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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/8/2007 3:03:38 PM

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Or you just ask him for a phone number so that you can call him when you get a free minute. The key being time frames and will he give you access to him at other times.

It is something I do when I am getting to know someone from the net. Granted, I may not always answer if I am outside working, sleeping, or here at work, but they can either keep trying to leave me a message to call them back. I may suggest the times that it is easiest to reach me and when I will have more time to chat, but I don't limit their access to me via phone.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/8/2007 3:28:57 PM

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I think you did the right thing.
If you start getting that feeling that things are going south, and youve mentioned that you arent interested in play... and then you get messages specifically asking for it... thats when you get the feeling that you arent going to get the respect he promised. If he cant give you that, then you dont need to give him the time of day. Personal opinion at least.

And in reference to darkmike's question...
If she had the inclination that he WAS someone she might have had a future with and potentialy settled with, he wouldnt be blocked. The point was, he was not. Nor was he making any effort to sound like he might be.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 1:41:12 PM

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I don't understand why you would have done that at all. The best case scenario is that your instinct that the two of you aren't right for one another was true and that you delivered an appropriate message. Then why not just leave it at the message? Thus, the best case scenario dictates you acted childishly (see below). The worst case scenario on the other hand might speak volumes about your conduct and your judgment, as the "let's meet/drop dead" case is a rare and extreme case dealing with R/L and rarer and more absurd still online in the span of an hour or two.

Along parallel lines, I wager that most of the blocks here come from childish people hell bent on getting in the last word, terrified over reading the response. In my opinion, the only time a block is merited is when the blocker asks the blockee to stop messaging or stop discussing a certain subject/topic/issue and the blockee persists with the harassment.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 3:21:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pulpsmack

I don't understand why you would have done that at all. The best case scenario is that your instinct that the two of you aren't right for one another was true and that you delivered an appropriate message. Then why not just leave it at the message? Thus, the best case scenario dictates you acted childishly (see below). The worst case scenario on the other hand might speak volumes about your conduct and your judgment, as the "let's meet/drop dead" case is a rare and extreme case dealing with R/L and rarer and more absurd still online in the span of an hour or two.

Along parallel lines, I wager that most of the blocks here come from childish people hell bent on getting in the last word, terrified over reading the response. In my opinion, the only time a block is merited is when the blocker asks the blockee to stop messaging or stop discussing a certain subject/topic/issue and the blockee persists with the harassment.

I highly suggest you read some emails females get before making this observation...the hey cunt I want to break every bone in your body...or can I impregnate you with my dog's sperm emails...are NOT all that rare unfortunately and the only appropriate response is to block them. Then there are the seemingly "normal" ones you exchange one or two emails with that contact you ENDLESSLY with chat requests and whining that they are "the one" for you without knowing anything about you...or finally those arrogant "Doms" that think they can define you and how you should be from the first email and first words with zero information about you.....think these are uncommon? think again. It's not at all childish to move on and push these people from your life.
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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 3:32:50 PM

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A guy has been messaging me on the other side for the longest time, wanting to meet. Sometimes his messages are just chatty and asking how I am doing, etc. Other times, they were all about play.
I told him I would be happy to meet, but was not guaranteeing anything beyond that. He assured me he that he respected that.

So, today, he is messaging me all morning and I finally say, "it seems that neither of us has anything better to do than message back and forth, why don't we meet today?" To that, he says he is busy all day.
Then he writes back asking if "sammie" can come out and play?

I wrote back that I was not on here to play and that I was looking for a REAL relationship. Then I blocked him.

Was this a hasty move?

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I always wonder if these types of questions are some kind of desire for TPE of the inbox. You know your mind and motives better than anyone here, so trust them. If you think you was too hasty, you was.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 5:40:41 PM

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if you did that to me i would be happy that you did not waste any more of my time than you already had.

Why do i sound so hard? Because you gave the guy no warning that was in the works and just out of the blue wacked him.

If it were me i would think you had some sort dysfunction you were unable to deal with in your life and frankly.....i would say better to find out now than later.

if you want the truth :)

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 6:33:29 PM

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You can always un-block him.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 6:38:47 PM

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He said he was too busy to meet but yet he wasn't too busy to bug you online?!
I think you did the right thing.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 8:39:18 PM

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Eh!..Sounds as if you really were not that interested..or you would of explored the possibility further...If!!! you feel regret at the unexplained block then unblock and explain your suspicions or disinterest or whatever you wish...or not.....Tempting

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 8:50:19 PM

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Your gut instinct is usually the right one; you did what you needed to do, don't apologize. Sounds like the guy was a creep; that 'come out ad play' thing is what I have known predators to use over and over and over.

I have maxed out how many people I can block on various sites; don't worry about blocking one person.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 9:42:10 PM

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I view the blocking procedure as if I were God....Some lil' dumb subbie starts to chat me up....Then of course I routinely ask for a shot of their gash...Upon receiving said gash....I then toss a coin to block or not? If the coin comes up tails they are blocked.....It the coin comes up heads they get to remain alive in my eyes and inevitably will fall prey to my wares.....And soundly fucked.

