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Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:02:57 PM

sammiebabygirl

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What is it about the word NO that turns some adult men into children?

This guy has been messaging me here and has nothing in his profile. I do not respond to empty profiles.

The other day, I was walking down my street, on my way home and some guy shouted out his car window, Are you sammie?
Now, I did not make the connection to my profile here, since I was in the vanilla world and said no. I figured he had the wrong person.

Later, I get a message on here saying that my twin walked into my building and when asked if my name was sammie, I said no.

I was freaked and ignored the message. He continued to message me asking me why I was being rude and refusing to answer him and give him my name.
I finally wrote back and asked why he was stalking me.

He said he was not stalking me. That he saw me crossing the street and I looked familiar so he followed me.

Pretty scary, huh?

So, today, he demands my phone number and wants to get together tonight. I still do not even know his name.

I tell him no. I am not interested and he goes nuts on me. He says he has been asking about me on the boards and in the chat rooms and that everyone is talking about how much of a slut I am and that I will do anyone, so why am I being so high and mighty now.

He then goes on to call me a fat ass and it is no wonder I live where I do and a bunch of other nasty things. Then he blocked me.

jen

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:11:01 PM

angelikaJ

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

What is it about the word NO that turns some adult men into children?

...

Then he blocked me.

jen

Lucky you!

And yes, it is completely scary... especially since you don't know his name... .
I am sorry that happened.
Take care of yourself.

aJ

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:15:37 PM

sammiebabygirl

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Thank you, aJ.

jen

< Message edited by sammiebabygirl -- 10/27/2007 3:16:08 PM >

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:16:09 PM

Rule

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He is stalking you. He may be dangerous. You may want to inform CM about this matter, and report this to the police. Do you still have copies of his e-mails? Carry a camera and if he approaches you again take a photograph.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:19:18 PM

sammiebabygirl

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I wish I had kept all the e-mails. I deleted them already, except for the one where h said that he saw my twin. That, I saved on my computer.
I do not own a camera, but I think it may be time to get a camera phone.

jen

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:21:12 PM

KatyLied

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You can purchase a disposable digital camera

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:23:50 PM

batshalom

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sammie, CM still has all your deleted stuff. Eh. Maybe. I used to frequent a small site that was set up exactly like this and the owners / mods could read everything, including the deleted stuff. This place is a lot bigger so maybe delete is really delete. I don't like it, am nervous for you.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:26:45 PM

Rule

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You may also carry a tape recorder. I gather that the accused in some states must be aware that you are taping a conversation, but they will often talk anyway when they see that you are holding one in your hand. Perhaps you can consult an attorney about that.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:26:54 PM

sammiebabygirl

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Btw, The people where I live are aware of the situation and have no problem contacting police if necessary.

For reasons I do not need to get into, I am currently living at a secure place. They are very experienced with women who come from domestic violence and although that is NOT my situation, many of the women are here for protection from their abusers.

The building has 24/7 security.

jen

< Message edited by sammiebabygirl -- 10/27/2007 4:04:04 PM >

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:31:45 PM

sammiebabygirl

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I just reported the user to collarme and added the link to this thread for the details. Thank you all for your support.

jen

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:35:00 PM

Rule

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As he is hunting you, he probably is cruising your street often in the hopes of seeing you and learning your habits. So tell your neighbours or perhaps the florist in the street about this guy and describe him and his car - perhaps occasionally he is on foot - and ask them to watch out and if possible to take down his car registration number.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:35:15 PM

MrSpectacular

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You should contact law enforcement ASAP - they are there to help. I would recommend you not wait - at the very least you could request an extra patrol car to your area. That would add somewhat of a deterrent to your stalker.
Please dont hesitate.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:38:16 PM

luciousmaria

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Scary, scary stuff.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:39:58 PM

camille65

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rule
perhaps the florist in the street about this guy and describe him and his car -

That bit never occured to me before and it totally creeped me out reading it.
Sammie please be careful.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:43:30 PM

substephen59

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good idea RULE .be careful jen.i would file a police report.buy some mace or a taser and learn how to use them properly.is there a self-defence class you could take where you live ?

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:43:48 PM

KatyLied

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Wow, please don't give out any more information, like the specific place where you reside. Not good.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:48:06 PM

Rule

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This guy may also been known in the local bdsm-communities. Ask around.

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:49:26 PM

Rule

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Wow, please don't give out any more information, like the specific place where you reside. Not good.

Indeed. Edit?

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:52:22 PM

cuteguy40

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terrible

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RE: Guys...help me out here, please. - 10/27/2007 3:53:04 PM

sophia37

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This is one big bummer. This guy in no way sees himself as being a problem. He thinks he's being straight up. From a womans view I totally see where you would be freaked. SO. Try to see it as a mis-communication.

Please. Take a deep breath. He may not be stalking you. He called you on your profile. You denied. That is all so far. It hasnt gone any firther other than you insulted him by denying, so he called you names. Correct? So off to a very bad start.

If you have yourself on websites as so-and-so, and in the future someone says, hey, you look like so-and-so, what will you do? Why could you not own up to your own posting? Why are you afraid of that?

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