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scarlettwitch -> RE: Is it possible to be a dominant submissive? (1/13/2008 6:38:43 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SadisticBastid
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ORIGINAL: scarlettwitch
That is precisely the sort of absolutist thinking and labeling that gets people confused and that I personally have no patience for.
1) There ARE no absolutes in BDSM anymore than there is in any other aspect of the human race except birth and death,
It is EXACTLY this kind of attitude thats making everything fall apart in MANY aspects of life, including relationships, marriages, jobs, family values, raising children, and a whole host of other things.
People like you simply don't want to take responsibility for ANYTHING.... You don't want to be held accountable for your actions, or choices. You decide one second that you want to be a submissive... but GOD FORBID anyone should actually hold you to it. No, you want to call yourself a Dominant one second, and a submissive the next... and all along you don't even have the slightest clue as to what the hell either one means? You think being a Dominant is nothing more than tying someone up and beating them... ANY Idiot can do that... thats nothing more than a "TOP". Sure, perhaps you're a skilled top, but you're Damn sure not a Dominant.
A Dominant is someone who actually takes responsibility for the life and future of someone else. A Dominant is someone who takes responsibility for his or her own life, and provides a safe and secure foundation for his or her submissive. No wonder so many submissives feel that there are no good Dominants left... because they don't... Everyone thinks Oh I can call myself a Dominant, but don't expect me to lead you... Don't expect me to offer you a rock to count on... I just want to tie you up, fuck you, and beat you, but if you have any problems, you're on your own LOL.
This lifestyle makes me laugh these days LOL
Ok, so.. if I'm a submissive and I don't believe in absolutes, that means I'm confused? No wait, I get it.. I'm a wife, a mother of three and stepmother of three more, and I was my invalid mother's caretaker for several years before she passed away, and I have taught classes, and counseled, and I hold down a full-time job while taking good care of my home, and I am fully capable and efficient in my capacities for decision-making and correct action, and am as socially, morally, and environmentally responsible as is humanly possible, but.. because I make an informed choice approximately halfway through my life to submit to the Man I love, and still retain and making full use of everything I was and am able to be up until that point, that means I don't take responsibility for anything? Hmm, maybe I really AM confused..
The audacity and downright bullheadedness of some people continues to astound me. I said I was a dominant submissive NOT because I also attempt to identify as a Top, but because I only submit to one Man on His terms while retaining the freedom and ability to dominate in areas of my life where such action warrants it. Now this in no way means that there cannot be switches/dominant submissives/or whatever, because I do not presume to dictate terms and assumptions about how and why people make the choices that they do - unlike some.
Now then, when You are nominated for Smartest Guy On The Planet, or maybe even Godhood, perhaps then You will have the right to dictate such terms to the rest of us, but in Your own rampant close-minded arrogance, ignorance, presumption, and imperfection, I can't really see that happening anytime soon. So until then please, keep the blanket eliteist statements to Yourself, enjoy Your inept little fantasy world where nothing exists unless You say it does, and leave those of us who still believe in freedom of choice and individual destiny alone.
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