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Slave training and brain washing - 1/17/2008 1:29:47 PM

Ryugen

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Hello again, just me here with another question that may ruffle a few feathers. This time round I wont abstract the situation from myself as it does indeed relate to me, my pet, and my thoughts. Me being unexperienced, I guess it was inevitable that we'd end up getting help in slave training from a more experienced Dom. That's fine by me and I'm certainly keen to learn and become "a better Master" as the saying goes. My pet is keen too and the more we talk about it with the experienced Dom the more interested and keen I become. I have talked quite a bit to him, as well as putting him through the ringer so far as his identity goes, so I'm fairly certain he's a good guy.

Now, here comes the however; The more I talk to him about slave training, the more I think about it, and the more I look up sources on it, the more it appears to me to be a form of mental moulding. It appears to be behaviour alteration, which I similarly relate to Pavlov's dog, if you're familiar with the experiments. While I realise many an s-type does indeed desire the activities of slave training, the regularitiy, the reminder of their place, and the approval of their Master, the degree of bahvioural training still has me worried.

I think at some extremes it is certainly taken to the point of brainwashing by people who are malicious and destructive in nature, and such experiences have been related to us from the media and even some fellow CM members. I realise that what this more experienced Dom, myself, and my pet are planning on doing is not detrimental brain washing, but I do wonder if slave training is perhaps a repression of self expression and personality. I believe that to be able to express yourself is incredibly important and a lack of self expression can lead to frustration and upset. I also think it is important to be who you are and that ties in with self expression.

Now, I realise this worry of mine could just be caused by my lack of understanding as to how on earth an s-type could gain such pleasure and satisfaction from serving another (as while I can accept it and know it, I still don't understand it). It still worries me that slave training might be sepressing the s-type's personality and self-expression. Any tales, testimonies, or stories that may reassure me about slave training are very welcome.

Although admittedly I was going to post a question relating slave training to brain washing, I do not think it targets the actual issue I'm worried about (the question I was going to ask, that is). While the lifestyle is very new to me, I am keen to explore and am certainly enjoying what I am discovering about the lifestyle, the people in it, and indeed myself as well. Growing up in a house with 2 very dominant parents was indeed frustrating for me and I do realise that feeling like I do not have things in my life under my own control is something that upsets and frustrates me. Therefore it doesn't really worry me that my own behaviour might be dictated by my involvement with the training of my pet. Although just because we consent to something doesn't mean we know what we're getting ourselves into, ey? Admittedly, if I feel uncomfortable with any of the training both in myself and for my pet, I will certainly speak my mind. If I feel at any time that perhaps it is wrong and perhaps bdsm is not for me (which I very much doubt ever occuring as I have some rather keen fantasies), then I shall say so during the course of the training.

I guess that leaves me with what I was after from the other members of CM in the way of replies. It'd be great if I could get responses from the s-types as to why you submit, how it makes you feel, and what you get out of it. Also from everyone it'd be great to get some reassurance that slave training does not inhibit an s-types ability to express themselves and be who they are.

Thanks for reading the whole thing,
Regards,
Ryugen.

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