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RE: Fear - 5/6/2008 2:28:46 PM

kiwisub12

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My Sir doesn't do knife play, wax play , needles or any other edge play - because it doesn't do anything to me - i am not afraid.
I trust my Sir not to hurt or damage me.
When i was brand new, i was afraid because i literally didn't know what bdsm involved, and i hadn't been with Sir long. I now trust him with my life and love, and he has never let me down.

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RE: Fear - 5/6/2008 11:12:03 PM

summersprite

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Fear with trust is a good fear. In a session, I trust Sir not to take me beyond where I can cope, but I do feel a 'safe' fear with lots of things we do, especially when it's something new.

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RE: Fear - 5/7/2008 2:52:29 AM

StormsSlave

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Why should My Lord need to prove my trust to him through fear? Why push those boundaries when there are so many wonderful means of control, TPE, and dominance that excite and delight me? Why run the risk of damaging the relationship we have outside of our sex for the sake of proving some point that serves only him?

I do not fear My Lord. I have not from the first. When he tells me he is going to hurt me, I shiver in anticipation and excitement. When he blindfolds me, I lay very still, not with fear, but anticipation, trying to hear what he is doing. When he hits me, chains me, teases me, or bites me, I feel no fear, only thrills, and the excitement of his own arousal and sadistic pleasure at my reaction. If ever my fear is expressed, the action is passed over and discussed later. Fear is negative to the person who experiences it. If I am trusting enough to allow the man to render me helpless and speechless, to use my body, I better trust him enough to know that he would never willfully hurt me.

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RE: Fear - 5/7/2008 8:26:34 PM

lostgirl83

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I think it depends on how the fear is brought on...
For instance, before I knew collarme existed I tried meeting a few Dominant men on craigslist. It was a horrible idea but at the time I didn't know any better and met one I hadn't talked to for more than a few days. We met for a drink and went to his hotel room and needless to say the things that went on left me afraid in a bad way. After meeting a few *somewhat* sane (heh sorry!) men that I have had more time to talk to and get to know, I've been more trusting and the element of fear has come back in some scenes in a good way Fear and anticipation heighten the senses and make the surprise of whats to come that much more enjoyable. It definately has its place once you know and trust your Dom!

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