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Question for the females - 11/19/2007 1:50:55 AM   
dominic2008


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Hi everyone

It would be great to hear from the females here about which Male Dom profile they like the best and why?

Was it the photo,the honesty or otherwise the personality or something they said?


Looking forward to getting your opinion

Regards
Steve
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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 2:14:01 AM   
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Steve,
I will tell you right off that it is not yours. That is because you have NOTHING in it. I'm guessing you posted this to get ideas as to what to put in your profile.
 
Why don't you say something about yourself, your experience in this life style and what you are looking for. Also, fill out your interest list.
 
I like reading people's journals. That tells me a lot about them, even when all they do is rant and complain. LOL
 
Also, it might not be a bad idea to look at some of the other Doms' profiles to see how to put one together.
 
Good luck,
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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 2:29:29 AM   
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My favorite Male Dom profile is the one that belongs to the man serenading me right now :)

What caught my attention was that he was perfect. And sexy.

Sorry I can't help anymore.

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 6:05:48 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dominic2008

Hi everyone

It would be great to hear from the females here about which Male Dom profile they like the best and why?

Was it the photo,the honesty or otherwise the personality or something they said?


Looking forward to getting your opinion

Regards
Steve



Certainly, a photo helps.  Even though personality will win over looks for me, i do still have to feel some "attraction" toward the Dom.
 
Moe important than a pic is a well thought out profile...the ones that explain what "type" of Dom he is and what his view of being Dominant is...and what his views are on submission.  i also prefer to get a glimpse into whether the Dom is seeking casual play or a full time partner...what they use as their "search criteria" helps a bit too...if it shows POLY, for instance, he will take a back seat to the next Dom (for me, personally, not necessarily for *many* other subs).
 
Lastly, i also believe that reading a person's journal gives some insight into their thought process (although, this can backfire...i've added journal entries after receiving particularly disturbing emails and then removed my entry the next day, once i had time to calm down...always good to be "calm" while posting any journal entry...lol).

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 6:23:19 AM   
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What one likes the best will be the least important to someone else. More importantly is that if you construct a profile to get responses, you will not be honestly presenting yourself and the moment people see the disconnect between what you say, and who you really are, they'll label you a liar and a player. Is this what you want?

In general however, write about things you love, not just kink/sex. Refer to that briefly so if someone hates ropework and you're a shibari top they'll know you aren't compatible. But anything beyond that is for later discussions. Most of us want to get a sense of who you are as a person. If you think you have a great sense of humor, don't tell us that, display it. If your hobby is riding roller coasters, talk about that, about why you love them.

Don't talk about how you're the meanest dom to ever swagger out of the primordial seas. Don't talk about punishment, it says that you can't inspire or teach. Talk positively.

About photos, if you can safely post your face on a kink site, that's great. Otherwise a shot of you that shows your build but not your face works also.

Basically, be yourself.

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 6:24:39 AM   
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what attracted me to Daddy on the site where we met was His picture (of Him walking along the shoreline), His well-written profile outline what He was looking for. He actually didn't state that He was looking for a submissive - it wasn't misleading on His part merely His way of weeding out women who didn't fit.

what attracted me to my fiance here on CM was his smiling face and very detailed profile stating his likes and dislikes, interests in and out of the kink, etc


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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 6:51:04 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dominic2008

Hi everyone

It would be great to hear from the females here about which Male Dom profile they like the best and why?

Was it the photo,the honesty or otherwise the personality or something they said?


Looking forward to getting your opinion

Regards
Steve


I very rarely read profiles on here unless it's to laugh at some idiotic notion that is put in there.

Your best course, if you are looking for someone, is to describe yourself; your hobbies, likes, dislikes ( outside of BDSM ), as well as what you are looking for in a partner. Be honest, concise, and to the point.

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 7:01:33 AM   
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Look up "Sinergy", his profile is the one I like the best... it was posted to me, so perhaps I am a little prejudiced

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 9:24:50 AM   
HotFaerieMama


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um... my favorie Dom profiles.. um.. the ones that are my friends? well if i had to pick one favorite it would be VandalHeart but there are many reasons for that .

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 9:24:57 AM   
charlotte12


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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxi

My favorite Male Dom profile is the one that belongs to the man serenading me right now :)

What caught my attention was that he was perfect. And sexy.

Sorry I can't help anymore.


Tee hee. You made me smile.

To the OP, xoxi has good advice. Be perfect. And sexy.

Seriously though i like what Celeste said. If you focus on what people like to hear then you won't be honestly representing yourself. When i used to browse profiles i looked less at the specifics of what people said they were seeking and more at how they chose to represent themselves. I'm not looking to match an exact checklist, i'm looking to be attracted to a personality. Just try to represent yourself (as best you can in an online profile.) People who like who you are are the ones you will want to contact you anyway.

