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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/26/2007 8:21:49 AM   
ObedientYYC


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Status: offline 		I am always absolutely floored that many dominant women can't find suitable submissives.   Are there THAT many posers and wankers online?   Or is there ONE quality you are seeking that is impossible to find??

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/26/2007 12:40:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MzMia

It seems hard for women to find the male that they want, period.
It does not matter whether he is a Dominant or submissive male.
Good men are hard to find, period.


I think those sentences sum it up.  Vanilla dating sites are full of laments about how difficult it is to find The One.  Male or female, it is a challenge to match up with someone you like and lust after, and who has the potential for love.  Then, of course, that has to work both ways. 

Throw in "special interests" and it adds up to a complex search.

I don't expect it to be easy.  Nothing worthwhile in my life ever was.  I may never find "Her", but I believe that pursuing the quest is more important than the outcome.

< Message edited by AFlyInYourWeb -- 9/26/2007 12:41:37 PM >

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/26/2007 4:13:16 PM   
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My other female friends, HERE, have different profiles, yet the same experience.
There is no lack of quantity, I am speaking about quality.
Thanks for the advice, though.

What specifically are you seeking, and not finding?  I find it hard to believe that there is no one of "quality" out there.  I noticed that many don't know when to comprimise, but I'm not suggesting that might be your problem.  It's just something that seems to be common.  We all have an image of the perfect partner, and we tend to think that image is a possibility.  We are all flawed in some way.  The flaws can be beautiful.  They make us individuals.

Tristan

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/26/2007 4:50:04 PM   
VeryMercurial


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Status: offline 		I happen to love the male species.
Finding someone special, has been a daunting task for
most of the people that I know.

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/26/2007 5:05:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not hate men...
I adore men, they're kind of like puppies and some are oh so cute.
Their antics are completely amusing... especially if they think they're topping.. utterly adorable.

*laughs*
I've probably insulted some of the more dominant ones on that score, but the playfully submissive ones will enjoy it.

My problem is that it seems a lot of men seem to think Domme equals slut.  Once you tell them that you have no intentions of sleeping with them or playing with them on the first meet, they pull a Cheshire cat and fade away.

Don't get me wrong, I'd rather they just left or didn't write back immediately, this way I don't waste my time on them.

All I really want is someone I can connect with on a mental and physical level.. someone to allow a TPE and take care of all the little annoying day to day tasks without making it seem like he's doing me a favor.  I don't want to micro manage household tasks. 
Seriously?  What the "subs" don't understand is that a man like that is worth his weight in gold and I for one would cherish such a person.
With that level of submission, I'd gladly accept a list of likes and try my best to incorporate them into what I do best..

~Psy.. .who refuses to give up hope... even though she is pretty sure the bathroom garbage didn't get taken out....again.  *sigh

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 12:27:23 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

After reading the two other posts, I decided to create one for the Dominant women.
There are many, many, single Dominant women on this site, that are finding it extremely
hard to find what they are searching for in a submissive male/or submissive female.
 
I live in Maryland, and I have a wonderful, and attractive, female Dominant  friend who lives in CA.
Both of us, have not found what we desire in a submissive male on this site.
We have both been on here over 2 years.

I have also noticed MANY, MANY, Dominant women that appear to have been looking/ or
searching for years, despite the claim that there are so many available submissive males/females. 
So why are there SO many Dominant women here that can't find a suitable submissive male?
Do you hate men?
**I noticed many moons ago, that IMHO the common denominator here is "men".**
It seems hard for women to find the male that they want, period.
It does not matter whether he is a Dominant or submissive male.
Good men are hard to find, period.


*waves to Mz Mia from Cali* Awww I'm blushing! You're pretty dang wonderful and lovely yourself

Yes, I agree, hard men are good to find. What? How did I misunderstand? Ohhh, It's the other way around??? Errr. Ummmm. Let me rethink this...

Seriously though. I love men, I adore men. they're the niftiest creation next to Woman, the wheel and tight football uniform pants.
Go Bears...but I digress...They make lovely pets and amusing playthings. So what's wrong with that? Nothing, if that was what I was looking for, but I'm not. 

I'm not a casual play kind of girl and personally I want something much deeper than that. I want someone that's involved with my life on a daily basis. Not someone I can get together with every other Tuesday and third friday between 5:00 - 7:25pm if there's a full moon and the month ends in "y". If you think I'm joking about that, I'm not. While I added in the full moon and ends in y part, that actually is something from an email I was approached with not too long ago.