I always wonder how someone feels after sending out a kooch shot and finding themselves blocked? My guess would be suicidal.....All I know is that it makes me feel warm and alive.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 10:09:03 PM

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So, today, he is messaging me all morning and I finally say, "it seems that neither of us has anything better to do than message back and forth, why don't we meet today?" To that, he says he is busy all day.
Did he have to work? Car break down? Maybe he was busy for a valid reason. From this it sounds like you messaged him back as well indicating that you wanted to meet.

Then he writes back asking if "sammie" can come out and play?
I wrote back that I was not on here to play and that I was looking for a REAL relationship. Then I blocked him.
If you have been messaging for the longest time with him, you should know some of his patterns. Why did this message suddenly trip a trigger?

Was this a hasty move?
I can agree with following your instinct, more often than not it is right. I almost get the feeling you led him on a bit then shut him down when it looked like meeting may have become a reality in the near future. But then again I am sure there is more to the story.

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/9/2007 10:34:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

A guy has been messaging me on the other side for the longest time, wanting to meet. Sometimes his messages are just chatty and asking how I am doing, etc. Other times, they were all about play.
I told him I would be happy to meet, but was not guaranteeing anything beyond that. He assured me he that he respected that.

So, today, he is messaging me all morning and I finally say, "it seems that neither of us has anything better to do than message back and forth, why don't we meet today?" To that, he says he is busy all day.
Then he writes back asking if "sammie" can come out and play?

I wrote back that I was not on here to play and that I was looking for a REAL relationship. Then I blocked him.

Was this a hasty move?

It strikes me as a bit rude, but nothing to lose sleep over. And, meh. If you just didn't feel like anything was working, and that other oppurtunies might lead to more promising ends for all involved (since, afterall, if he's just looking for play, he may as well move on and find a girl who just wants that, right), then why not?

It's possible you just blocked someone you could've been very happy with. Then again, it's also possible that, due to blocking him, you'll have the extra time to meet someone you could be very happy with. If this guy you blocked was displaying characteristics that you attribute to being undesirable, and there are others that show more promise.. well, perhaps you were just being reasonable?

PS-

Ah.. hah.. yes. I forgot something pretty big. Friendship. (You see, I'm honestly content without close friendships with others, so it's a topic I can be unusually prone to overlook.)

Will you miss your friendship with him? Was he worth the time you spent interacting with him, and the feelings he gave you? (Not that there's a right answer I'm suggesting. I'm not one to understand the feelings of these things as well as many others.)

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/10/2007 8:28:27 AM

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Then he writes back asking if "sammie" can come out and play

Looks like I read your post to quickly and did not catch that so i retract my last post and change it to:

Yep in a new york second I would have blocked him. After I sent him last message asking for a 5 page story of his favorite fantasy :)

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RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? - 10/10/2007 11:19:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

I highly suggest you read some emails females get before making this observation...the hey cunt I want to break every bone in your body...or can I impregnate you with my dog's sperm emails...are NOT all that rare unfortunately and the only appropriate response is to block them.

I highly suggest you reread the original topic and my response, if you genuinely felt the need to incorporate this point. Clearly this has nothing to do with the issue at hand. Also, alittle FYI... the same idiots send similar messages to Males, at least in my experience. Assholes have all sorts of (indiscriminate) tastes. You think I never spoke to a female here? You think I have never had a private reading of LordGreyBoots' Form letter intro? For every doozy you have received in your mailbox I have heard 10 such stories from 10 such submissives. And again, all this is irrelevent in the context of what is being discussed.

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Then there are the seemingly "normal" ones you exchange one or two emails with that contact you ENDLESSLY with chat requests and whining that they are "the one" for you without knowing anything about you...or finally those arrogant "Doms" that think they can define you and how you should be from the first email and first words with zero information about you.....think these are uncommon? think again. It's not at all childish to move on and push these people from your life.

It is not childish when you KNOW that is the case. How do you KNOW this? Simple. ONE frank email explaining your feelings on the matter/subject is all it takes. If he is not one of those, he gets it. If he IS one of those, he disrespects those wishes AND THEN gets the block.

Now flipside... How many submissives complain all day about how there are no quality men here on one hand, yet are guilty of deleting mail unread? How many times does one go off half-cocked on a misunderstanding (in this lovely world of text, where inflection and tone cannot be discerned) and the BLOCK button is engaged, Xing out one more person who may have been a reasonable prospect/friend/listener?

I will go to the mat for any person on this board who uses proper respect and manners who receives harassment/ill-treatment from anothe member who cannot respect that person's wishes. But I don't care if it is a form-letter writing tree humping facist on the other end... if the person doesn't give the person the time of day or the chance to find out the person is bad, then I have no problem jumping down the blocker's/deleter's throat. Why? because such hasty people are half the reason why the form letter and the lack of patience are in existence here. When a person keeps his/her side of the street clean I will offer a hand helping them mount the soap box, but when (s)he has the nerve to rant when excercising another set of bad habits that breeds bad feelings and bad habits with the counterpart, I have no sympathy at all. (To the OP... this last point is more of a general response to the quoted poster than it is my critique of what you have done, so don't take it to heart so much if it is any harsher than what I did intend for you in my earlier response)

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