I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty?

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sammiebabygirl -> I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 12:58:23 PM)
A guy has been messaging me on the other side for the longest time, wanting to meet. Sometimes his messages are just chatty and asking how I am doing, etc. Other times, they were all about play. I told him I would be happy to meet, but was not guaranteeing anything beyond that. He assured me he that he respected that. So, today, he is messaging me all morning and I finally say, "it seems that neither of us has anything better to do than message back and forth, why don't we meet today?" To that, he says he is busy all day. Then he writes back asking if "sammie" can come out and play? I wrote back that I was not on here to play and that I was looking for a REAL relationship. Then I blocked him. Was this a hasty move? jen

MsKatHouston -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:02:49 PM)
No. Don't second guess yourself. Your gut instinct is usually the right one. He may be perfectly fine but better safe than sorry.

toservez -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:06:44 PM)
Cyber world is free world and you can do what you want. Certainly if you felt that he was just looking for masturbation material to cut off contact is fine, but it does seem a little odd to immediately go extreme by blocking him since you had exchange obviously many quality messages. This is though splitting hairs, if you did not want anymore contact with him then do not have anymore contact with him, as Kat wrote trust you instincts. Method is simply secondary.

SmokingGun82 -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:07:58 PM)
It was definitely hasty, if that's the whole story. But that's not necessarily a bad thing. You obviously didn't like the path the conversation was taking, so you stopped it, which makes perfect sense. If you feel like you made the wrong choice, then unblock him.

mnottertail -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:09:13 PM)
LOL, yes and no, who knows. I try and block everyone who makes one wrong sentance in an email, because it is SO REAL..... that way I don't have to talk to anyone. Ron

Daddysjezzy -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:17:31 PM)
You say you want a relationship but if you block the person everytime they say something topiss you off or there is miscommunication then a relationship can't happen. It seems that you two have the makings of a friendship and often they make the best relationships. Good luck

sammiebabygirl -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:22:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsKatHouston No. Don't second guess yourself. Your gut instinct is usually the right one. He may be perfectly fine but better safe than sorry. My gut instinct started screaming MARRIED!!!! So, I looked back on all our messages and they were all weekdays. I think my gut was correct.

Rule -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:22:29 PM)
Trust your instinct and intuition. They were triggered somehow for a reason.

laurell3 -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:23:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail LOL, yes and no, who knows. I try and block everyone who makes one wrong sentance in an email, because it is SO REAL..... that way I don't have to talk to anyone. Ron lol Ron. "who knows" seems to be the answer in my opinion. It seems you have spent some time talking to this person and there must be some discomfort there for you to respond this way. Trust your gut, only you know all the facts of these conversations, we don't. l

Stephann -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:31:51 PM)
Listen to those little nagging voices. They're the ones reminding you that the guy isn't as great as you hope. There will be a guy who is that great. The time you spend talking to the zero, is time you could spend finding the hero. Bay beeee Stephan

sammiebabygirl -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:37:19 PM)
quote: Bay beeee ? LOL. I have read your profile, Sir Stephan. If you were not a poly Master, I would have approached you by now. [;)]

Darkmike -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:40:22 PM)
Which decision was based on fear. IMHO, yes It was hasty, you chickened out, which is understandable as most subs are hardly the most confident but that dosnt necessarily make it the right move. Ask yourself, were you scared of meeting him, or finding someone you would settle down with?

laurell3 -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:46:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darkmike Which decision was based on fear. IMHO, yes It was hasty, you chickened out, which is understandable as most subs are hardly the most confident but that dosnt necessarily make it the right move. Ask yourself, were you scared of meeting him, or finding someone you would settle down with? lol...assuming she's not confident because she's a weak widdle sub is ridiculous. She knows how she felt and acted on it. l

sammiebabygirl -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 1:51:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darkmike which is understandable as most subs are hardly the most confident Hmmm. Now what do we think of THAT generalization? jen

umisprite -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 2:04:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darkmike Which decision was based on fear. IMHO, yes It was hasty, you chickened out, which is understandable as most subs are hardly the most confident but that dosnt necessarily make it the right move. Ask yourself, were you scared of meeting him, or finding someone you would settle down with? She suggested a meet after chatting for a considerable length of time, he says no and SHE chickened out? I don't see the logic there at all. I think strong confident women can often sense a con a mile away. I may or may not have blocked the guy but I would surely put my concerns up front for discussion.

pahunkboy -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 2:09:20 PM)
tell em- you arent you- that u are --- male- he will go fast

DrightenPagen -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 2:20:57 PM)
lol...you did the right thing for you.. DO NOT QUESTION YOUR GUT REACTION>>>OKAY

SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 2:34:13 PM)
ugh

SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 2:35:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darkmike Which decision was based on fear. IMHO, yes It was hasty, you chickened out, which is understandable as most subs are hardly the most confident but that dosnt necessarily make it the right move. Ask yourself, were you scared of meeting him, or finding someone you would settle down with? wow.....for being an expert in so many things, your reading comprehension sucks.... to the op-dont ignore the voices in your head-they are there for other reasons than making you want chocolate once a month......

Zmey -> RE: I Blocked Him, Was I Hasty? (10/8/2007 2:55:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail LOL, yes and no, who knows. I try and block everyone who makes one wrong sentance in an email, because it is SO REAL..... that way I don't have to talk to anyone. Ron Most excellent choice. I would be honored to be on your ignore list. :) as for the topic many people are different IRL ... Some people are real, some put up elaborate front. I'm not a woman, I can not truly understand this vulnerability. We meet people on a daily bases, not all of them have honorable intentions. Meeting someone is a calculated risk, getting out of bed every morning is a calculated risk. You can't be afraid of life.

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