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iammachine -> RE: Questions about BDSM'er cheating (10/22/2007 12:11:50 AM)
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How many people on this site cheat?
Define "cheating" please. [;)]
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Very few men are single looking for their soul mate on here
Define "soul mate". Do soul mates really exist? Some say they do, some say they don't. Who's to say we each only have one?
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Now here’s the kicker, there are those women who don’t care if your married or even if they are
That's true.
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Here’s another high quality trait for us BDSM’er that we should be proud of!
I agree with this slightly out of context statement. [:D]
I am proud of the progressive views that some people have. I am perfectly content with people that choose to have polyamorous relationships. Please note, there is a distinct difference between being poly and "cheating". You can't cheat on a partner and then hide behind being poly, polyamoury requires knowledge, disclosure and consent.
Conversely, I am not cool with any kind of dishonest behaviour; whether it's cheating or a fib.
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This lifestyle is supposed to be about Trust, Communication and Respect
Funny, I thought those were really just kind of general values that pretty much apply to living life in general. I thought this lifestyle was about kink.
Damn, I guess I'm in the wrong place.
Don't get me wrong, trust, communication and respect are paramount. I don't think we're special in that regard, though, everyone can probably stand to benefit from an appreciation of those traits..
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God knows we wouldn’t want to take responsibility for our sick distorted behaviors.
This is off topic, but some street preachers gave me some fruit snacks, which I found in my purse today. I was talking on the phone with a diabetic friend at the time, and I thought, "God loves you, have some sugar!" Then I thought... hey, my buddy is diabetic. So I told him that god loved me, and hated him, because I was given god's love in the form of sugary goodness, and that's death in a small package to him. [:D]
Anyway, "deviant" sexually behaviour is no longer considered sick. At least, not in the clinical sense. Where have you been?
As for distorted, I kinda like it! Life would be boring if we were all made from the same cookie cutter.
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We should be the part of society that stands out in a crowd with values and morals!
_insert Butthead "uhhh huh huh" laugh here_
Yeah, that ain't happening. We're a part of society that likes to do "naughty" things to eachother. Albeit we have esoterically (and subjectively!) imposed standards of "good" ways to do those naughty things, but we still do stuff that would make most people blush.
I don't give a damn what anyone else thinks about my moral fiber, as long as I am content with myself. I think I'm a pretty stand up kinda gal.... that likes to flog the snot out of people! Woo!
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We talk about safety but yet we put our own families and ourselves in danger by our reckless behaviors.
Define "reckless".
I don't like the word "safe" really. Well, not so much these days, anyway. Just what is safe, really? There is risk involved in everything that we do, from drinking a bottle of water, to suspending a buddy from their ankles. Then again, I'm a RACK kinda gal, and I'd like to think I take as many precautios as are feasible.
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Look inside yourself! Are you guilty?
Oh yeah, and it feels good.
Does that mean I need a spanking?
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Do you owe yourself and others an apology because you compromised your beliefs
What beliefs, and what compromise?
My standards and ideals have changed over time, it's called growth. I haven't compromised a damn thing, however.
I can appreciate the fact that every action I take has consequences. Some consequences are nice, some not so much. I am perfectly capable of accepting the consequences of my actions, and behaving accordingly. As such, I tend to be pretty handy at doing stuff that I won't regret, though during those rare cases where I am met with unforeseen circumstances, I'm prepared to handle that, too. It's called accountability, and learning from mistakes as well as successes.
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Have respect for yourself!
I think I've got that covered, but thanks for the encouragement!
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