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pinksugarsub -> Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 1:56:32 AM)
i have spoken to a few Doms who marked Their profiles 'willing to relocate'. i question why A/anyone would willingly come to NE Ohio....a recesssion is underway here and it snows for 6 months a year. They all assure me They are willing to move house; They have no family or friends to hold Them where They are. i wonder, perhaps unfairly, how together a Man could be that He could pick up and move to be near His lady friend. Any thoughts? pinksugarsub

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 2:07:01 AM)
Wondering about it generally is one thing, but if you wonder about a specific man you know, it's a communication, not knowing him well enough, issue. It is entirely possible for many men to pick up and move. They are retired from some career or work from a computer with a steady income possibly? Many possibilities. Voice your concerns if this is about a real deal.

eyesopened -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 2:11:12 AM)
Dominant doesn't always equal self-reliant. See, a guy who is out of work or marginally employed can move to your place, move in with you and stay home while his slave works for him. Since he is the master, he shouldn't be expected to work, that's what he has a slave for. A great gig if you can find it!

Dragynsfury -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 2:44:33 AM)
*When in doubt ask what it is they do for a living that allows them to be so mobile. If that fails tell them you have a relocation adjustment period of 6mos before you move in TOGETHER.[:D]*

Decimus -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 3:11:11 AM)
I agree with the above posters it is something you should speak to them about if it is a major concern for you. However it could be a few things, possibly they have a thriving internet business or they work from home for their current company and it does not matter where in the world they work because they telecommute. One of the simplest reasons though is in all possibility they do not know about the economic situation being bad in NE Ohio. I am only two states away and I didn't know NE Ohio was going through a recession. In general it is not unheard of at all either that the dom(me) moves if they have no ties to their current surroundings.

wisteriaV -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 3:26:18 AM)
I imagine for the same reason a submissive or slave is willing to relocate. I am in Northern NewYork and we have basically the same situation up here as far as work goes and the weather. Master came here because his job in telecommunications allowed him to do just that. As long as he has a phone and the computer is working, he's got a job...He was from Northern California. Also as stated eariler, some people don't have the Waltons/Brady Bunch type relationship with their families.

NorthernGent -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 3:35:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub i have spoken to a few Doms who marked Their profiles 'willing to relocate'. i question why A/anyone would willingly come to NE Ohio....a recesssion is underway here and it snows for 6 months a year. They all assure me They are willing to move house; They have no family or friends to hold Them where They are. i wonder, perhaps unfairly, how together a Man could be that He could pick up and move to be near His lady friend. Any thoughts? pinksugarsub Snow for 6 months a year is no problem for me...I love a cool climate. I would say very together...what's the old Buddhist saying "the key to happiness is being able to bloom wherever you're planted"? I would say it would take a level of comfort and confidence to up sticks and set up shop in an entirely different culture. Some of us are curious beings and value adventure. It would take a special woman to get me out of Northern England, but if she was that special, fuck it, I'd do it. If I were you though, I'd question why a person has no friends.

Focus50 -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 3:58:06 AM)
Depends on the individual circumstances.... I'm looking to move from my city home to some country acres in about 2 yrs or so.... My family here has long since either passed away or moved on so there's nothing holding me here, other than work and having lived here most of my life. Now meeting the "right" sub in the process might well influence which country town I move to but it wouldn't influence the fact I'm intending to move somewhere. IE, no harm done if we don't work out r/l.... Hmmmm, I'm over 50 and never seen snow but it does look cold on tv.... Think I'll stick with where ever I don't have to wear too many layers! lol Focus.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 4:06:53 AM)
I picked up and moved closer to my girl...although, it wasn't planned when we first began developing the relationship. Things in my life just happened to fall and flow in such a way that I could do it...and go back to school. Now, if my house will only sell... Master Fire

MrrPete -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 4:25:07 AM)
I agree pink. Who in their right mind would relocate to NE OH. I was raised on the East side of Cleveland [suburbs] so I know what it's like to live there. [:)] In my profile I say I might be willing to relocate BUT i would not "move-in". Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. Doesn't work for me I'm retired now ad living comfortably, have no strong ties to the area and could "pick up sticks" very easily. BUT while it's not perfect there's no hurricanes [Katrina survivor] no earthquakes and I'm 100 miles West of tornado alley. I'm in a nice, quiet little town where I don't have to worry if my front door is locked and I leave my key in the ignition. Laverne has the only traffic light in the county. But I digress. The only reason I moved to OK was Katrina forced me out of LA.

kittensmailbox -> RE: Dom's who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 4:40:14 AM)
i love ohio... i moved to L.A. California from 2000 to 2005 to be with my now former Master. i for one swear that i will never leave my family or home state again for anyone...

