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Missokyst -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 7:05:46 PM)
I love my family and my job. I can't concieve of anyone being able to pick up and move from a stable job unless they were retired. LOL and.. I am not sure I want to date the retiree's quite yet... ok, perhaps the military ones. But moving away from family? I think I would be happier with someone who shared the same family values as I do. I am unlikely to pick someone (again) who didn't get along with theirs and made me the new connection. Being married to one of that type put me off of it for life. Kyst

Missokyst -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 7:09:21 PM)
I totally agree with you. I have the same issues when it comes up for dom or sub, male or female. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I do not discriminate against dom or sub in this regard... why is it ok for a male submissive, a femdom, or a femsub to relocate... but it is not ok for a male dom? Seems a little stereotypical if you ask me. Since you did not ask about people moving in general, and just talked about this: quote: i wonder, perhaps unfairly, how together a Man could be that He could pick up and move to be near His lady friend.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 8:12:19 PM)
Pink nice to see you back to your over extrapolating habits. Willing to relocate hardly means "ready to pack my car and zoom away from it all tomorrow." I've known a few men like that, but I'd hardly call them secure, mature or ready to be in a solid relationship. My partner and I BOTH relocated a year and a half ago from the East Coast to Texas. It was well planned and mutually agreed upon. Willing to relocate means it's a possible option you are open to exploring given the right circumstances. I'd respect someone who isn't willing to relocate, but would make sure that they aren't doing it out of fear of change or insecurity.

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 8:14:04 PM)
i think it's just like asking why would a sub/slave just up and move from family and friends? Maybe their not happy where their at, or some other reason.

kc692 -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 8:16:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Pink nice to see you back to your over extrapolating habits. Willing to relocate hardly means "ready to pack my car and zoom away from it all tomorrow." I've known a few men like that, but I'd hardly call them secure, mature or ready to be in a solid relationship. My partner and I BOTH relocated a year and a half ago from the East Coast to Texas. It was well planned and mutually agreed upon. Willing to relocate means it's a possible option you are open to exploring given the right circumstances. I'd respect someone who isn't willing to relocate, but would make sure that they aren't doing it out of fear of change or insecurity. At least it seems we can be thankful her flame inciting skills have not improved either.

juliaoceania -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 8:18:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kc692 quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Pink nice to see you back to your over extrapolating habits. Willing to relocate hardly means "ready to pack my car and zoom away from it all tomorrow." I've known a few men like that, but I'd hardly call them secure, mature or ready to be in a solid relationship. My partner and I BOTH relocated a year and a half ago from the East Coast to Texas. It was well planned and mutually agreed upon. Willing to relocate means it's a possible option you are open to exploring given the right circumstances. I'd respect someone who isn't willing to relocate, but would make sure that they aren't doing it out of fear of change or insecurity. At least it seems we can be thankful her flame inciting skills have not improved either. I was wondering if she had a flame fetish

kc692 -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 8:26:57 PM)
lol, yep yep, weren't you here for her other incarnations? As I said, I gotta give her an e for effort, just glad they are ineffectual..

MercTech -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 8:56:03 PM)
Speaking for myself... Willing to relocate.. yes. Willing to relocate at the drop of a hat, no! My work has me traveling. I can base myself from anywhere. Why not relocate if the situation would require it. As to the friends bit, I have friends in CA, WA, PA, VA, FL, IA, OK, AR, LA, and a couple overseas. People you see every day are acquaintances. Those that would pick up and come running if you asked for help are friends. Real friends are the ones you leave a key for at the neighbors so they can use your house while you are away and they are coming through town. Stefan

sexyone4you -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 9:03:07 PM)
quote: anyone would willingly come to NE Ohio....a recesssion is underway here and it snows for 6 months a year. They all assure me They are willing to move house; They have no family quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened Dominant doesn't always equal self-reliant. See, a guy who is out of work or marginally employed can move to your place, move in with you and stay home while his slave works for him. Since he is the master, he shouldn't be expected to work, that's what he has a slave for. A great gig if you can find it! Ew, that's ugly, though I personally know at least one Dom here on CM that does it.

