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painneeded -> Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 7:48:54 AM)

Hello,

I recently became involved with a Dom who loves Daddy/daughter roleplay. It started out with strict discipline then evolved to sex (no suprise). However, he was so intense, so lost in the fantasy, that I began to worry. He has two teenage daughters that he is raising on his own (a widower) and my question here is if there is any correlation between the fantasy and possible reality. Of course I know no one knows what is occuring with his family behind closed doors, but your opinions would certainly be helpful.




DomGentFL -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 7:55:35 AM)

YUP




xiam -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 8:09:02 AM)

I wouldn't worry about it too much.. a lot of us have intense fanatsies that have no bearing outside of our sex lives.  Not everyone with a rape fantasy is a rapist, and not everyone with a Daddy fetish is a child molestor.  In a way, i think these fanatsies are what keep us from acting out in reality.  Maybe?

That said, if you feel uncomfortable with it, you have a right to discuss it with him.  Have fun and good luck!




ResidentSadist -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 8:59:07 AM)

Absolutely.... "desire" is the coloration between taking action in reality or in fantasy. 
 
There has to be desire for the fantasy to work.  However, you state his desire is strong enough to act out this fantasy with you.  Well, if he was banging his own daughters, why would he need to fulfill his desire with fantasy when he has the real thing at home? 




slaveofKaos -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 1:37:00 PM)

I absolutly agree with xiam and RedidentSadist. Why would he be doing it with you if he could make it more real by actually doing it ? I think it is just fantasy and he wants it to be as real as possible.




mtl146687 -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 2:29:23 PM)

Im not sure, but being a psychology major in university, chances are he's at least thought about it. And the reason he's so intense about it is because he may be frustrated that he cant in real life? If I was in your situation Id see how he interacts with his own daughters, and even bring it up with him.




DianeB269 -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 2:32:48 PM)

I'd dump him in a heartbeat....


Diane




YourhandMyAss -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 4:40:43 PM)

Anything's possible,  and you can't rely on opinions of people on the net, if you're worried ask him. Only he can tell you what HIS motivation is.




batshalom -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 5:08:04 PM)

I have an extreme Daddy / daughter kink but the thought of doing it with my dad gives me the shudders. For me, it's the desire to belong, to be safe - maybe for him it's nothing more than wanting the same in reverse. Stating unequivocally that he has a thing for his own daughters is like saying the people who are into pony / puppy play want to fuck animals. If it makes you feel uncomfortable though, refuse to participate.




EEdwardGrey -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 5:19:06 PM)

It’s a tough call.  My immediate thought was that he wants to get with his daughters, but then I thought of myself, or any of us.  Do we want to be judged for who we are by our kink or fantasies?  Women have rape fantasies, that does not mean they want to be raped.  He has a daddy/daughter fetish, that does not mean he wants to get with his daughters.  But then again there is just something about the situation you described that doesn't sit right with me.  That's probably hypocritical, but then I did say it is a tough call.  You should investigate further.




Tigrita -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 5:30:46 PM)

FR

Should people with teenage daughters be precluded from having extremely kinky daddy/daughter fantasies like that and exploring them as realistically as possible?  I'm not going to answer that, maybe they should, maybe it is just too close to home and they should just do their best to discourage the thoughts; or maybe it is cathartic and would be a release and prevent the actual horribly unethical and destructive act from occuring.  I'm not one to say, but the fact is, having kids I'm sure doesn't change your kinky and sexual wiring.





Celeste43 -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 5:55:26 PM)

Talk to him about it. See how he acts around real teens. Does he turn his head and drool when one walks by? Has the fantasy predated being a parent? Is his interest more in sublimating the desire to use corporal punishment on a teen (since it is axiomatic that raising teens is like nailing jello to a wall)?

But if you're uncomfortable with this, then that's all you need to say. The feelings that make you uncomfortable may be coming from him, but they could just as easily be coming from you - forgotten occasions of being leered at by a family friend for example.

Whatever the cause, it doesn't matter. The fact is that you don't want to do this now. And that's fine. It doesn't necessarily mean he ought to be locked up, or that you are a prude, it just means you aren't compatible.




windchymes -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 5:59:50 PM)

I'd LIKE to think he's getting it all out of his system by acting out the fantasy with a consenting adult.  But you really never know...




