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The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:16:16 PM   
summerblossom


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Status: offline 		You might think me awful for doing this, but I'm not as I had to know what would happen for my own personal well being. I wanted to do a special experiment on a website I know. I'm not saying which site (no not this one). I put up two profiles, one real, and one totally fake in every way. The real profile was long, detailed, sincere, and completely honest with photos and everything anyone could want when they are trying to find something out about someone.

The fake profile was a total lie from, age, height, weight, photo, and interests. I tried to put the stuff that people all over the world want to see but was fake and a lie. I have a pretty good idea what people want to see. The actual profile though was very short, not detailed, and was easily a fake to anyone that had a brain. The photo I took was, to me, the most beautiful girl I have ever seen with a smile that could melt anyone. The profile pretty much consisted of shallow crap. ''Hi I am submissive, have no limits, am confident, love life, bisexual, '' etc etc etc I barely put any interests or personal information about the character I was creating. The picture I took was from a pretty famous site so I was sure that anyone intelligent enough would have recognized it or saw through to how fake the profile was.....

Anywho....within one week I got 10 pages worth of email from all walks of life. Males, females, CDs, TSs, Dom, sub, switch from all over the world. The emails kept coming. 90 percent of them were detailed offering me the world and more. I got offered homes with no rent in beautiful areas with horses, stables, ranches and even expensive private homes. Friendships were offered to me from all types of people and I got tons and tons of the most wonderful compliments I have ever gotten in my life. And all this came from people who looked at a half baked profile that was fake from the beginning to the end and barely had any information on it but some shallow words here and there.

Now for my real profile.....I got a couple of emails here and there. They were usually one liners about sex, one night stands, and some of them were critical and rude telling me to eat a salad or something. Some of them were even as little as one word 'hi'. My real profile was so sincere, so honest, so detailed and thats what I had gotten for replies. Complete crap. It just goes to show you how shallow people can be.

It makes me feel that people in general don't want me the way I am. They don't seem to want me if I am honest and sincere but prefer when someone is fake and a lier as long as they sound like the so called perfect person.

I won't change for anyone else and wish to be accepted as I am like I am willing to do for others. I know my expectations of others are high at times but so is their expectations of me.

And yes I'm totally for real here.

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:18:40 PM   
SL4V3M4YB3


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From: S.E. London U.K.
Status: offline 		Pick a number from one to twenty.

is it 17?

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:20:17 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		I have more than one profile, this is not a secret.

You can find out a lot about people and life this way.
 
Reality is not always pretty, but life is still good.
 
Were you REALLY surprised?

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:22:38 PM   
summerblossom


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Status: offline 		I suppose I wasn't 'really surprised' but it still bothered me alot.

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:24:53 PM   
Kaiynasha


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Status: offline 		I like being myself. Although I made another type of profile to see what some others go through. And my goodness I was shocked. That account is now closed. I am me no matter what I am. I may have a different nickname, but I don't have time to not be me. Life is to short.

But if the experiment works for you...to each his/her own.

MK

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:25:55 PM   
TNDomDiscipline


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Status: offline 		Well, if I can offer at least one positive thing... I would wager that most of those who replied to your fake profile are fakes themselves, only in this for sex and not serious about this lifestyle in any way.

Good luck in finding your serious "O/one"... I am proof that it can happen here on CM...

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:26:01 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Can we see the picture you put in the other profile?
Shallower than shallow Popeye

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:27:55 PM   
MzMia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Can we see the picture you put in the other profile?
Shallower than shallow Popeye


lol as usual
Do you want to see if it was one of the submissives that you
were interested in?

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:28:18 PM   
SL4V3M4YB3


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Status: offline 		You know what they say: Don’t lie because it only hurts you when you find out people like the person you are pretending to be more than the person you actually are.

No one has picked a number from 1 to 20 yet.

< Message edited by SL4V3M4YB3 -- 1/6/2008 2:29:58 PM >

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:28:39 PM   
summerblossom


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Status: offline 		Thankyou, I appreciate that and agree.

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:33:08 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

It makes me feel that people in general don't want me the way I am.


It makes me feel that many people are on-line, living out cyber fantasies and you found them as your target audience.  I'm not surprised by the outcome of your experiment.


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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:36:06 PM   
RCdc


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the.dark.

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:36:39 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		Bullshit!!! All you found out was that people are generally attracted to "attractive" people. End of story. Now the next question should be how many people would actually sacrifice depth for a piece of eye candy for the long run??

Just because a woman is attractive does not mean that she lacks depth, compassion, integrity or any number desirable qualities. Just as being "attractively impaired" does not make you immediately a better human being.

People have their own definition of beauty....While physical attraction is usually incredibly important in the infancy of many a relationship ....It tends to fade to the more important matters of compatability as time moves on. However, there is no reason to not be able to search for the right person to fulfill your desires....I like an attractive, intelligent, well rounded and compassionate woman. She is out there. I don't have to start approaching women who are not attractive in the hopes to find a nice person.






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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:36:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: summerblossom

It makes me feel that people in general don't want me the way I am.


Real friendship and love is rarer than most people think. Be yourself, and the few that do want to be in your life, value them.

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Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:38:50 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

It makes me feel that people in general don't want me the way I am.


And to expand on this a bit further:  would you rather appeal to anyone or to the select few with similar sensibilities and outlooks?  Think about it.


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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:39:10 PM   
SL4V3M4YB3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark
17?
 the.dark.

 
Yep apparently it's the one most people pick from 1-20, I didn't know that but always useful to know such things.
 
I suppose.

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 2:39:24 PM   
summerblossom


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Status: offline 		thankyou, I will

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 3:00:20 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Welcome to online... the "Id" of America.

Your story is hardly news. Anyone who's been on here, or any online community for a few years can tell you stories about fakes and fantasy wankers. Chances are, out of your several pages of gushing responses, only about two were from people who were honestly interested in something long term. The sheer number of poseurs online is staggering.

The problem is, a lot of these guys responding are also potentially dangerous. Look at the series on MSNBC, setting up the sting operation for molesters... they never run out of fools who show up to the houses, do they? We can only imagine how many of the folks responding to profiles like your test case are really just looking for a one night stand, or worse.

I've said it before, and it bears repeating unto the grave: "If you want to meet quality people, you have to join a real life group. Online is too much like a needle in a haystack. Get out there, meet other people who want it as badly as you do... who want it badly enough to take the risk of showing up in real life."

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 3:23:48 PM   
Petronius


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Status: offline 		Somebody once suggested a way for female subs to deal with the problem.

Their suggestion started by the woman posting some profile that was absolute bullshit written so that no Dom in his right mind would ever be interested in the person.

For three months she'd make a list of everybody who wrote expressing interest. Then she'd post her real profile and set up a kill file with the names of the idiots, con artists, etc. who wrote over the previous three months.

It sounded like a pretty good method.

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RE: The Secret Experiment - 1/6/2008 3:33:25 PM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Doesn't sound a good method, sounds underhanded to me.  If you cannot sift through and make good decisions, lie instead?  What happens to the 'good guys' who were 'weeded' out?  You either come clean and risk losing out because you abused your position or get what you want and a relationship begun with a lie.  If that's you idea of a good method, well, your choice.
 
the.dark.
 


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