MaamJay -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 10:27:58 PM)
Master firstly relocated to me ... 5000km (3000 miles for you non-metric folk) diagonally across Australia ... breaking one of His own "rules" in the process. Why? Because after W/we had visited each other, He knew i was in a far better location (house, property, city) than He was. And while He loves His family, He was aware that in a relatively small country town He could hardly fart without someone knowing about it, so He was glad to move out of the apron strings for a while! W/we made sure that He could fly home at least once a year if not twice, and with phone and email, it's easy to stay in touch. He made sure He kept up with friends as well. However, over the first 3 years together, circumstances changed, a housing boom hit Perth where W/we were, making it impossible to afford a house there once the one W/we were in was sold and the proceeds split between me and my ex. On trips, i'd really enjoyed His home state, and houses were far cheaper there (like a quarter to a third the price!), so W/we made the decision to move back to His home state. W/we avoided His home town ... for the same reasons as He left and also because the topography of the place gives it a horrible climate! W/we are about 3 hours drive south in one of the most temperate climates IN THE WORLD! So W/we can readily see His family, and drove up a few weekends ago to attend one of His friend's 40th Birthday party. W/we are only 4 hours drive from a capital city ... and near a very friendly country town ... HEAVEN! waves to angelslave and looks forward to when her Sir relocates here too! Am I missing Perth? The city itself? NOT AT ALL! I love living where there are no traffic jams, locking your door is still optional, you can leave stuff all over your patio and know it will stay there, where people get to know you in shops and businesses and greet you like an old friend in no time, and where there is so little graffitti on walls etc that you notice it with amazement when you see any! Some people, yes ... after all, I'd lived there for 40 years after leaving UK when I was 11. But the pioneering spirit is part of My family ... when we left UK all those years ago, My brother was already married and settled and chose to stay. Yes that was hard, especially when he had children, but Mum and Dad accepted that he was a man, they had brought him up to be independent and so they were proud of the fact that he made his own choices. I miss Mum too, and worry as she is frail (and stubborn!), but I phone weekly and liaise with her care providers. I miss some friends, but you soon find out who the real ones are who make the effort to reciprocate your contacts and stay in touch. I will be there for a week in December and will catch up with many of them. My Mum has said many a time (too many times LOL!) ... "I don't care where in the world you live, I just want you to be happy ... and you are so obviously much happier now than you were before. I'm just glad to have my old daughter back!" There are many many reasons why people relocate! Don't be judgemental, take each case on face value. And think a bit more carefully about whether "valuing your family" can only be demonstrated by remaining tied to them ... or whether it may also be shown by the ability to embrace the principles of independence, courage and responsibility your parents instilled. However, given that Master and I are now in such a beautiful location ... it would take A LOT for Us to relocate for a sub of Mine! More likely that a sub would fall in love with this place as well as with Us! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

Maya2001 -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/27/2007 10:45:45 PM)
"Willing to relocate" does not mean "will relocate" I met one person that wanted to relocate... once I got to the root of why learned that he is in a country where a new political regime took over power and now because of circumstances that occured 30 years earlier his life was in now danger so he wanted out and was pressuring to have me accept him, once I learned why I said sorry cannot do, his monthly retirement income was about 1/2 week income for me which would mean I could get stuck supporting him. as an illegal immigrant with him trying to apply for assylum afterward, not the kind of mess I want to get into with a stranger that I will have no chance meeting prior. I have had doms ask me to relocate, for me that is a no, my job is not relocatable I have 17 years already invested in toward my retirement pension and would result in less than half the income as if I stayed , it is not enough money for me to live on should the relationship fail say 5 years down the road and for me trying to find a decent job as an unskilled labourer at say 55 years old that will pay enough to support myself would be next to impossible and because I quit so early at my current job would leave me a shortfall of sustainable income so would mean I would that have to continue working after retirement age inorder to have a self supporting income, I also have grandchildren one that is in an unstable home there could come a time I may need to step up to the plate and parent to prevent her from becoming a ward of childrens aid , it came close once already... so relocating is not an option for me, the stakesand odds are simply too high to take gambles. the current dom understands that his job is flexible and is "willing IF" things work out and we prove compatible he is willing to consider moving here, there will be a long get to know each other period before the willing becomes a potential will. If he does decide that likely I will then also have to make changes as well, I would likely have to give up and sell my home and move halfway between he can work and where i would by buying possibly a home together or renting one together for the first while. that process would take a lot of work and time to be able to plan/achieve since we would both have to sell homes and the earliest could be 2 or 3 years away since for it also involves a cross border move

eyesopened -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/28/2007 1:45:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyone4you quote: anyone would willingly come to NE Ohio....a recesssion is underway here and it snows for 6 months a year. They all assure me They are willing to move house; They have no family quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened Dominant doesn't always equal self-reliant. See, a guy who is out of work or marginally employed can move to your place, move in with you and stay home while his slave works for him. Since he is the master, he shouldn't be expected to work, that's what he has a slave for. A great gig if you can find it! Ew, that's ugly, though I personally know at least one Dom here on CM that does it. laughs and i've run into more than one who wanted just such a senario which colored my initial response. One Dom stated that he would live with me and then look for work if it became necessary, like he was gonna do me a favor if i weren't making enough money to support us. There is one little problem... CM only allows "Willing to Relocate" or nothing. No qualifiers. It can be a problem in that while i am willing to relocate, i would not want to relocate so far away from my adult ums and my grandson that i could not visit them frequently. i would not be willing to relocate just to test the waters to 'see if things work out'. i would not be willing to relocate to an area where i could not recover financially if the relationship ends. Master and i already have plans in motion for me to relocate to live with Him. He lives close enough where i can visit my family a few times a year. He lives in an area where i can pretty easily get work. He lives close enough to where if the whole thing just blows up, i can also easily get myself 'back home' if i needed to. All these and the fact that His job is not portable were factors in the decision for me to do the relocating. In reality there are plenty of Dominants (or anyone else for that matter) who do have portability in their jobs, don't have ums, don't have a specific tie to a specific location. "Willing to Relocate" is vague. "Willing to Relocate Under Ideal Circumstances" would be a more accurate profile selection, but it's not offered.