And a quick note, my perfect sexy man found me on the forums. Taking an active part in the message boards is a good way for people to get a real notion of who you are and your thoughts on many things. Master noticed me on the forums, liked my profile so wrote me. He had nothing in his profile but i had noticed him on the forums many a time so wrote him back. And the rest is....history!!

Good luck,

charlotte

*edited just for fun*  

< Message edited by charlotte12 -- 11/19/2007 9:26:33 AM >


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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 12:25:58 PM   
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It's not rocket science.  Just be yourself.  If you don't represent yourself in a true sense, it will come out later and those that have chosen to spend some time with you will realize and they will be pissed that they wasted their time.

Post some pictures of yourself.  Be explicit about what you are looking for.  Be patient and you will get contacts and meet others with similiar interests. 

Oh, one more thing.....
If you like a certain profile and it says either "Women Only" or "No Men", please, PLEASE respect that and don't be an idiot thinking that you can change the mind of the profile owner and send them an email anyway. 

Best wishes in your search!
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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 12:25:59 PM   
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I like one that doesn't assume all females are submissive...or het!

Master Fire - some days it gets me more than others.


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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 12:37:46 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I like one that doesn't assume all females are submissive...or het!

Master Fire - some days it gets me more than others.



I agree. Thank you Master Fire.


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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 1:18:17 PM   
Prinsexx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dominic2008

Hi everyone

It would be great to hear from the females here about which Male Dom profile they like the best and why?

Was it the photo,the honesty or otherwise the personality or something they said?


Looking forward to getting your opinion

Regards
Steve


Do I really have to?
Oh well....since you INSIST....here they are and have added a few:
What kind of Dom are you?  
THE HIPPIE DOM Will demand absolute trust yet want to spend endless hours debating what trust is until his and your boundaries become diffused in the candlelight. Prefers whackjobs to blow jobs. Has differential beat so demands 27/4 instead of 24/7 as time shifts in the haze of previously illegal substances use. Prefers his hair to be longer than his subs’ so will expect you to be shaven. Is out of his freakin mind so don’t expect a serious response to an application. An ability to endure loud music and produce the food when its munchie time would be an advantage.
THE "BEEN DOING THIS FOREVER" VASTLY EXPERIENCED DOM looking for lesser beings, on whom to bestow virtually limitless wealth of BDSM knowledge. The 'submit your application and find out if you have sufficient intellect and wisdom, to be considered for such an important position' profile approach.
THE DUNGEON MASTER SUPREMELY SADISTIC DOM PROFILE seeking caged slave, taken out only to be used for sadistic pleasure. The 'Your tears will only make me laugh' approach. Please only "real" pain sluts need apply.
THE ESOTERIC MYSTICAL NEW AGE DOM PROFILE Explore the wonders of the cosmos with him, through a metaphysical application of the Dom/sub dynamic  Please only financially solvent subs and slaves apply, as the pursuit of material wealth, is eshewed in favour of a metaphysical calling.
THE EXCRUCIATINGLY WEALTHY POWER DOM PROFILE Stunningly wealthy Dom seeking additions to his ever growing stable of subs and slaves. Even subs will have servants, just to help you serve his needs. You should be young, slim, attractive and brandable as appearances are very important in his world and you will be displayed as a trophy.
THE KING DOM PROFILE Kneel when you read this bitch. You will obey! recognise a real Master when you are in His presence, or even when you are not. Even though you are unworthy of attention, he is currently taking applications from worthless sluts and only real ass licking sluts should apply.
THE KNOW ALL, NEVER BEEN WRONG ABOUT ANYTHING UBER DOM PROFILE Some may think of him as pedantic overbearing know it all, and may warn him to leave the Forum or Moderte his posts but this doesn't concern him as he  never actually paid attention to any other opinion than his own. Don't waste time applying.
THE SENSITIVE UNDERSTANDING GUY DOM PROFILE Looking for a submissive life partner who will reward and understand sensitivity with loyalty and commitment. Wants to dominate you on a partnership basis, although there is democracy within the dynamic and if you tend to fall in love please contact him.
WHITE KNIGHT CELTIC LORD: where he goes you will follow, he is the Alpha and you arethe Omega. Looking for The One. He is polyamorous but you must be single and hopefully a virgin. Apply if you need to be saved.
THE BARBARIAN DOM Will believe his lady should be captured, cherished, ravished, used to calm his sadistic barbarian urges, moderate his barbarian qualities with love and devotion, and even spend time grunting. He will grunt back that he is alone but is likely to have a secret stash of other slaves hidden in the back of the cave. Apply by sneaking into his cave before nightfall and making tribal pictures on the walls in bodily fluids. That will ensure he follows your trail at daybreak.
THE THOROUGHLY-ENGLISH DOM Likely to be a mature gentleman looking primarily to deliver ‘English’ lessons, that is a jolly good spank, or perhaps a slipper (or two), Will use other forms of discipline only as his need arises. Prefers slimmish younger women for occasional play or on a regular basis. Could be trapped in an unhappy marriage (as forced to walk the dog) and the prohibitive cost school fees and mortgage make it impossible to get divorced. Social status is of paramount importance and although he admittedly finds it somewhat difficult to delegate in the workplace he is absolutely realized in his mastery. Refers to you as his property: owned, rented or attached.
CHIRO DOM...a sub class of DOCTOR DOM.....
This Dom transfers some professional understanding or interest in medicine into his bdsm practice. Expert in the use of enema, scalpels and 'internals' will all take place within the confidentiality of a clinical setting. Often assisted by a 'nurse'. His waiting list may be long but worth the wait. Home visits are made by special arrangement. Pee-hole, blood-letting, deep muscle massage and TNS sluts will receive immediate attention. As nurse usually accompanies him bi, or bi-curious applications will go to the top of the list.   THE PLACEBO DOM This Dom is indistinguishable from the real thing. Subs will believe thay have met a man that will be a wonderful Dom/Master, a man that sounds as if he can fulfill all of their wants, needs and desires. He has me "under consideration" and we shall soon meet. However his power lies in his ability to ritualise and manipulate and he controls solely on the basis of endless proposals and propositions as opposed to suggestions (for this see Hypno Dom). Sometimes this has non-specific effects: although submissives feel their experience altered in some way, they remain in anticipation, under consideration or expectation that they will eventually be collared. The effect is usually short-lived but is contra-indicated as lasting for years, usually after many years in suspension, in corner time or enduring prolonged training periods submissives will eventually turn to the real thing.

