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meticulousgirl -> How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 11:52:52 AM)
How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~

RRafe -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:00:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ "Depends" on the girl. As far as our limits will allow, too many experiences over the years to really single one out. But the first time that I got my hand all the way inside of a cunt was an eye opener. Boggled my imagination, simply unreal.

RumpusParable -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:03:12 PM)
I'm not sadistic, but I will go very far in giving pain... so far it's been an issue of finding those who will let me go that far, really. Cutting, punching, kicking, burning, slapping, caning, you name it. I can and will go beyond what a person is able to enjoy, but I don't enjoy the giving of pain. I'm all about the dominance and not sadistic. I'm only moderately masochistic and am picky in my forms of taking pain. I prfer a flogging or belting with a lot of thud and temperature play, too. I'm not so much an extreme-pain masochist as I am an endurance masochist. Whether it is training for ultramarathons just for the fun of putting myself through it or going through hours of pain play, that's what's for me. Not intense short-term pain.

batshalom -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:09:35 PM)
I'm not always a masochist. It would depend entirely on the dynamic and the depth of the bond. Like in Noah's thread with regard to breaking bones ... eh ... that's a mayyyybe. Fisting, ok, never done it but am dying to. Cutting and needles (which really freaks me out), ok with the right person. Wearing marks, flogging, spanking, always good. I find a great deal of satisfaction in doing things that scare me at least a little bit, as long as it's done by someone who knows what he's doing.

probablyknowme -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:24:42 PM)
Okay, this one is a toughie...I am enough of a masochist that I am personally having a hard time finding a Dominant who is comfortable with me. My only rule is no permanent damage... For example, I was scening at a local dungeon with a Top that I knew pretty well. He and I had discussed the scene in depth, and we were both okay with each other's limits. The scene progressed nicely for a while, and then it came to the aluminum paddle (that He had never had a chance to use on someone other than Himself.) He proceeded to light up my ass with it, and asked if I was okay...I was non-verbal by then (as I am often during heavy scenes) but made it perfectly clear that I was more than okay. The DM called our scene because he was scared by the marks that the paddle was leaving on my ass. There were others in the space that told me later that they were concerned for me because they knew how bad that paddle must have hurt. Now, the question that begs for an answer is what did I learn from this? Not to play at my limit at a party. Enough of my ramblings, kat

RRafe -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:28:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: probablyknowme Okay, this one is a toughie...I am enough of a masochist that I am personally having a hard time finding a Dominant who is comfortable with me. My only rule is no permanent damage... For example, I was scening at a local dungeon with a Top that I knew pretty well. He and I had discussed the scene in depth, and we were both okay with each other's limits. The scene progressed nicely for a while, and then it came to the aluminum paddle (that He had never had a chance to use on someone other than Himself.) He proceeded to light up my ass with it, and asked if I was okay...I was non-verbal by then (as I am often during heavy scenes) but made it perfectly clear that I was more than okay. The DM called our scene because he was scared by the marks that the paddle was leaving on my ass. There were others in the space that told me later that they were concerned for me because they knew how bad that paddle must have hurt. Now, the question that begs for an answer is what did I learn from this? Not to play at my limit at a party. Enough of my ramblings, kat Yup, I never play to limits in public. Usually it's to allay some fears a new girl has over my competence in doing sm play. But the local dungeon is all about sensual play anyhow. Though I must admit,have played in others where they were just plain wussy about it. At least the Dms at the wetspot are pretty heavy players themselves-they know when actual damage is being done.

SunNMoon -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:28:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? I’m soo not a masochist (tap me and I’ll be whining about too much pain). I’m a little bit of a sadist but only with someone who is a masochist. Now I’m a big fan of humiliation/objectification and I consider myself a masochist and sadist in that regard (but again only with the right person). quote: How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Not very far. Pain play wise, I’m a spank only lightly. Let’s say light pink max. I might be able to go further with the right person. Humiliation/objectification, not to tears. Name calling, actions nothing too far through.

