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Growing out of something?? - 11/23/2007 11:03:52 PM

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I used to log into Collarme.com daily, read the message boards. Some or many of you know me as "Whiplashsmile".   I still pop in from time to time see what topics are being posted... It's been awhile since I read anything that moved me to respond or anything that has expanded or challenge my thoughts, views or experiences.

I remember what it was like a nearly year ago, I would read some very touching posts online here.   I would read things that broadened my thoughts and gave me new ideas.

Such as a Master and a slave taking turns at being disabled. not being able to use their hands or whatever else.   New uses and lessons, experience that could be learned and gained through Bondage or role playing. To actually play out a "What if" in life and live it for a time.

I know I tried to give back as much as I got out of the message boards. Certain things though such a Role Playing, Scene play, and many other issues... well frankly always stuck me as somewhat "Common Sense".    I don't know, perhaps I've just outgrown the message boards.    I know I certainly have not done it all, or know it all.

So I find myself questioning, what's next? What's the next level?

For me a BDSM relationship is not all that Difficult of a matter, BDSM has never been a problem itself.. however, like most people on here.   I have went through relationship problems in general.   The message board has been useful in allowing me to share things with other people and getting their honest thoughts and opinions.

LA, actually said somethings to me that made me stop and think and see a repeating pattern in my life. That I've been drawn to a certain type of women in my life. It's all sank in crystal clear to me now.   However, BDSM itself has or was never a big problem.    Actually doing BDSM has come pretty simple and smooth and natural.   The Relationship aspects itself have been problematic.

Seems like there are a number of people that make posts regarding relationship issues on here, most of these issues are not BDSM problems per se, but rather the result of poor choices and decisions.

Think the single biggest factor in all relationships BDSM or vanilla, is that two like minded people can hook up and make it work.   There really are no rules set in stone to what a BDSM relationship is.    D/s relationships are not the same for everybody, and you can do BDSM without the D/s involved.

Seems like everybody gets tripped up over problems in their D/s relationships though.   In terms of BDSM itself, I've not really read anything in awhile that has expanded my mind or challenge me.. or touched my heart even.

I've been reading BLOGS and articles on websites, things that I feel I can connect with much better. Things other people have posted about their Real Life and Real Time experiences.

I hate to toss out Generalizations, but in many regards... there's a difference between sharing and exchanging things about BDSM, compared with trying to engage in a popularity or social click contest.

I've seen a number users stop posting on here. People that I always held a great amount of respect for. People that spoke from experience, thier heart and mind.

So, did they simply move on because they outgrew the message boards here as well?? Have I outgrown the message boards? Something has changed? Is it me? is it the Quality of postings? The users using the message boards? I keep popping in and it's not the same for me anymore.

Again, I used to be a hardcore message board Junkie, posting and reading and posting. Some of you that remember me, knew me as "Whiplashsmile"...   now, I'm just here under this account.   I'm not really looking for anybody at the moment, my priorities have somewhat shifted in life.   Yes, I am open to having a BDSM relationship again with somebody, but I will not die without one either.   BDSM does not define me as person, it's simply part of who and what I am.

I'm not certain anymore about my role and participation in the online BDSM community.  All I know is that I read things, end up slapping my forehead and doing a lot of eye rolling.   I'm not trying to be mean about this, this is just the point I have reached.   Something has changed?