kc692 -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/28/2007 4:56:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened quote: ORIGINAL: sexyone4you quote: anyone would willingly come to NE Ohio....a recesssion is underway here and it snows for 6 months a year. They all assure me They are willing to move house; They have no family quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened Dominant doesn't always equal self-reliant. See, a guy who is out of work or marginally employed can move to your place, move in with you and stay home while his slave works for him. Since he is the master, he shouldn't be expected to work, that's what he has a slave for. A great gig if you can find it! Ew, that's ugly, though I personally know at least one Dom here on CM that does it. laughs and i've run into more than one who wanted just such a senario which colored my initial response. One Dom stated that he would live with me and then look for work if it became necessary, like he was gonna do me a favor if i weren't making enough money to support us. There is one little problem... CM only allows "Willing to Relocate" or nothing. No qualifiers. It can be a problem in that while i am willing to relocate, i would not want to relocate so far away from my adult ums and my grandson that i could not visit them frequently. i would not be willing to relocate just to test the waters to 'see if things work out'. i would not be willing to relocate to an area where i could not recover financially if the relationship ends. Master and i already have plans in motion for me to relocate to live with Him. He lives close enough where i can visit my family a few times a year. He lives in an area where i can pretty easily get work. He lives close enough to where if the whole thing just blows up, i can also easily get myself 'back home' if i needed to. All these and the fact that His job is not portable were factors in the decision for me to do the relocating. In reality there are plenty of Dominants (or anyone else for that matter) who do have portability in their jobs, don't have ums, don't have a specific tie to a specific location. "Willing to Relocate" is vague. "Willing to Relocate Under Ideal Circumstances" would be a more accurate profile selection, but it's not offered. No offense intended, but I would think "under the right or ideal circumstances" was a given. Most people(most being the qualifier) wouldn't say they would relocate no matter what the circumstances were. If they did, I would think that should be a flag.

shootingstar67 -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/28/2007 5:00:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened Dominant doesn't always equal self-reliant. See, a guy who is out of work or marginally employed can move to your place, move in with you and stay home while his slave works for him. Since he is the master, he shouldn't be expected to work, that's what he has a slave for. A great gig if you can find it! I actually had a Master like that at one time. But I didn't find him online, I found him down the street. And I kicked the loser out two months later but we were together two years. A great gig if you can find it. Yeah. They are not finding it here.

Machts -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/28/2007 7:04:53 PM)
I think it shows power and freedom to be able to leave it all behind, and start anew with success. Weak people tend to stay always the same-the bold like changes on occasion. And are equipped to do it.

Stephann -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/28/2007 8:57:24 PM)
Machts, Exactly. Virgil: Audaces fortuna iuvat. "Fortune favores the bold." Stephan

Qithoras -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (11/29/2007 3:43:11 AM)
I've seen quite a few replies that go along the lines of "Not self reliant, sit at home while the slaves works". There are alternatives. I myself do contract work here and there, mainly up at a local farm, but I only do enough to live comfortably. I personally have no desire to be apart of the 9 to 5 rat race. I myself am listed as willing to relocate, but mainly because I haven't seen all the world. I'd prefer to stay and live here, but if that's not an option for whatever reasons, I view it as a two part bonus, I get to be with the girl I care about (Because I wouldn't move in with one otherwise), and I get to see another part of the world, experience a different culture. I hope this opens up a somewhat different line of thought.

Thalamus -> RE: Doms who are 'Willing to Relocate' (12/2/2007 12:38:05 PM)
I am willing to relocate. I am a well respected (so I’m told!) professional with friends and family. I have and always will be able to support myself financially. Due to my skills I will be able to find employment in most places. Technology also means that friends and family are never more than a few clicks away or a plane journey for longer visits. It just so happens that I have reached a point in this life that I have decided to make finding a life partner a priority. I have spent the early stages of my life ensuring I have the knowledge and stability to give me the freedom of choice regarding location. Whichever person relocates we both have to go through the issues together so when I find that person I know that all the issues regarding relocation discussed in this and other threads will have been part of our journey to strengthen our bond. I would suggest that if you take the time to get to know someone then you will be secure in the knowledge of their equilibrium rather than generalising that none of us who are prepared to relocate couldn’t possibly have it all ‘together’!

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