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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 6:16:57 PM)
I'm zero masochistic. I'm sadistic enough to drool occasionally at the fantasy of screams and bones breaking and crying children. But only occasionally.

meticulousgirl -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 7:25:54 PM)
My post was very undetail oriented for a reason...I wanted everyone to open their own minds and express their own views (in the now, not the past, and not the future) as most of you know my main satisfaction in this lifestyle comes from pleasing my Owner, i have been trained to inadvertently enjoy the mental aspects of the lifestyle however most of our physical interactions are S&M related and at times more than i've ever thought that i could take. i'm currently exploring that side of me, a side that i never really knew existed in reality until a few weeks ago. i've always craved to be spanked, to be bound, gagged and have more than my original limits done to me but being masochistic never really dawned on me and i'm not really sure why but now i'm getting it and researching it to dig deeper into myself (there's always something you know). Great posts, i hope more join in. ~meticulous~

petdave -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 7:37:26 PM)
i'm fairly masochistic, but cursed with the "brain is tougher than the ass" thing.... i always want a LOT in theory, then in practice, start crying like a bitch. Oh well. i like being pushed... i always want scarier cuts, bigger darker bruises, more needles and clamps, nastier welts... More more more! Growing up a masochist in the pre-Internet Porn days (woe!) gave me some unnerving interests. This is the second time i've seen reference to a breaking bones thread... guess i'll have to sneak through the Master section or something to find it [&:]

wintersbreath -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 7:40:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ 0 on the scale of being masochistic; but I am fairly sadistic minded.

chellekitty -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 8:05:03 PM)
ok....examples....hmm...well, seeing as how i don't interpret pain in the way that most people do, i would probably leave out a whole lot of experiences that most would consider masochistic experiences...actually....thinking about it...i haven't had too many people that could actually hurt me in a masochistic way...they either hurt me in a way that felt good that i don't want to stop....or they hurt me in a way that was bad that i do want to stop....for me masochistic pain is neither of those, it is pain that feels bad that i don't want to stop...and has a lot more to do with mental state than most people give credit....so....really thinking about it....there were 3 instances with 3 people, 2 types of play and 1 technique that Tops i have played with have been willing to do to me...i have asked for more...but no one is willing to do it because of the inherent risk in doing it...(they won't turn my back into hamburger meat when they are not in a relationship with me, dammit...) so...the examples... the types of play (because the instances and the people are irrelevant) 1) nipple torture 2) pressure point play the technique ~constant pressure...with the nipple torture it was digging all 4 fingertips and nails of both hands into my nipples and closing his fist, he stuck his nipple in my mouth and as i bit harder he squeezed harder, if i let up he let up....it was a weird catch 22....i wanted to grind my teeth to deel with the pain, but that caused more pain, but if i let up on my teeth, that caused more pain because it let the blood flow back in....so....what to do, what to do..........with the pressure point play, i've only had two people really do this with me....and the first man that did, did it really fucking well...(remember, everything that is in a toy bag is in there for a reason, even chopsticks with no rubber bands...) i should point out that there is not many types of play i can think of that i have not done...i have had done to me: flogging, caning, paddling, punching, kicking, slapping, belting, strapping, nipple torture, breast torture, pussy torture, whipping (with a single tail - its actually my favorite activity, i've had blood drawn plenty of times, it just doesn't hurt in a bad way), ritualistic cutting and branding, permanent piercing...in fact the only "painful" thing i can think of i have not done, and i am ready to do it now is temporary piercing...unless medical stapling counts...cause i did that to myself a month or so ago on the train....does that count? and of course there was the sewing things into my skin in my younger days for a week or so....what about that? maybe i have done temporary piercings...i dunno...my point....i don't consider any of that masochistic play....none of that stuff has been done in a way that hurts in a bad way that i wanted it to continue... chelle

chellekitty -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 8:06:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petdave This is the second time i've seen reference to a breaking bones thread... guess i'll have to sneak through the Master section or something to find it [&:] its in the Ask a sub/slave section....called breaking a submissive, as such

Celeste43 -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 8:10:12 PM)
Not at all, play is very non pain here. We're bondage fanatics.

