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RE: Percentages - 2/7/2008 12:03:27 PM

charlotte12

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Most "subs" seem to want a service top that masquerades as an owner-it makes them feel big.

do we? ...

dammit ... another memo no one sent me

tee hee heeee.... but softness, if the Top is making you do things you don't enjoy but you're getting pleasure out of doing those things than he is in fact giving you waht you want and thus he is serving you which makes you a Top!!

Kind of like the saying "The things that you own end up owning you" which means all Masters are owned by their slaves.

Anyway, I'm a little tired so silliness may ensue.

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RE: Percentages - 2/7/2008 12:09:09 PM

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*smacks head*

right .. so .. actually what I need to do to find a true and fulfilling life in service is relist myself as a Domme ... get my own male slave ... who will end up topping me ... because he wants me to do everything I do to him ... and thus end up after a TPE roley poley kinda thing ... as a slave?

great ... always good to have a plan

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RE: Percentages - 2/7/2008 2:23:38 PM

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To what degree are you able (or willing) to submit to a partner?

I see it in terms of escalating submission, based on the level of intimacy and trust in a relationship.

On a first play date, I probably submit to the extent of about 25-33% of my total potential. After a few times, I'm going to defer and surrender to her to maybe 50% of capacity. As the relationship lengthens and deepens, my submission deepens.

I'd need some time to ramp up to 100%. How quickly that happened would depend a great deal on how caring and competent I felt she was.

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RE: Percentages - 2/7/2008 9:36:37 PM

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To what degree do you expect a partner to submit?

To what degree are you able (or willing) to submit to a partner?

I realize this sort of thing is difficult to actually put into a percentage, unless the answer is zero, or one-hundred

I strive for perfection in my submission to him, while knowing I will never reach it.

Having said that, I submit 100% of what I am capable of submitting to. I mean, he has ordered me to hold off on my period before...I'm still trying to figure out how to do that.

Sure, lots of things are outside of my comfort zone. There are things I would rather not do. But my overriding drive is to want for him what he wants. At this point, it's hard to find things to come up with that I would not want, if he wants them. I mean, he's been teasing me because we're coming up with a new last name for me, and...well...he's coming up with some doozies, lol. But while we were laughing over them last night, he did notice I hadn't actually said no to any of them, although "Ohhh myyyy godddd I hope you are kidding" has come up from time to time. :)

Those things I am currently unable to do, I work toward becoming able to do. To him, that is the same as submitting to them. Still, it would be incorrect to say I submit 100% because I am fallible and I err. But I'm still striving for it, and he expects me to.

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RE: Percentages - 2/8/2008 1:45:53 AM

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I require 100% submission in things that are important to me. Of course, I would never be excessive nor want anything extreme or harmful is the other side of it all.

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RE: Percentages - 2/8/2008 3:03:13 AM

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Some great responses here, I appreciate them, folks.

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RE: Percentages - 2/8/2008 3:21:11 AM

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i wish i could say i give 100%. It simply isn't possible. my Master understands that -- my family life (and thus my job) has to take a higher priority. It could be argued that by putting my family first, i am obeying Him, since He made it clear from the start that i am to put my children's needs above His. One of His first orders was that i must tell Him if a command He gave me would impact my role as a mother or my job in a negative way.

i desire to give Him 100% submission as His slave, but instead i have to settle for giving Him 100% of what i am able.

i have yet to tell Him 'no'. i have yet to 'red' on Him. But i am human, and i fail, and i fall short of what i wish to do. He does not expect perfection, but He does expect the effort and the desire to be there. Do the numbers matter in the face of that?

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RE: Percentages - 2/8/2008 8:39:35 AM

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If you're very submissive I think it has to be 100% but slowly and only once you trust someone and perhaps with some areas ceded back to the sub

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RE: Percentages - 2/8/2008 11:44:38 AM

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It's successful in direct correlation to how happy you are in it. If you grouse over a couple of quirks but can handle the rest with no trouble or diminishing of your good mood, then you're 98% happy in it. If the other way around, and you're unhappy most of the time, then it isn't a successful relationship.

I guess submission is about 70 percent which works for us. He doesn't want 100% control and it wouldn't work for me. I'm a mother, I need sufficient freedom to make decisions for them without waiting to get his opinion or disapproval. And some things I just have zero compatibility with. If you want to have me beg permission constantly to go to the bathroom, I'm not compatible. I'm menopausal and kegels only go so far. Urge incontenence means sometimes I can't take the time to wait till he gets off the phone to prettily beg for permission. Humiliating me by demanding I do something I'm physically incapable of is a no go.

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