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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 11:44:16 AM   
deziray


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Is it just me, or do others feel they get kinkier and less inhibited the older they get?

LOL I sure do hope so

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 12:05:43 PM   
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. Having a partner "age" with you with equal confidence and willing to appreciate the fun of something unique is invaluable. Fun lasts longer because the memory is shared.




Thanks for the reply. But that is just my point: if you found that partner to age with, that is best and most desirable thing about aging; the togetherness. My point was getting older is of course an opportunity for further growth, and if you possess the self confidence and self awareness that you did not have earlier in life, now is the time to share all that, including kink.

But if you do not have that partner to "age gracefully with" then you have to deal with all the growth you did by yourself.

So "what the fuck" can be construed as, Why the fuck am I so fabulous and still have not met the kinky man of my dreams, LOL?

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 12:13:40 PM   
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No. What you get, if you aren't afraid of the prospect, is more self aware. With that awareness comes more confidence, bringing with it the willingness and ability to try new things. You appreciate more of the subtle nuances of various sensations. You become aware of more opportunities. Callouses form where the sensation has become redundant and relief comes from doing something different even if it results in forming a blister. Sure those blisters can be painful, but that's how you know you are alive! 


I was going to say something along these lines, but Merc said it better and it bears repeating.

I also fully agree that the "what the fuck" attitude spreads out to all parts of one's life, not just "kink".  And in fact, the more you are open to exploring and experimenting, the more aware you become and the more you are open to exploring and experimenting...and so on.  Makes life pretty exciting that way :)

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 12:15:36 PM   
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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 12:57:06 PM   
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But if you do not have that partner to "age gracefully with" then you have to deal with all the growth you did by yourself.

So "what the fuck" can be construed as, Why the fuck am I so fabulous and still have not met the kinky man of my dreams, LOL?


Ah, but the "what the fuck" works best as a process to find that other person. You'll have to trust me on this, but I don't think I would have found my own personal "sexy red" without reaching a major "what the fuck" stage in my life. There was a cross-road to experience that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, but coming out the other side was a perspective that NOTHING was worse in life than looking back and thinking "what might have been!".

A pragmatic sense of mortality is amazingly empowering. Not to the point of recklessness, but for an appreciation that the "worst case" anticipated is never the "worst case" as long as you are breathing at the end of it. I also realized you miss out on a lot of "best cases" talking yourself into believing the "worst case" is probable and not making the attempt. That's where the "self awareness" comes into play, and being happy with yourself and/or your situation. Because the real "worst case" is that you are still alone and if you aren't happy with that person. But then, how can you expect anyone else to be?

Meanwhile, the attempt at the experience in and of itself should be fun. I never expected to find a partner. If I KNEW anything - I knew I didn't want one. Meanwhile, I was out there with every opportunity; out there - NOT on-line except for the purpose served on the other side of this site. Not a weekend went by without some kind of fun opportunity to meet someone if not in meeting someone contacted through profile contact. Many times they didn't show, we didn't 'click', or they weren't exactly the gender they represented. Not once did I come back home to my apartment alone and think something similar to "Why the fuck am I so fabulous and still have not met..." And I'm a disreputable, calloused, skeptical, old, sarcastic, teasing, egomaniac, bald, guy; not a "sexy red" - Jersey Girl!

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 1:35:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		sexyred1...I'm considerably older than you are and I have NO problem whatsoever finding someone to be kinky with.  I am a shared slave by my Master and the interest in me, because of my maturity, my experience and my "kinkiness" is expressed over and over again by ALL age groups.  Me thinks your will the opinion you have expressed here as you too face the inevitable and grow older.


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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 1:40:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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But if you do not have that partner to "age gracefully with" then you have to deal with all the growth you did by yourself.

So "what the fuck" can be construed as, Why the fuck am I so fabulous and still have not met the kinky man of my dreams, LOL?


Ah, but the "what the fuck" works best as a process to find that other person. You'll have to trust me on this, but I don't think I would have found my own personal "sexy red" without reaching a major "what the fuck" stage in my life. There was a cross-road to experience that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, but coming out the other side was a perspective that NOTHING was worse in life than looking back and thinking "what might have been!".

A pragmatic sense of mortality is amazingly empowering. Not to the point of recklessness, but for an appreciation that the "worst case" anticipated is never the "worst case" as long as you are breathing at the end of it. I also realized you miss out on a lot of "best cases" talking yourself into believing the "worst case" is probable and not making the attempt. That's where the "self awareness" comes into play, and being happy with yourself and/or your situation. Because the real "worst case" is that you are still alone and if you aren't happy with that person. But then, how can you expect anyone else to be?

Meanwhile, the attempt at the experience in and of itself should be fun. I never expected to find a partner. If I KNEW anything - I knew I didn't want one. Meanwhile, I was out there with every opportunity; out there - NOT on-line except for the purpose served on the other side of this site. Not a weekend went by without some kind of fun opportunity to meet someone if not in meeting someone contacted through profile contact. Many times they didn't show, we didn't 'click', or they weren't exactly the gender they represented. Not once did I come back home to my apartment alone and think something similar to "Why the fuck am I so fabulous and still have not met..." And I'm a disreputable, calloused, skeptical, old, sarcastic, teasing, egomaniac, bald, guy; not a "sexy red" - Jersey Girl!