Kana -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 8:19:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads It all depends on the dynamic and circumstances. If the vibe is right and she is going deeply into it while I am taking her down, I can push really far. I have used a weighted rubber strap hard enough to leave permanent marks and have zero difficulty in taking someone through the barrier of ears and out again into the other side. Bleeding nipples, bruises that last for days, heavy impact play, all these I like.The key element is a willing participant. Breaking bones or cutting I do not do, nor would even consider.Thats over my lines. I would consider branding if I was certain that the situation was safe. Fantasies are a different thing entirely. I think about lots of things I would never do in reality for a variety of reasons. Suffice to say that very often the more taboo something is the more I can take erotic pleasure out of the idea.There are many examples of serious degredation/humiliation/objectification that fall into this category for me. Some of them I have had the pleasure of actualizing over the years, many others I wouldn't try even were the opportunity to present itself. One question that I always have to ask myself is "How would the local district attorney look upon what I am doing?" Seeing how I have a strong aversion to prison, this is something to contemplate. ~meticulous~

SixFootMaster -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 11:18:26 PM)
FR I'm as sadistic as the girl I'm with is masochistic - sadism by itself has no interest to me (asides from being an evil tease). Throw in a hot little masochistic submissive and my capacities and interests immediately raise to match hers, it's more about the interaction and stimulation and using whatever triggers and vulnerabilities to manipulate and work the girl into one heck of a shaking sweaty mess. It's pure intoxication to push a girl to her limits, and to give her that energy that makes her vibrant like a supernova.

twistedkytten -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 11:40:08 PM)
FR- He is incredibly sadistic she is not a masochist However- she belongs to Him absolutely and in that, she edures what He gives.. it makes little to no difference if she likes it .. it simply does not matter Here is how it works in her brain.. this is an example, please keep in mind that there is years of trust and she knows He is there constantly.. He binds the girls hands behind her back He knows she is terrified of any mix of breath play and water.. yet here she stands shaking visibly on the edge of the dock... quietly she asks... do any of them ever just jump in Master? His confident reply No precious girl, they all need a little help... softer still she thanks her Master .. as she steps off the dock..

MistressPurpleFL -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 12:57:17 AM)
He He How Sadistic am I? Besides my limits such as No scat, no children, no extreme blood, no animals I am open for just about anything. Nothing turns me on than having a slave wiggle first they are uncomfortable but when the pleasure comes as well it is so arousing. When a sub/slave has been naughty it is such a delight for me to punish them. Locked in cages for hours or even days; touched and teased with no release for days; whipped until such redness appears then alcohol and ice and wax come into play... Smiles oh the memories of my sub/slave face.. such tender reactions. There are many more examples but I will stop for now.

BitaTruble -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 2:02:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ The sadist within me manifests itself artistically and never spontaneously. I plan the scenes I do with a great deal of thought and care to what I want to create, the media I'll utilize, the placement on the body etc. I have spent up to two solid months getting ready for a particular showpiece, designing & cutting stencils, mixing wax, making my feathers, etc. Generally, my scenes will go from 3 to 5 hours depending on how elaborate the piece is going to be. My favorite palette is the back, my favorite utensils are needles, wax and rope. I often use beads and the aforementioned feathers as well .. and I'm done when my artists eye is satisfied that the piece which I wanted to create is before me. The human canvas, of course, cannot have any limits on the media I wish to use and such is always agreed beforehand. I go as far as I go, never past what was agreed upon and if the piece satisfy's me and turns out better in a less is more sorta of way, I will stop earlier than expected so as not to destroy the integrity of the art. I do find the majority of my finished pieces are quite beautiful and sometimes it hurts to be beautiful. [;)] I won't get into the masochism question since I'm burned out talking about it from the many no limits threads over last few weeks. I go where I go and that's enough of the subject for me. Celeste

CuriousLord -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 2:13:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? Masochistic: Zero. Sadistic: Zero to mild, depending. I can certainly enjoy teasing. Spanking, too, can be rather fun. Some other things, but nothing "hard core", really. But, the part that's.. different.. to me is that, despite the activity, I never seem to enjoy either pain or damage inflicted. For some reason, I just happen to think spanking a girl can be fun; it's not about hurting her at all.

mons -> RE: How sadistic / Masochistic are you? (10/31/2007 3:11:18 AM)
greetings when i see (and please i hope no one is upset by what i am writing ) but so many serial killers were sadist and horrible i find i do have some in me the sadist part but it is scary to when i read who and what serial killers have a true sadist side to them , what is everyone thought on this, do anyone of the slaves or submissive become scare they may meet that one nut who is truly out to hurt. this is not the DBMS way but the other ones who minds are way out in left flied. each one of us who is dominant or submissive knowhow far we will go. but still i wonder of the ones who can not and will not stop even when the safe word is called. i would be glad to hear what each one think. i ask this because if the many special they have on the court TV and the men who a profile on there sorry they do not have woman serial killer so i will not be asking the woman this thanks for you answer mons

