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relocation - 11/30/2007 2:07:25 AM   
mons


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i have a question i had many submissive and slaves want to relocate and be with me. but has anyone really find someone who is true and is really willing to relocation and not be wanting to live off of you? i never take anyone up on their offer but has anyone really find someone this way oh i have a slave but it was a question i wanted to ask but hey it just came to me. love to hear the answer

mons
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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 2:17:48 AM   
subsfaith


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Status: offline 		I can only speak for myself.

I did it.  I moved to the same town as my Sir.  I chose to move closer to him, I funded the move and supported myself and my children during the move and since.  After 10 months we decided to live together and my house became our house for which we both provide for.

One wonders how you became so cynical......

Faith

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 2:32:58 AM   
angelslave77


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Status: offline 		My Sir is moving to my town, we will live seperately for a while as my UM's get used to having him around and we get used to being around each other on a regular basis and eventually I hope we will live together but with both of us contributing to the household.

I dont doubt there are some both Dom and sub looking for a free ride but not everyone is

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 2:34:11 AM   
childoftheshadow


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Status: offline 		I did it. I moved from the US to the UK to be with him. I did it on my own, paid for everything myself, and as soon as it was possible started working here and adding to the household.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 3:31:37 AM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		I moved to Master without any financial help and contributed to the household from day one. I still do so.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 4:32:57 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		We met online and relocated after 10 months to a new city that neither of us had ever lived in. He does support me and is putting me through college. Next Spring, I'll enter the work force and begin contributing to our household and my retirement fund.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 7:14:37 AM   
CelticPrince


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Status: offline 		mons,

relocation, regardless of who bears the cost is the next most serious step on the path. It does envolve much expense and not just from the relocation but for support until the other party gets work etc. In my view, the "D" pays for it as the "s" is already putting herself/himself in a precarious situation. Also in the vast majority the "D" is better funded.

CP

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 7:44:05 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		I moved to a different state to be with my Master full time. Have a good paying job and have never asked him for a penny even when we were flying back and forth to each other.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 7:40:41 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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Status: offline 		I just did that very thing. I relocated from Washington State to New Jersey. I paid for the entire expense of moving, I had a job waiting for me upon arrival, and am paying my own living expenses.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 8:22:05 PM   
RumpusParable


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From: NYC now!
Status: offline 		Not, I, so far.  All those that have talked about relocating have wanted to mooch off me or were way out into the wackaloon zone.  No serious talkers ever.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 8:32:28 PM   
mischievousone


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Status: offline 		Very odd that I should run across this thread today.  Tomorrow he picks up his u-haul to finish his move to my home. 

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 8:33:26 PM   
unravel


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Status: offline 		Well relocation cannot be easy, i would imagine it happens rather rarely. submissives/slaves are wholesome human beings, and their emotional/financial/leisure...etc... balance, if balance and day to day bliss was found in one location, would be a hard, very hard sacrifice to make for relocation. It would take a huge and lengthy pros and cons analysis, i would think.
unravel

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 9:00:30 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		So ask them ahead of time to get their own place for six months, find a job, etc. As far as has anyone ever relocated for any purpose except to sponge off of someone else, the answer is yes.

Now I'm a sub, and he moved up here. But we had known each other for two years LDR first and he waited till he got a job transfer. Maybe you shouldn't be talking relocating until after you've spent a lot more time together. Until he's seen you in your flannel pjs and bunny slippers and with red nose from ragweed season etc. Basically until you know it isn't fantasy but reality based.

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RE: relocation - 11/30/2007 9:57:35 PM   
porkchop


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Status: offline 		I did it, too.

After several rendezvous at various events across the country and numerous roundtrips between Atlanta and Phoenix, it occurred to us this was serious enough to discuss The Big Move.

I requested a transfer within my company, put all the householdish worldly belongings on a truck, the car on another truck... then hopped a plane with my little dog.  It was a huge financial/emotional/physical undertaking... but... so far, so good.



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RE: relocation - 12/1/2007 1:12:26 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		It's more expensive for Daddyt o be long distance he spends about 100 dollars on gas driving here and back each week every week.

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RE: relocation - 12/1/2007 2:06:09 AM   
childoftheshadow


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From: London UK
Status: offline 		Unravel, I never had the "huge and lengthy pros and cons analysis". I hopped on a plane to come here for a two week visit and just didn't go home again. That was 6 and a half years ago.

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RE: relocation - 12/1/2007 2:51:29 AM   
mons


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why do you think i have become anything i have a slave i was asking a question my word i am not asking if anyone was happy or unhappy just how did it work for you by the Way when my son was i did not date i did not trust anyone around our kids no one.  to many child rapist out there so i waited so not faith i just was asking that is all. no hidden things behind it dear

mons

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RE: relocation - 12/1/2007 2:59:08 AM   
mons


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i am glad both of you have wonderful parnters it go to see this.

mons

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RE: relocation - 12/1/2007 3:06:49 AM   
mons


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i think it is wonderful all of you have found love and it is something that is very hard to learn and the trust is something i do not have. but for those who really can have the fun and take and pay for all of the thing you want it wonderful. my slave and i talk for a long time before we talked on the phone then we made plans to meet and when we  did meet as he said we smell great. i do understand the feeling of knowing that person is the one good luck to you all , i had written the Post becasue of so many people from overseas asking to come to live here i got great answer and great and wonderful love stories.

thank you again and ma your love last lifetime

mons

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RE: relocation - 12/1/2007 4:54:16 AM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: mons

greeting to all

i have a question i had many submissive and slaves want to relocate and be with me. but has anyone really find someone who is true and is really willing to relocation and not be wanting to live off of you? i never take anyone up on their offer but has anyone really find someone this way oh i have a slave but it was a question i wanted to ask but hey it just came to me. love to hear the answer

mons

Hello mons,
Well, my Master certainly found someone who wanted to relocate to Him.  As far as "living off" of Him, that didn't happen either.  Not that He would ever see it that way, but I had money in the bank when I moved here and I work fulltime to contribute as much financially to the household as He does.  It is possible to find someone who is financially stable and who is willing to move a great distance to be with you.  You just have to be as wonderful as Master is!..................luci

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