IrishMist -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:29:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ Hmm well... I guess most would call me extremely hard core masochistic to the point that I lose all sense of safety. I have scars from knives; from metal bristle bruses; burn scars; scars from skin breaking open from the hit of a hand. The sharper and more piercing the pain is, the more I would want it to go on. A good example is once with the bristle brush; after the skin had broke, he dumped alcohol on it. There was another instance where he kicked me so hard I actually blacked out from the pain but it was so arousing that I had him do it again. /shrug I am an oddball, what can I say

RCdc -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:33:21 PM)
I find this a strange question. Like asking how submissive one is or how dominant someone may be with another. To someone, cutting is freaky or edgy. I don't find it edgy at all, it may not even be particularly painful depending where it is done and with what tool. For others, simply fucking during menstruation is a no-no because it is painful or messy. Is it sadistic? To some, yes, to others - it is simply another time during a month. I find wearing heels as sadistic/masochistic as hell, but to others, it is a day to day thang they do. It's all completely subjective. I am as sadistic and as masochistic as Darcy desires and allows. the.dark.

lux221 -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:37:04 PM)
I'm not a masochistic really but I'll take what He dishes out in order to please Him. I do beg Master's whip when I feel the need for a physical manifestation of His ownership of me, but I'm always begging for him to stop after the first sting. [:)], but I take what He dishes out with no complaints. I always feel slightly out of place on BDSM related boards because I'm such a weakling. Example - I begged Him to whip me and He usually stops after #5. Last time He didn't and it hurt like a mofo. I was crying, squirming, begging, burrying my face in the pillow to muffle my screams, cussing him out in my head. He kept going for what must have been #20, and I was kissing his feet, thanking him for stoping! To me this helped solidify that yes.... as long as I know he isn't going to kill me, maim me, or endanger others - I'll pretty much take anything He dishes out.

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:44:08 PM)
Interesting topic but I don't know if I can just answer that with a blanket statement. My sadism depends on the energy of me and my partner. It depends on moods and everything else. Sometimes I just want to cuddle, other times I just want to see her bleed. But there those times were bleeding is just a ritual and not sadism at all. It's such a broad thing, ya know?

Argentopal -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:45:26 PM)
It is a question i ask myself. I have not called a scene since the second time and i was such a sissy ... my bottom was sore from the night before so i asked for mercy! Now, of course i hope for no broken bones, but i too have had scares from burns and cuts that were un intentional but OK cause stuff happens whe you're both playing hard. I've had the alcohol after something harsh. I've had singletails (never enough). For us the problem seems to be that as the pain gets to the bad part before the good part takes over i start reacting like it hurts, well, because it hurts and Sir starts to worry and he pulls back instead of going on and over. The odd part is that when we first began to play he didn't do that and he let me get to the good parts, now he seems to pull back just before all those wonderful parts kick in. So -with flogs, paddles of all sorts, needles, clips, bare hands ... so far no limit found but i don't feel like i have really really been pushed either. Now there are things i do not have as "limits"but i am not sure i could handle since we have never tried - like hard body punching and kicking. Sir does not think that is "safe" and honestly i am not exactly a spring chicken and have had wwaaayyyy too many surgeries to repair damage from cancer, falls, accidents and other 'nilla mishaps that he just is not willing to risk doing anything that could result in internal problems or bone problems. Becoming 'mature' has perks but the other side effects suck sometimes! So, i like to think i could take a lot more than i have, but the honest truth is that so far that has not been put to the test. We have talked recently about exactly that - could Sir play me until i begged him for mercy? Maybe i can bring this up again at some point with another report! weg~~ opal

batshalom -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 12:48:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ Sometimes I just want to cuddle, other times I just want to see her bleed. But there those times were bleeding is just a ritual and not sadism at all. Ohhh, yes! Glad you brought that up, DDZ. Ritual might sometimes look S/M to someone unfamiliar with the routine, when in fact it is a bridge to get to something else, or a reminder of the dynamic, or even a basic greeting.

toservez -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 1:01:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lux221 I begged Him to whip me and He usually stops after #5. Last time He didn't and it hurt like a mofo. I was crying, squirming, begging, burrying my face in the pillow to muffle my screams, cussing him out in my head. He kept going for what must have been #20, and I was kissing his feet, thanking him for stoping! To me this helped solidify that yes.... as long as I know he isn't going to kill me, maim me, or endanger others - I'll pretty much take anything He dishes out. Actually you sound quite a bit like me. I do not have a masochistic bone in my body but I crave and desire the ability to take whatever my Master wants to dish out for his pleasure and a show of my devotion as long as I remain physically safe which by definition of calling him my Master I obviously trust him to do. My pleasure outside of enjoying seeing my Master’s is the physical power manifestations that when seeing his pleasure and for days afterwards bring me great pleasure, arousal and a blissful mindset. In terms of how far there are times when things line up in terms of last heavy action, he has been away on business and random factors that I have gone farther then I would publicly state for a thread.

