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ORIGINAL: Stephann

I strongly suggest two things.

1)  Attend your local munches, play parties, etc.  The local scene might not be for you, but the 'dreamy' Dom you'd normally want to meet, is probably attending them as well, for the same reason; that he'd rather meet someone close by, even if he doesn't dig the local BDSM scene either. 

How many people have actually met their current partners at munches and play parties? I've found that most who attend these events are already attached.

2)  Turn off your profile, and start doing the work yourself.  Do searches on local dominants, and write them first.  Stop wading through a dozen emails from far away men and far away places, and focus only on men who are nearby. 
 
Had some great conversations with local dominants. The problem comes when asking if they are involved and learning about all the competition. At this point I usually decide not to bother. I'm looking for a dominant I don't have to compete for.


Stephan