angelslave77 -> RE: Dom's who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 5:03:24 AM)
My Sir is moving to be with me, Big city to small regional town. He is leaving his family, friends, chances to make "big" money behind,in order to see if things work with us. Sometimes love just makes you do crazy stuff. If custody issues didnt force me to stay I would gladly pack my self up and go to him, but then I am a gypsy at heart and drives me nuts if I dont move around frequently. Oh and it will be minium six months before any moving in together is considered, if for no other reason than that I have UM's but he is cool with that, and when he said, "so when can I move in?" my reply was, "when are you going to propose to me? I really am a cheeky girl

MissMorrigan -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 5:07:12 AM)
I do not see the act of relocating a problem, but would certainly focus on the reasons WHY a person would relocate. I was a person who stated they would never relocate, that was until the relationship between my sub and I deepened and we wanted to live together. I had already fallen in love with his home town (which is in another county within the UK) and the choice was an easy one to make for me - we looked for a home together and live here very happily. As for friends - I do have friends, but none that lived near me (they are scattered around the world and a couple live in London - these are not online friends, but people I have known in person for years, one even half my life, so that wasn't a factor to take into my relocation decision and nor would it have been had they lived more locally to me given that I have no travelling restrictions. And family - I visit them regularly and know there are other members of the family who can be on their doorstep within minutes. For me, it takes me almost an hour to get to them but I have my own life to lead and challenges to make, so certainly not tied to their apron strings that it would have prevented me from moving. Jobwise - I have always been self-reliant and as for personal finances, I came into the relationship SECURE. The above debunks the initial cynicism that relocation is often greeted with. Life is there for living, it's too short to keep the door closed and wondering 'what's out there'. I relish adventure, that doesn't make me reckless and I take my responsibilities seriously but I keep them in perspective. During the initial stages of our relationship I put to rest all those questions of 'Is this person...', 'Does he have....', Could he be the kind of person to....' and had I answered those negatively the relationship would not have progressed. It did and I haven't regretted a single moment.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 5:27:36 AM)
First, what really is wrong with NE Ohio? So what about the Snow? I'm originally from Upstate Western NY, a little over the PA state line. I familar with this whole beautiful part of the country, which includes NE Ohio. Let me share something with you, Everwhere I have lived there is always somebody or people complaining about how it sucks where they live. Yes, when I lived in San Diego I met people that bitched about how it sucks there. So what if NE Ohio is going through a depression, Hell does this make a suck ass place to live? Life is what you fucking make it. It's too easy for people bitch about where they live and not try and do a damn thing to make it any better. Christ, NE Ohio is not like some third world country. You want to see Depression go visit towns in Mexico off the tourist path, visit countries in Africa that are not trendy tourist places. Go see and think about all the people in the world, that are lucky to eat a meal a day, let alone think about owning radios, Brand Spanking New Flat TV's from Walmart, let alone have shoes... Places where only the Super Rich have cars. So what that it snows? Hell, there are many people that love to Snowmobile and Ski and do all kinds of things in winter. Why the Hell do people live in Alaska? Actually, your complaint about snow in NE Ohio probally is rather insulting for people that Live in Alaska, they are probally humored by it if anything. Hell, NE Ohio... how far from Erie, PA or even Pittsburg. In regards to work and jobs. It's easy for somebody to sit on their asses and throw their hands up in the air and play helpless. Hell, if you want work, you can always find work. If you can't find a place to hire you, start up your own business. Find a need and fillfull it. It's not everybody's ambition to become a millionair in life, so what if somebody can't have a high Paying Job. Tell you what, move to California, CT, or NYC... get a high paying job and you'll find out there's a High Cost of living there as well. What you don't realize is how everything balances out. Not everybody wants some high paying jobs, some of those high paying Jobs eat up a lot of personal time and are very stressful. The thing is that people don't realize how rich they actually are in this country when compared to people in the rest of the friggen world. If somebody is willing to pick and relocate near somebody else they care about and have emotional attachments with, so what? You have to ask yourself about what is more important in life? Living life and being happy or being alone, rich and miserable? When you die, you don't take anything with you. As long as one can work and live a comfortable life what's wrong with that? Economic ressions come and go in areas of the country a bit like the pressue systems of the weather. There's always a recession in some area. You know what people, still work, hold down jobs, pay bills, eat and live in these areas and do the best they can. It's the people that Buy into the hopeless or helpless state of mind that are the ones that sink and drown. Hell, this country was founded and explored by people living in the rough kick ass wilderness... sounds more like you are questioning the sanity of DOMs wanting to move there to NE Ohio, I so much have got to make this smart ass remark, and I'm gonna be a smart ass here. What are you looking for a modern day pussy boy who can only deal with having life comfortably handed to him? Seems like you are only looking at a lot of CON's and not enough PRO's or positives regarding the area you live in? Your questioning how well put together a Dom would be who would be willing to move there? Hell, you should be Questioning how well put together then for actually living there then, if you want to be fair about it? Perhaps you need to do a little introspection regarding how you feel about your community, the area you live in. It's not like you are living in the outback of jungle, or in a small village in the middle of some dessert or anything.

