refer to your "playmate" Dom by a title/honourific outside of the bedroom? (Likewise...as a Dom who doesn't want to lay "claim" to a sub as his own...do You *still* prefer that she use a title with You at all times?)

i don't have a "playmate" Dominant that i lay claim to therefore they are not "mine"...beyond that technicality...Dominants that have earned my respect enough that i play with on a regular basis i am already calling Sir or Ma'am...i call Dominants Sir or Ma'am, unless they ask me not to, whether i play with them or not

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2) If the Dom prefers to have more than one play partner, is the sub allowed to have more than one, also? Why or why not?

that is up to the relationship that i am in, i have had it many ways, but this is getting into polyamory and closed vs open...the most common set up that i have seen is that a dominant has more than one play partner with the reasoning being that a sub can "only" bottom once a night but a dominant can top as many times as the hours will allow...so they can go from sub to sub and fulfil more than one person...i have seen it work in other ways, i have had it work in other ways...i have had it not work in the afore mentioned way...every relationship takes work and when you put more than two people into the puzzle that is more sides to match up...

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3) Would you agree to be the playmate of a sub (or Dom) if you had "feelings" for them, which made you wish for an actual "partner-type" relationship with them? And if so, do you think this has been helpful or harmful to you?

i have done so in the past, and it was harmful to me...i would not do so in the future...i do not plan on going into any more relationships where my partner, play or otherwise, are not on the same page, going for the same goal of the relationship...it's just not healthy, and i've already had my share of unhealthy relationships, thank you very much...

chelle

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