ExSteelAgain -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 3:50:16 AM)
I’m sadistic and it would have to be a fantasy world of no laws, no repercussions, no need for acceptance and friends if I were to let a totally sadistic “Id” side of me surface. But that is impossible because I have learned to be a humanist, love others and desire to perform in socially acceptable ways as I value respect from others. I grew from the Id phase as I grew as a human. What would be totally sadistic to me today would be to have a submissive or vanilla become totally helpless to my BDSM bent through careful play that leads her desiring more and more extreme whippings. But even that would have to have boundaries because I don’t want a submissive in my care to reach a certain, harmful level.

chellekitty -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 5:59:19 AM)
i was thinking about my phrasing of "hurts in a bad way that i wanted it to continue" and how that would indicate that i liked having some sort of control....i don't....the only time i say stop - through red...or yellow, usually yellow actually - is if there is unintentional permanent harm about to be done...and thats just to let him know...hey, you're about to do something you didn't say you were going to do...on a physical level, anyway... what i mean is...it hurts in a bad way and there is absolutely no pleasure from it and i want it but i don't want it and i want it to stop but i don't want it to stop and the only thing i know is that if i had control it would never start but it would never end once it began....it was pain for pain's sake...and it was bad...worse than any other toy in the world used in a "normal manner" (needles in the finger tips is not "normal")....does common work better? anyway....it hurt bad, and the only thing i could do was hurt....with the first Top who did pressure point play on me, i was allowed to scream...and i did...i don't know what other people in the play area thought...i was a little distracted at the time...but i do remember screaming....i also remember when he moved from one area to another and stopped for a moment and i came out of my fog to ask "why did you stop?"... so umm, yes, that clarification....i don't like having control over my scenes....hate it, in fact...and if you let me have control, i will end it quickly.... [8\|] chelle

meticulousgirl -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 7:22:09 AM)
chellekitty, i am the same exact way.....that's why i refuse to even remember that i have a safeword if i need it.....i want it to continue but my mind questions whether or not i can take it. i completely understand what your saying.... ~meticulous~

chellekitty -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 7:33:42 AM)
the last scene i did ended way to quickly because my hands had gone numb...and i was nonverbal...and flying like a kite...and i didn't want it to end...but...safeword? whats that? luckily it was a scene with someone i know well enough that i was able to communicate through eye and head movement, the rest of me was immobilized and nonverbal, that there was something wrong with my hands...and She made an executive descion and did a cool down and ended the scene...blah...

Shawn1066 -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 7:38:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ I've got quite the masochistic streak, although it's been, by no means, fully explored. My Owner is taking it one step at a time. There's just something intoxicating about the release and there's something simply stunning about looking at one's marks. In fact, it's honestly starting to worry me that I may be too masochistic in some respects. I don't think I'd call myself a pain slut...but I'm really still exploring. As such, I'm not entirely sure how far I'd let my Owner go. As her property I would, of course, let her explore as far as I could possibly take... I'm a bit sadistic, on the other hand... One can be submissive and sadistic at the same time. In fact, my sadistic style is never dominant, forceful, or anything as the such. It's primarily reactive. I've always thought a masochist would likely have sadistic tendencies just because the simple act of having masochistic fantasies is kind of like a masochist being sadistic to herself/himself. So...yes...it does come out sometimes, even if it's rather limited.

Matadorr -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/31/2007 8:19:24 AM)
I need some opinions here. I like spanking, and abit of MILD painplay (slapping, light whipping, gagging) ect. I like it purely from the subspace it gives her, how much she willl do for me ect. ect. basically I like it from a DOMINANCE perspective and power perspective. I find it erotic but im not a sadist in that sense at all. But humiliation/degradation play I am a total sadist. verbal names, spitting in her face, watersports. I think its all hot. I know there are no hard and fast rules but ive found alot of 'subs' not to be so much into pain play as humiliation play... ALOT more....or am I just seeing a bias because they want to please me? So I dont know if im a typical or extreme sadist. I would like very mcuh to know

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