Lumus -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 6:32:50 PM)

'Roleplay' doesn't imply anything on reality.  If you are only performing RP and this isn't an actual D/g relationship, the intensity could simply be from touching on a taboo.  I like girls in nun costumes.  I'm not about to rape a whole convent.

Or, more pertinently:  I am in a D/g relationship and one of my children [from a previous relationship] is a teenaged female.  I'm not going to substitute my girl abdi in my mind with thoughts of my daughter when we have sex, nor am I a paedophile; paedophiles who seek the opposite sex are rare to begin with, and their ability to connect sexually with an adult of the opposite sex is virtually non-existent.

The assumption is easy to make, I guess.  Research shows otherwise, but try explaining that to someone for whom the topic is a hot button. [;)]




frustratinggirl -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/18/2007 6:38:49 PM)

Well reverse the situation, does your girl fetish mean you desire to sleep with your father? Id assume not, although if your intuition is saying somehing it may be either that something is really up with him or that your not totally comfortable with the fetish from the male perspective.  In any case, time and good judgement should give you a better viewpoint, and as everybody mentions , communication, although I dont really know how you could bring that up in a manner thats unembarrassing. 




nicefun -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/19/2007 10:47:40 AM)

Nobody can be certain about your situation, but loads of guys have little girl fantasies, you only have to look on the net for daddy/daughter roleplay phone sex lines, hundreds of them so obviously a huge demand, most stay fantasy but there are a few exceptions, so you should be ok. We've been having very realistic daddy/daughter roleplay for ages and we haven't had any probs. Enjoy!




Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/19/2007 10:52:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: painneeded

Hello,

I recently became involved with a Dom who loves Daddy/daughter roleplay. It started out with strict discipline then evolved to sex (no suprise). However, he was so intense, so lost in the fantasy, that I began to worry. He has two teenage daughters that he is raising on his own (a widower) and my question here is if there is any correlation between the fantasy and possible reality. Of course I know no one knows what is occuring with his family behind closed doors, but your opinions would certainly be helpful.



Well there are Daddy/daughter D/s relationships and then Age Role Play and even Daddy/Daughter role playing.  Keep in mind these three things are all sperate, different yet similar at the same time.   

Sound more like he's role playing out a Daddy/daughter D/s relationship with you, at least based on how you phrased your post.  In terms of life, there's always some correlation that can be made, the thing is making the right correlations for the right reasons.




topcat -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/19/2007 12:17:22 PM)

Dear PN-

While I do agree with everyones point that fantasys are likely to not have a counterpart in reality, There's something I'd like to add...

If it disturbs you, pay some heed to it- very often some subtle pre-concious clue is making you wary, and often, time bears out our first impluses. Again, this is not to say that he is diddling kiddies, or even that I think it likely, but rather to say that you shouldn't totally disregard your gut either.

Stay warm,
Lawrence




Faramir -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/19/2007 2:35:21 PM)

Well, I like to slap the shit out of my slave, humiliate her and use her like an object.  I'm so into it, I'm sure it must look like I'm lost in it.  So obvious I must want to violently assult other people in a non-consensual way.

Plus I lik to rape her ass.  And that means I must want to rape women in general.

So yea, the people above who pointed out you should be very careful, and that you never know, are making warranted connections between evidence and their claims.  P_lus they are being relaly intellectually consist, since they apply the exact same standard to their kinks!!




tdslittlehelper -> RE: Daddy/daughter roleplay... (11/20/2007 10:36:42 AM)

I am wondering when did you feel that the line was crossed.  You stated that it started out as strict discipline then evolved to sex
But then you said that it was so intense and you felt he was lost in the fantasy.. at what point did you feel that he got lost in it? Was it when it turned sexual?  Was it during the discipline part?  Why did you feel he was lost?  When it was all over did he "return" back to the present and when he did did he seem remorsful or like everything was normal? I ask these questions because I find it intresting that you said that it evolved to sex.. was that in the original "script"?





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