And actually prefer the Dom I have (back again)....he's in a class of his own .Takes a curtsy and says good night.

edt to say and they are not strictly for the ladies.....since when did we exclude the queers?


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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 1:54:17 PM   
Grlwithboy


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Funny smart and knows I'm a lost cause and we can be friends.



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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 3:27:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: charlotte12

And a quick note, my perfect sexy man found me on the forums. Taking an active part in the message boards is a good way for people to get a real notion of who you are and your thoughts on many things.




The content of the profile and pics on it (or missing from it) aside...

I can certainly attest that participating in the forums is a great way for someone to be drawn to your profile and see the work you may (or may not) have put into it.

So............forums = good.  Empty, lame profile = yuck.


*tips his hat*

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 4:15:25 PM   
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Is it interesting?  Is it honest?  Does it reflect who you are and what you are looking for clearly and concisely?  Avoid a lot of added verbage that makes you sound like the domliest dom and you should be fine.  Also, pictures are generally a plus.  (the only reasons I don't have any up are 1 I'm not looking for partners and 2 the only BDSM pics we have of me aren't decent!)

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 4:37:22 PM   
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It's hard to admit, but the BEST male profile is my own.   Pattern your profile off mine and you will do exceptionally well.   Women find it so irresistable that they are hesitant to contact me, they fear the power it invokes.

Perfection is a true curse, but it is a cross that the truely gifted are required to bear.

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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 4:41:28 PM   
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When i saw my Daddy on here (before actually "meeting" him on MySpace) the first thing that just about literally jumped out at me was his pic. It was a very clear pic of his face and hair (*sigh*) and a peek of his chest.

The profile itself was concise and to the point. It was a bit romantic but also firmly planted in the normal non-romantic world. His vocabulary also struck me.

(but i wasn't actually looking at the time so i didn't contact him and then POOF 3 months later we "met" on MySpace...3 years later we are living together and i have been collared for almost 2 years)


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RE: Question for the females - 11/19/2007 4:45:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

What one likes the best will be the least important to someone else. More importantly is that if you construct a profile to get responses, you will not be honestly presenting yourself and the moment people see the disconnect between what you say, and who you really are, they'll label you a liar and a player. Is this what you want?

In general however, write about things you love, not just kink/sex. Refer to that briefly so if someone hates ropework and you're a shibari top they'll know you aren't compatible. But anything beyond that is for later discussions. Most of us want to get a sense of who you are as a person. If you think you have a great sense of humor, don't tell us that, display it. If your hobby is riding roller coasters, talk about that, about why you love them.

Don't talk about how you're the meanest dom to ever swagger out of the primordial seas. Don't talk about punishment, it says that you can't inspire or teach. Talk positively.

About photos, if you can safely post your face on a kink site, that's great. Otherwise a shot of you that shows your build but not your face works also.

Basically, be yourself.


I agree with this.  Some of the best profiles I have seen on here are humorous and short, however, if that isn't you, it's not.  Be you, be honest and be patient in your search.



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