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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 4:14:02 AM

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Something people ask since we've been married, "Do you feel any different?"

And we both realized, 'nope, feels the same.'

We didn't live together before getting married. You would think that alone would make a difference, but it's just been a coninuation of a good relationship, a natural progression.

You're mileage may vary.

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 4:16:31 AM

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I agree. I met my slave summer of 92. after a few emails we met in person and started being Master/slave. she moved in Oct 92. after six years as my slave, I married her mostly for the benfits of health care and the like. Being my slave means more then being my wife. my slave being my wife has not changed how I treat her as my slave. she understands that being my slave means more to me then being my wife.

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my master became my husband six months ago, i wondered is there any other couples out there who are also married and sub dom, do you think it changes things or makes no difference

I think it depends fully on what kind of expectations and assumptions you bring to the idea of marriage.

For example, if me and my girl married, it would be purely technical thing. I attach more emotional and bonding meaning to the collar I gave her than in government sanctioned announcement that we are a couple. And she agrees with me on this.

The dynamic changes, if your ideas on what the relationship is, change. If your ideas on what the relationship is diverges from each other you may have problems. Otherwise, it's probably going to be just fine and glorious.

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 4:32:34 AM

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my master became my husband six months ago, i wondered is there any other couples out there who are also married and sub dom, do you think it changes things or makes no difference

Congratulations to Yyou both.

I wish you loads of happiness.

Warm Greetingz

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 5:05:48 AM

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Mellomyst,
I have been married for five years and collsred for five years as well. Recently my Master/husband released me due to the fact that I was having a problem maintaining my sub headspace. The problem was that with me being a submissive slave is who I am to my very core and with him it is something that he can turn on and off. During the last two years our D/s relationship has suffered due to the fact that I am a submissive slave who needs direction and Dominance on a regular basis and he had stopped offering me that opportunity. I live to serve a Master and I feel like I do not have a purpose in life if I am not. In our case I believe that a couple of factors came into play 1) I had many years more experience as a submissive slave 2) He is very Dominant but, his dominace is very much a bedroom thing and I need to serve in many other ways as well. He still loves me and I him but, the D/s dynamic does not work because, for me it is 24/7 and for him it is when he has a sexual need that he displays his Dominance. Please don't get me wrong the sex is phenomenal but, when that becomes the focus without service,discipline or other requirements it lacks so much for me. I am in hopes that he will accept me as his submissive slave in the future as I long to serve him in any way that he sees fit.
I just do not want to be in purely sexual servitude while I greatly enjoy it afterwards I feel empty because I need to be needed in so many ways. This is purely my own personal experience. I have known couples that could make the married M/s relationship work but, both people need to want the same things. Congradulations to you and your Master!

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 8:16:10 AM

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my master became my husband six months ago, i wondered is there any other couples out there who are also married and sub dom, do you think it changes things or makes no difference

Congratulations to Yyou both.
I wish you loads of happiness.

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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RE: husband/master - 1/16/2008 10:40:44 AM

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I have been married to my Master for almost 10 years. Our sexual relationship was kinky from day one, but it was exclusively a bedroom thing. He collared me back in 2003 and became Master, but life got in the way for a while and we had to deal with medical problems and general "life stress".

I think having a Master/slave relationship does effect the marriage, and hopefully in a positive way. It's definitely a positive for us. The obvious benefit is that we are sexually compatible and therefore seek and strive to satisfy each other's sexual needs. The other benefit I see is that we don't have two Captains of the ship. He's the Captain, and I'm the First MAte. He has the final say in all decisions and yes, I struggled with that for several years, but now I am totally comfortable with it. He takes his responsibility as the Leader very seriously and he understands that with leadership comes accountability. Every decision he makes is made with my input carefully considered. If he makes a mistake, he readily admits it, which in turn reassures me that I have a caring, considerate, wise and loving Master. I think he sets a great example for me, and for our children.

Sometimes, friends ask us what our secret is to being so happy. Part of it is, of course, that we are as alike as a pair of socks, part of it is that we work hard to keep our marriage together...and part of it is that the sex is out of this world. If only they knew that canes, whips and chains were part of it...but we don't talk about our wickety-wack!

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