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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 7:22:42 AM

chellekitty

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maybe you should gain something as a Dominant woman before trying to find a submissive so you have something that attracts submissives? i hate to put it so bluntly, but i don't know any submissive (at least not one i would want to be in a relationship with) that is going to even talk about being in a relationship with a Dominant that is Dominant "because they say so"....you have to have something to back your shit up, and by your past few whiny posts, you don't have anything to back it up, as a Dominant or a submissive.....

just my two cents, my not so humble opinion, don't shoot the messenger
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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 9:17:54 AM

kitttty

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quote:

you have to have something to back your shit up, and by your past few whiny posts, you don't have anything to back it up, as a Dominant or a submissive.....

just my two cents, my not so humble opinion, don't shoot the messenger

I'm not going to play this game with you because I'm holding all the cards here. Just wouldn't be fair.

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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 9:35:59 AM

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You can voice chat on yahoo IM. But not everyone has a mic.

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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 9:47:20 AM

DiurnalVampire

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I would go with a few others and suggest a bit more patience and a bit more positivity. Telling someone you want to voice verify that they ae truly female rather than saying you wantto talk because you re actually interested in them puts them in a more defensive position. Personally, I do not sound recognizalby female on the phone. I have a cell phone, and a deepish voice, and I am very often mistaken for a male when I am on the phone. I can assure you I am not, but what does that do for your voice verify? Not everyone has a mic, so online chats arent always useful. However, almost everyone has an IM of some sort. Go off CM and chat with them there. Keeping "in character" if you are faking it is far harder in IMs. And ask for pictures. Multiple pictures of the same fake person are harder to come by. If someone only has professional looking, incredibly good pictures of themselves.... its probably not real. Most people have decently good casual pictures, or even some really bad ones. Ask for those. Ask for a casual picture or two. Ask personal getting to know you questions, little things, like wat they studied in school, what state they went to school in, and when they graduated. ASk them in more than one conversation (as if you had forgotten) and make sure the answers are the same.
Then once you make it obvious you are interested in speaking to the person, then you can offer up voice chat. ASk them if they have a phone number you can reach them at, or if they would be more confortable calling you and youwouldgive them your number. If you are not willing to offer up your number, why should they be willing to offer up theirs?
Maybe that will help.
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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 10:45:27 AM

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I agree with DV, and pretty much everybody else. I've met several women from CollarMe and Alt. They've all been single, looked like their photos, their weight was consistent with their profiles -- all those things you might think people lie about.

I have never once asked a woman for her phone number. When I'm comfortable sending a pic, I do, and say, "Please consider sending me one of yours, too." When she and I decide we would probably like to meet, I send my phone number, and say, "Please call me, and consider sending me a phone number too." Every single time, they have eventually sent both pics and their number. It wasn't always right away, and sometimes we decided we didn't want to meet after all.

I've IM'ed with several guys posing as women. I agree with Laurell that you need to tighten up your filter. It isn't that hard to tell the difference. It just takes getting burned a few times, and still being open to the next contact.

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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 10:53:03 AM

camille65

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty

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you have to have something to back your shit up, and by your past few whiny posts, you don't have anything to back it up, as a Dominant or a submissive.....

just my two cents, my not so humble opinion, don't shoot the messenger

I'm not going to play this game with you because I'm holding all the cards here. Just wouldn't be fair.

I'm not sure what your response means, but your profile is empty. No photos or personal information at all and nothing about having been involved as a dominant in a relationship. Honestly if someone with a blank profile demanded my phone number to verify my gender I wouldn't continue contact with them. I think it comes across as accusatory and rather cynical. It feels like you are asking without offering anything in return.

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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 11:33:19 AM

Legman1

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Sounds like the hunter doesn't understand her prey. Young submisive females can be one of the most scittish creatures on the planet. With all do respect your coming off as rather abrasive here.

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RE: How do I keep my online interests and make things w... - 12/19/2007 1:07:54 PM

chellekitty

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kitttty

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you have to have something to back your shit up, and by your past few whiny posts, you don't have anything to back it up, as a Dominant or a submissive.....

just my two cents, my not so humble opinion, don't shoot the messenger

I'm not going to play this game with you because I'm holding all the cards here. Just wouldn't be fair.

i don't know what cards you are holding, but i'm not playing a game...i am talking about having the simple skills necessary to have an adult relationship...from the posts you have started recently (not even going into the ones you have started in the past) you don't have those simple skills...sorry to be the bearer of reality...time to put your big girl panties on and look at your part...perhaps some growing up would be in order before you get in a relationship - and no, it has nothing to do with your age or stature....

chelle

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