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husband/master - 1/15/2008 1:52:19 PM

mellomyst

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my master became my husband six months ago, i wondered is there any other couples out there who are also married and sub dom, do you think it changes things or makes no difference

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 1:54:07 PM

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**offtopic**Congratulations

I have no experience with that, but I suggest just to be happy together and not to worry.

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 1:59:51 PM

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Yes, congratulations! Although we are not married yet, we will be in the near futre. i think though that true love and true committment are precious. So enjoy it.

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 2:01:31 PM

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Congrats.....I didn't get the feeling you are worried about your relationship, but rather were looking for feed back from other couples that have the same dynamic. I WISH I could answer You....Because that would mean Daddy was my Husband

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 2:10:55 PM

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Congratsulations!!!

my husband of then 9 and a half years becmae my Master a year and a half ago, its been a slow enjoyable, wonderful, ever changing, ever growing and new and tantalizing experience. 11 years married, over six months collared (we waited til he was completely comfortable with it) and more happy each day.

many well wishes and happy thoughts to you and your Master :)

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 2:17:22 PM

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no i am not worried have turned a great guy from nilla to dom, then got the ring on my finger as well as the collar lol, yeah just wanted to know what other couples were like, sometimes im just wifey althought i am always his unlying sub

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 2:18:41 PM

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oh and thanks guys :) x

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 2:37:37 PM

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i second vampiresscammy's post. we've been together 9 years, married 7, bdsm lifestyle for the last several months - working toards 24/7. but then he has always be my Man - we had a little kink bedroom wise before so for us we just added more kink, more sex and more protocols. its worked wonders for us :) everything has been totally postive and we're just amazed we didnt go down this route before now...

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 2:52:55 PM

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Congratulations on your marriage! Enjoy being a newlywed!

My situation isn't really the same as yours, but I've been married for three years to the man who started out as my dominant nine years ago. Things have changed a bit since our relationship started. We sometimes switch, so there's a different dynamic than there was originally. Sometimes it's all very vanilla. Sometimes he's in charge. Sometimes I'm in charge. We only started switching after we were married, but I don't think the marriage necessariily caused the change.

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 3:10:47 PM

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He and Alandra have been married for over 17 years. His description is that she is his slave who role plays being his wife. *g*

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 3:16:30 PM

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We have been married 12 years, and yes, some things have changed, some not. One thing for certain, we are happier than ever.

< Message edited by szobras -- 1/15/2008 3:17:09 PM >

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 3:30:16 PM

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Congratulations. You have found what I am searching for. May you both be happy and fulfilled.

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 6:49:51 PM

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Hubby became my Dom after about 35 years of marriage. Things have done nothing but improve since then, especially our sex life.

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 7:20:43 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mellomyst

my master became my husband six months ago, i wondered is there any other couples out there who are also married and sub dom, do you think it changes things or makes no difference

We were only married the last year before he passed away; and yes, even in that short time, it did change the relationship.

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 9:22:43 PM

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RE: husband/master - 1/15/2008 11:12:21 PM

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You'll find many who will insist that marriage is the ultimate form of control, especially for the Male Dom/fem sub dynamic. You'll find many who will not. Just as you will find those who do and don't insist on romantic love.

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 1:42:06 AM

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Congrats! That is so wonderful and i hope You two are enjoying the wonderful time together.

Master and i are planning to get married so i can't help you there but maybe in a few months i will be asking You this question :)
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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 1:55:02 AM

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Master and I got married only one week after we met here, as dom and sub. Since then we've mellowed into a Master/Slave TPE relationship within the marriage, which took me a little over a year. Except for possibly feeling more committed than ever, the marriage hasn't changed how we related to one another.

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 2:21:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedGirlScout

Master and I got married only one week after we met here, as dom and sub. Since then we've mellowed into a Master/Slave TPE relationship within the marriage, which took me a little over a year. Except for possibly feeling more committed than ever, the marriage hasn't changed how we related to one another.

That's interesting. I know one couple who were married after he randomly spanked her at a big event demo she volunteered for. They are still happy years later. If I ever get married again, it will obviously be to someone I consider my slave....amond other things.

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 4:05:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mellomyst

my master became my husband six months ago, i wondered is there any other couples out there who are also married and sub dom, do you think it changes things or makes no difference

I think it depends fully on what kind of expectations and assumptions you bring to the idea of marriage.

For example, if me and my girl married, it would be purely technical thing. I attach more emotional and bonding meaning to the collar I gave her than in government sanctioned announcement that we are a couple. And she agrees with me on this.

The dynamic changes, if your ideas on what the relationship is, change. If your ideas on what the relationship is diverges from each other you may have problems. Otherwise, it's probably going to be just fine and glorious.

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