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verysweet -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 8:16:43 AM)

I grew up in a family that did not express any emotion physically.  It wasn't sad or anything, just not how things were done.  As I got older, I realized what I was missing.  Being engulfed in a loving embrace from my kids, my friends, my SO is makes me feel glad to be alive.

I read this book about raising kids who think for themselves.  One lesson was to always allow them to 'end' the hug'---it empowers them.  You'd be amazed how long they hold on, and that's a spectacular feeling.

[:D]




Viridana -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 10:44:54 AM)

I see a difference between a hug and an embrace. I give old friends that I haven't met for a while a nice little hug. It is a gesture of care and kindness. When it comes to my loved ones I give them an embrace that usually lasts longer, I squeeze them much closer and is a gesture of deeper emotion that I feel for them.

As somebody said earlier in the tread... hugs are the best medicine.



Level -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 11:16:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAidan

This question popped in to my head earlier, and I thought I would see what others thought.  What does a hug mean to you?  Does it mean something different if its a friend as opposed to family member or S.O?  Is it different if its in a D/s context?  Ok, so I like poking around in other peoples heads. *poke poke*


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Hugs are one of life's great pleasures. And yes, they can have different meanings.



MercTech -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 11:26:27 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAidan

This question popped in to my head earlier, and I thought I would see what others thought.  What does a hug mean to you?  Does it mean something different if its a friend as opposed to family member or S.O?  Is it different if its in a D/s context?  Ok, so I like poking around in other peoples heads. *poke poke*

A hug is letting yourself into your personal space.  Offering a hug is inviting someone in. 

I'm not comfortable with hugging strangers.  To me, it is something for people that are more than acquaintances and less than lovers.  Not necessarily friends, but could be with time.

Stefan



greyangelus -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 12:13:40 PM)

No such thing as too many hugs, the world needs more of them in my opinion.

However, I'm agreement with Merctech.  I'm not comfortable at all in hugging strangers, once I get to know them and I like them, hugs away!



gypsyfirefly -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 12:47:28 PM)

Interesting question ...
 
I realized I am more apt to hug a friend than a family member - we are more affectionate verbally than physically.
 
I do agree though, that there is a difference between a hug and an embrace. To me, a hug signifies friendliness, caring, and an embrace embodies intimacy and deep feelings.



kultur -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 12:51:23 PM)

I like hugging.



LadyHathor -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 1:51:47 PM)

Hugs are life's emotional nourishment.



Taintedblood -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 1:52:51 PM)

hugs i think are genuinely the best thing for me and they are different off different folks.

i love them all the same from mum frrom friends from WKR.

they make me feel better, and protected and wanted in the right context.

they are reassuring to me



ELUSIVE1 -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 2:39:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: nwcutie102

a hug to me is platonic... nice yes, but strictly platonic

Hugs aren't platonic to me ...I am a hugger and there is nothing better than a big bear hug squeeze from a friend you haven't seen in a while...or a hold on hug from the Dominant that just worked you up with a bull whip...or the lovey-dovey family hug from the daughter or grandson...when the hug is done with feeling, those feelings transfer from body to body during the hug...a beautiful thing



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 2:46:38 PM)

I think hugs are one of the few socially acceptable (at least in the US) ways that we get the human contact that we often need. And, they're universal language that means anything from "I sympathize with you," to "Share my joy!". Sometimes they reveal more negative things like "the kiss of death" or a person who clings. Lots and lots of meaning.

I hug a lot inside the community. It's accepted in my FOC and extended tribe. Not so much in the mundane world, though.

Master Fire



lateralist1 -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 2:58:39 PM)

Someone said you never miss what you have never had.
Wrong especially about hugs.
It took me years to work out that was one of the things I was missing in my life.



PanthersMom -> RE: Hugs (2/9/2008 7:44:15 PM)

hugs and laughter, best medicine on earth!

PM



azropedntied -> RE: Hugs (2/10/2008 1:05:08 AM)

wow i got three hugs this day , been a banner year already [:D]



heartcream -> RE: Hugs (2/10/2008 1:34:12 AM)

My favourite hugs are with people I love. I like to feel my heart against theirs, it does something calming to me. Hugging a tree, that can be very wild, informative, and restorative. Hugging a physical partner, that is also connecting my heart to his, but also, losing myself in his skin...



MissAidan -> RE: Hugs (2/11/2008 9:42:21 AM)

I had never thought of the difference between a hug and an embrace.  To me, I suppose an embrace would be more of a holding hug, the kind of thing lovers do, or very close friends...or when someone is hurting.



mhawk -> RE: Hugs (2/11/2008 12:25:18 PM)

from my family,hugs give me the willies.

there's only a couple of friends that i actually hug when we haven't seen eachother in awhile.

then there's the hug my Lord gave me at the airport when He picked me up.some how in that hug i knew i was safe and would be safe.

also there is that other type of hug from His wife/my Mistress that is the best kind possible to me at least.that one early in the morning when she extends Her arms to me to hug her and the one at night right after a flogging.

but no matter what a hug can be just the thing needed when we least expect it.



Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Hugs (2/11/2008 12:30:02 PM)

I Love Hugging and being Hugged being the social animal I am.



SailingBum -> RE: Hugs (2/11/2008 5:41:04 PM)

I only hug ppl that are very close to me.  I will not hug a male.  When I am offered by a male to hug I explain to them I will shake your hand.

BadOne



Nineveh -> RE: Hugs (2/11/2008 5:42:17 PM)

You realize that proves you are gay right Sailing bum?

(teasing)



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