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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 3:26:08 PM   
christine1


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Status: offline 		if you are with a partner you trust, i don't see a problem with a little alcohol at times.  sometimes it gives you that uninhibited feeling so you can perform some nasty thing your dominant wants and....well nevermind, i'll stop while i'm ahead.   shit here i go again...it doesn't have to include fire play or play piercing or anything that could be potentially dangerous, it can be a fun, pervy, nasty well you get the idea of what i think of it but that's just me.

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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 3:35:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		unless we are going to all start being plain dumb i think everyone intelligent enough to get onto a computer, find this webiste and connect this thread is going to know its a bad idea to do anything when beyond a personally established intoxication point of no return

I have watched my brother (a GP) and his best mate (a surgeon) stitch yet another doctors forehead back together at a party with a perfect line of faultless stitches .. i had watched them both drink so much booze i was suprised they could see their own hands let alone reattach someones eyebrow to their face ...

now to me this is a good example ... all three people involved were drunk .. had i shipped that much booze i would have needed the attentions of all three medics and a bucket of resolve ... but they were functioning at close enough to normal to complete an action they were so expert in they could do even when slightly "foxed" to a perfectly acceptable standard

Thats not to say its ok to get involved in heavy dangerous edgy play when you have shipped a bucket of vodka ... but come on now ... we all know our limits and abilities ... my brother knows he can stitch in a straight line when drunk ... i know though i am bendier when trolleyed its going to hurt like hell in the morning ... If i cant decide what is safe and what is not ... I have no busniess being a grown up

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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 3:35:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Playing while you're drunk is a bad idea because you have to make sure the person you're playing with is in safe hands and alcohol equals a loss of self control and a blurred perception of what's going on-you may -they- you're in control and that everything's ok but it's likely to be the the booze talking.

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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 3:59:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: patwi

Just a casual question I had thought of. Is this a good idea? Perhaps after a night out and a few rounds of drinks? If it's a bad thing, why?

Bear in mind, I am a noob at this, so it's really just an honest question I had, thinking that the scenario may pop up for me sometime.


Whether it's a bad idea for you as much depends on your tolerance to alcohol and how it affects you. Myself, I avoid scening when I am under the influence only because I know how alcohol adversely affects my sense if judgement. I have a low tolerance and I know from experience that my inhibitions and good judgement is almost zero. Thusly, I don't believe it is fair to myself and to the person I am scening with, to be partially or completely drunk.


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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 4:33:08 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I don't mind one drink to loosen up if its early in the night.  One drink isn't going to have much effect on me.  Anything more than 2 drinks in one night equals no bdsm play at all, but I do not put the halt on sex with a drink or two.

As others here stated, intoxication comes at different times for different people.  If I am playing with someone for the first time, I don't want alcohol (or drugs) involved on any level. 




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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 5:06:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: patwi
Just a casual question I had thought of. Is this a good idea? Perhaps after a night out and a few rounds of drinks? If it's a bad thing, why?


The thread title is "Playing while intoxicated" but here you mention "a few rounds of drinks". For me those are two different states as it takes more than a few rounds of drinks for me to become intoxicated. Which drinks? How many did you have? How soon after you consumed them did you play? What is your metabolism like? How much do you weigh? What did you eat for dinner?

Get the picture? There are a lot of variables to consider here and this situation like many that you will encounter does not necessarily have a standard that applies to everyone in all situations.



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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 8:26:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dear patwi, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I can only say for myself and or my personal preferences -- I refuse to 'Drink and Whip.'  Of course, I am not one for drinking any alcholic beverages and the only beer I drink, is Root Beer.
 
That said; I do not like playing with an individual who has taken drugs, drunk any sort of wine, liquor, spirits and or alcholic and or beer; before a scene.  To me--the drugs and intoxicating liquids/beverages have changed the person mentally, emotionally and physically.  They aren't free of an influence of which I have no control over, due to my knowledge and or skill in using the body's nerve system and pain stimulation.  What they do after the scene is fine.  But, when someone comes before a scene drunk and or under the influence of something -- even prescription medicine, over the counter medicines and or illegal and or beverages that tamper with the person's mind, body and judgment--Those drugs/beverages have now Topped the person--not I. 
 
If it is just an excuse to take the edge off of something/nerves -- I rather use comforting and or reassuring touches and or voice. 
 
Just some thoughts,

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/4/2008 8:33:58 PM   
Dari


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Status: offline 		And in case I wasn't specific enough:

You're talking about your very first time spent with a dominant from the position of "knowing" (things may change, things may not - you're in the middle of a lot of transitions on a lot of levels right now anyway) you're a sub and starting to move in that direction.  If someone who has been in the lifestyle for years, with a partner they've had for years, decides to have a drink or three and play?  They probably know their own limitations.  What you're talking about here is tantamount to having a drink to calm your nerves, and then going on your first drive behind the wheel with your shiny new learner's permit.

Not so much with the good there...

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RE: Playing while intoxicated - 2/5/2008 11:09:21 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: HalloweenWhite

Playing while you're drunk is a bad idea because you have to make sure the person you're playing with is in safe hands and alcohol equals a loss of self control and a blurred perception of what's going on-you may -they- you're in control and that everything's ok but it's likely to be the the booze talking.


i must admit to indulging in the forbidden fruit of alcohol before a scheduled "session". i was always afraid i couldn't relax enough to do what was expected of me, so for a long while i was given permission to drink as needed, however, no matter how much i drank, my nerves overrode the effect of the alcohol/i was still scared to death!  Lol, thankfully, i've overcome my fear and am able to participate in edge play w/no liquid courage needed!<river dance time>

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