ExSteelAgain
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Trust is what makes edge play just that and not a dangerously unwise lapse in judgment. If a sub meets a guy online and the next day he takes her to a motel and starts choking her, she has gotten herself into a bad situation. On the other hand if she is with her Dom and he does the same thing to her, she can safely experience the fantasy.
This is what makes D/s relationships so great. There is trust and safety to let ourselves live out fantasies we’ve all had for a long time. As we get to know someone, we pick up on the signals that the other person may want to try something. Or possibly a Dom can teach a sub to understand her limits are not real, but only something she has created in her mind.
She does not have to panic when a certain type play is mentioned. She has the choice in how she responds. Considering her trust in her Dom, she can drag her old fears out of the closet and examine them in the sunlight of her protective D/s relationship.
She can begin to understand why she reacted so wildly to a fear. It is not the fear of her Dom choking her, but the fear she will be raped and strangled by a Ted Bundy. Once she realizes she is safe she can replace the old fears.
The relationship gives the sub the power to change, challenge old fears and choose her thoughts. This power is amazing and allows the sub to overcome many limits and realize that she has developed a power in all areas of her life that she thought would never be possible.
Overcoming her fear of being choked, by feeling the hands of her trusted, loving Dom on her throat, also teaches her how to overcome irrational fears of almost any situation. She has found an amazing power in her D’s relationship that gives her unlimited potential.
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