Hey! Ya know, I did say LOL, didn't I? I always love your posts, this one included and I am not being negative, just wanted to point out some things.

But you are right, oh so right, life is a continued adventure, always has been, always will be.

Thanks for the words. Oh, and I am not too much of a Jersey Girl, although I do worship Bruce Springsteen.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 1:44:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: vixenkneels

sexyred1...I'm considerably older than you are and I have NO problem whatsoever finding someone to be kinky with.  I am a shared slave by my Master and the interest in me, because of my maturity, my experience and my "kinkiness" is expressed over and over again by ALL age groups.  Me thinks your will the opinion you have expressed here as you too face the inevitable and grow older.



vixen, I did not say I had a problem finding someone to be kinky with, that is easy as hell.  It is the RIGHT person to be kinky with, BIG DIFFERENCE. I was simply voicing another view on the entire topic. I know I have time and I am fine with me.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 6:14:27 PM   
julietsierra


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Status: offline 		oh heck yes!! Even my hair got kinkier. No kidding. When I was younger, it was bone straight. I hit 39 (coincidentally at the same time someone told me about this and my reaction was "are you fucking looney?!" but was hooked nonetheless), my hair started getting curlier.. and now, it's naturally curly and to get it even remotely straight, I have to straighten it.

I'm sure that's not what you were thinking, but for me that's how it worked out.

One day, my dad said to me, "j, you've gotten kinkier in your old age (talking about my hair)" and all I could say was "you're so right Dad" (NOT talking about my hair).


juliet

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 7:08:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Is it just me, or do others feel they get kinkier and less inhibited the older they get?

I don't know that I'm any kinkier... but I've certainly had more time to think up all sorts of creative ideas.  That an my shopping a Lowes and Radio Shack has taken a few unusual directions. 

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 7:20:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think we become kinkier as we get older.
I, however, think we are more able to deal with those desire's, also have the ability and opportunity to play out our kink.  I think we become more confident within ourselves, more sure of ourselves. Less worried with what others ( family in particular ) think about it.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 7:23:55 PM   
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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 7:37:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		At 50(my current age) i truly believe i am a lot more kinky than i was at say 20. But that goes with life experience and the ability to accept who i am and the way i am better, without questioning myself or second guessing myself about it.

rose aka Michaelsangel

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 7:59:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Of course we get kinkier as we get older..we sense the ending of our life in ever increasing awareness.....Tempting

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 8:23:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I actually got kinkier last week.

I calculated my kink....and by 4:37 P.M.....I had a major fucking kink episode.

By 6:27....I was in major kink mode.

By 7:43....I was already setting trends....by 8:56 I was looking up on Google for previous kinkmeisters to see if I'd fucked someone over.

At 9:14 I'd given up on my search...I was determined that I was already over the top....I knew I couldn't handle my own kink.

At 10:53...I'd called the Kink cops....I was in trouble.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 8:25:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

Of course we get kinkier as we get older..we sense the ending of our life in ever increasing awareness.....Tempting


Wow!

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 8:42:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pompeii

Is it just me, or do others feel they get kinkier and less inhibited the older they get?




I don't know if I'm kinkier or less inhibited the older I get, all I know is I get hornier.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 8:44:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, I think that accounts for most of it.  Not just more money to spend on toys, but more time to reflect on who you are and finally to accept it.

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Personally, I think we end up with more of the means to pursue our kinkiness as we get older.  More disposable income to buy the toys and beds and such.  A greater comfort level and acceptance for who and what we are allowing us to more freely express who and what we are.  More of the means to achieve what we set out to do.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 9:26:54 PM   
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When I hit 40 the sexual doors were blown open and  it was like an endorphine freedom that I had never felt before. Now that Im getting close to 45 its only getting better. Thankfully Master has adjusted well to this lol.


haha yeah so true....I thought I knew how enjoyable sex was until I hit my late 30's and realized I knew nothing about it.  I guess one could argue that's just hormones, but honestly, it's alot about attitude as well.  Instead of worrying about or retaining the education of society's standards, I tend to have developed into this hell you only live once and I ain't getting any younger hedonistic attitude about it.  Is that from age, experience or just rejecting common dogma or all three?  I don't know, honestly I'm enjoying the ride, I don't really care why.

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RE: Do you get kinkier the older you get? - 11/9/2007 9:38:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		And heaven forbid the 18 yo who actually IS self aware and confident enough to start getting 'really kinky' right out of the gate- there's a ton of bricks to carry on your back there, trust me.

I agree with Rover- it's much more about access, leisure time, disposable income and class type.  Most people need decades to even begin to know who they are and confident enough to own even a piece of that for themselves.

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