bigstud573 -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 1:26:41 PM)
I hear you on the heels. I've met another one like myself who wanted to be pushed this way and not sure how you would classify it being humiliation, sadistic etc.. but this Mistress and her sub who's male like me, was set up with a doctor to get breast implants!! and it really happened, i saw firsthand, however looks completely like a man making it more humiliating or sadistic in my opinion. Nothing like a tshirt on a guy with tits lol. Talk about hell.. bigstud

CreativeDominant -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 2:10:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ It depends on the person I am with as my sadistic streak is stoked somewhat by the masochistic bent of my partner. There IS a level that I want and need to get to in order to achieve satisfaction for myself but from that level on, there can be more or even, a bit less if compensated for by other areas of D/s/BDSM/sexuality.

Tigrita -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 2:23:27 PM)
Fast Reply ~ Sadism and Masochism are so abstract and circumstantial, arent they? I didn't consider myself a masochist starting out here, but realizing how integral the incidental pains of rough, primal sex etc. are to my arousal, and after exploring pain play a bit, I've realized I am pretty masochistic. I'm also realizing that I've always loved playing sports to the point of pain and bloodshed, always justified it as 'if you don't go home banged up, you haven't played hard enough' but I'm realizing that it is partly masochistic. I love leaving blood on the field, and going home with cuts and bruises, sometimes I don't try as hard as a 'normal' person would to prevent it... I also like to intentionally subject myself to the cold sometimes, either cold rain, or the ocean, get all shivery and numb, it makes me feel alive. I haven't played that intensely with pain, at least not to the level where I really wish it would stop (though I suppose things I've done would be too much for some), so I can't comment on specifics in the context of play... I just wish he'd scratch deeper, bite harder, pull my hair harder, really throw me around, really hurt me, but we're still feeling eachother out and also don't have a good place to do really intense stuff for now, but I know the time will come. I also relate to Argentopal on the up and over thing. The first phase is ooooohhh yaaaay, then it gets to yikes!!!! and I'm really not enjoying it, but that is good! Then comes the good release once you accept there is nothing you can do about it ;)

akisha -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 3:04:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: meticulousgirl How sadistic / Masachistic are you? How far would you really go with someone or let them go with you? Examples are a must in this one. Look forward to the good reads ~meticulous~ In my opinion this set of questions is pretty much impossible to answer. No one knows for sure what they are willing to do in the future. No one can really define how big a masochist or Sadist they are, for what do you use as a basis point, or a base line? One persons "OMG are you insane?" is another persons yummy place. For example, I lable myself as a sensualist. Others lable me as a masochist, my former Dom included So if i go and say ok sure I'm a masochist. Then you look at me play and at my gf play. The degree of play is massively different. But things that scare the hell out of her totally turn me on and things that make her all happy make me go " Baby you're freeking insane" So tell me, who is a bigger masochist? Who does the more scarey or edgy things? Who is to judge what makes the bigger masochist or the bigger sadist? IS the worse sadist the one that does things the sub hates? Or is it the one that causes the most pain even tho the sub loves it? Tell me how to judge and what the critirea are and I'll do my best to answer but unless you can draw exact lines, I find it impossible to judge. Sorry Added: And what if you are both? S

Baroque -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 5:44:42 PM)
Who is to judge? A test study taken for research. A SM Kinsey scale? Rate 1-10. Check box.

chellekitty -> RE: How sadistic / Masachistic are you? (10/30/2007 5:52:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ Interesting topic but I don't know if I can just answer that with a blanket statement. My sadism depends on the energy of me and my partner. It depends on moods and everything else. Sometimes I just want to cuddle, other times I just want to see her bleed. But there those times were bleeding is just a ritual and not sadism at all. It's such a broad thing, ya know? switch when Daddy said sadism to masochism, and switch active to passive and the like....and thats me...hmmm... i suppose thats a good thing... [:)]

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