LadyHugs -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 5:36:35 AM)
Dear pinksugarsub, Ladies and Gentlemen; In any case, why people move is as many reasons as there are not to move. However, I feel that those Dominants who may wish to locate may do so for as many reasons as submissive types relocate. I've seen where Dominants and submissive relocate same time into a new state, just because its time for a change out of their present living. But, I also caution; so many people assume 'willing to relocate' is an automatic 'move in statement.' For me, relocation is not an invitation to move in with someone. I rather have my own place and work from it as my base camp. I am also of the opinion, that if one has served in the military and or family of military, moving has been a part of their life. Post to posts, assignments overseas for years at a time. I don't see it as a big deal to 'relocate.' What is important to mention, is regardless if Dominant or submissive, a person who is relocating should relocate for themselves first, relationship second. I recommend to move into a place that provides independence from a budding relationship and continue to date/court as any other; with all the safety issues in mind. Titles of Dominant/submissive does not offer 'bullet proof' protection to anybody, thus wishing to share that a female Dominant I am familiar with had a lad identifying themselves as a submissive, break in and assaulted, raped and robbed the female Dominant and left her for dead. So, you can see my personal concerns that as a whole, its easy to think a title of Dominant gives you immunity from harm. There is a guy who has been stalking me because I thwarted him preying on other Dominant women and Gay Leathermen. So, this is why I offer such comments as to give something to consider when dealing with people and relocating issues. Please--safety first. I view moving and or relocation as to move closer to a person that strikes one's fancy; as a case-by-case based decision. And, true there are some who wish to leave bad things behind, a bad BDSM reputation and or criminal behavior behind and find a new hide-out. There are also wonderful people out there with no bad intentions, other than to have a change in their lives; and everything in between. Regardless, any assumption and or presumptions on anybody's part is folly. People move for many reasons and in many ways. Each should be judged individually--don't ignore the what ifs. Listen to gut feelings and for every decision, there will be consequences--good or bad. Mis raíces son sepultadas aquí Meine Wurzeln werden hier begraben Mes racines sont enterrées ici Мои корни похоронены здесь Just some thoughts. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

Jeffff -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 5:50:56 AM)
Speaking for myself, under the right circumstances I would be willing to relocate. My only child is now 24, and my job would make it relatively easy to work elsewhere. I have lived in Chicago my whole life and I wouldn't mind someplace new. If the woman in question had things that made relocation hard or impossible for her, I would have to considerer it for myself. Jeff

Vanatru -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 5:56:12 AM)
We WERE living in Alpena, Michigan and I can tell you, moving to northern NY was definitely a step up not down. We came to NY to be close to her ailing mother, but even if that hadn't figured in, I would have had no problem moving here. As bad as you may think Ohio is (and yeah, with their summers, I wouldn't want to move there personally) there are places other people might also think Ohio was a step up from their location. I know of a couple that lived in Calif (and she was from there), that moved to Ohio to be closer to his family, and they both were able to find jobs much more readily and for better pay than they had in Calif. So, yes, there are definitely reasons that a guy would also consider moving for. If the real purpose is that YOU don't want to live in NE Ohio and would like to relocate, the reasons for a guy being willing to move there is moot.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 6:04:18 AM)
I picked up and moved quite easily. The company I work for can transfer me to just about any city I want to go to, assuming they are established there. I went from Cincinnati to Las Vegas and now to Nashville without a break in service at all. I am sure I am not the only person in a position that has that sort of flexibility, so their ability to move around easily doesnt necessarily indicate they are not "together". Another thing you might keep in mind is that for some people, WHERE they move comes second to WHY they are moving. If a Dom thinks his sub is worth it, that might outweigh where he has to go. Or, also, if tey truly dont like where they are right now, anywhere might be a welcome change. I hated Vegas, so I was happy to consider moving ANYWHERE. If you are not happy where you are in OH, perhaps looking for someone willing to move to you wouldnt suit you as well as someone willing to allow you to move to them. Just a thought. DV

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 6:11:43 AM)
in my case, i chose to move from the Windy City to the "wilds" of Oregon (with my UMs) even though i didn't have "willing to relocate" checked off on my profile. i would be however leaving the bulk of my family and friends behind because he cannot transfer out this way. i'm looking forward to my adventures out west and i don't have to worry about looking for another job, there are plenty of local bands out there waiting to be discovered and reviewed.

MamaDomme -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 6:19:22 AM)
As a Dominant that has willing to relocate in my profile, I wanted to reply to your question from my point of view. I am willing to relocate, for the right situation, the right relationship, the right job offer, for many reasons. But being willing, does not mean that I will just pick up and go without proper planning and reason. I have always been someone that can tend to move away and still maintain close ties with family and friends. I have lived all over the United States and love to explore. I am currently located where I am due to a forced relocation after hurricane Katrina- not because I was willing either. Yes, I would relocate-- under the right conditions. Be wary tho-- if said person has no friends throws major red flags in my opinion. No friends, to me, means that person would possibly be wanting to center their entire existance on you and that can be potentially a major problem.

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