I wouldn't search purely through this or any other site, but there are some people that can't go to meatlife events for whatever reason they may have. So, perhaps this site and others like it are one of their few avenues of seeking. Why shouldn't they be able to expect some percentage of quality sincere people here or on any other site?

I've removed my profile completely and I still get numerous emails a day requesting consideration and response even with it being very clearly stated that I'm not looking. When I was looking perhaps my standards may have been quite high but then why would I compromise on the attributes and qualities I'm looking for in someone? Yeah, yeah, I know. I'm a demanding bitch.

Great post as usual.

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 1:50:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I certainly don't hate men.  Not really looking for one on here, though of course if that did happen i'd behappy as a pig in shit... however in general i find men on here to be of the cyber do me variety.. not my type at all, and i'm quite happy to ignore the flotsam and wait for as long as is needed for the right man to come along.

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 4:39:41 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: twistedwillow

I certainly don't hate men.  Not really looking for one on here, though of course if that did happen i'd behappy as a pig in shit... however in general i find men on here to be of the cyber do me variety.. not my type at all, and i'm quite happy to ignore the flotsam and wait for as long as is needed for the right man to come along.

twisted


Twisted, as a kind and caring submissive said to ME above in this same thread,
 you must be frustrated!
lol, just kidding.
There is nothing wrong with the men online, didn't you get the memo?
The men are wonderful, it is the women that are frustrated!
The women are the problem!
Thanks for posting.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 9/27/2007 4:42:22 AM >

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 4:53:05 AM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		Hello Jo!
We have found out what the problem is.
The men here are wonderful darlings, it is women like
you and I that are frustrated.
We need to relax, sit back and be more understanding
of the sweet little submissive males and their "needs".
If not, we might frighten the little darlings.

 
Okay, I need to go.  I leave you all singing "Do Me Baby!"
by the Purple One!

< Message edited by MzMia -- 9/27/2007 5:03:11 AM >

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 5:14:37 AM   
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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 5:49:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I adore men, that does not mean that they all deserve My favor--I have found that  many men that espouse this life---are using it as a means to procure or secure---a sexual partner--- their beliefs are " I want sex, raw and dirty, kinky, hot, passionate, nasty as long as I ( the male) am the object--so I will dominate it or submit to it--whatever it takes to blow the wad"--- the fantasy of the leather clad bitch from hell has invaded their masturbation dreams so much, they have come to equate it with reality.
 
I am picky--plain and simple--- I don't NEED, I seek--huge difference--I seek the power exchange for it is what I am--and when one starts the sex talk, I am bored and completely turned off----submit to the TPE and the rewards, whatever they may be will follow---that is why I am still single--I am no nonsense and could give a damn about their cocks---I seek a working relationship first.
 
 

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 6:18:01 AM   
cyberdude611


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Status: offline 		Well I cant say I ever met a dominant woman that "hates" men... I think some dominant women are like vanilla women though in one aspect, they are ultimately looking for Mr. Perfect and they find out pretty quick that Mr. Perfect doesnt exist.

I know women have about as many complaints about men as men do about women. That's just the gender rivalry at work. I cant speak for everyone, but I dont think dommes as a whole hate men. Just like I dont think male doms hate women.
But I agree that if you are someone that hates the opposite gender, this isnt the lifestyle for you. If you went from one person to the next who has lots of experience in BDSM, I assure you that you will not find a single one who hates the opposite gender. You might find one or two newbies or frauds that do.. but those people wont last long and are usually quite miserable people to begin with.

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 7:55:16 AM   
brightspot


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me, but I would like to give my 2 cent's anyway.
 
Here are some of the things I read and see on the
boards here, which cause to think they may be connections to the "problem" you descibe in you OP.
 
Some of my thoughts are;
 
~Maybe some are searching for this "Golden One" we so often hear about which just does not exist because there is no human being that perfect, in fact we all fall short of that expection.
 
~Maybe some do hate men and so use and abuse them, resulting in their being left quite often, so are also always on the search.
 
~Maybe it's that Dominant women feel there are sooooo many available subs out there and that they will not settle, so they really don't see or they overlook the value or the great possibilities in the men they meet.
 
~Could be a lot of the Dominas here are not really searching at all but come here for the boards, really not wanting this to ever turn into reality in their real lifes. They may feel kinky inside and like to interact with liked minded others, but are not serious about actually engaging.
 
~Maybe they are Pro and don't really want a steady one man relationship, so look for many.
 
~Could be they are weeding through a bunch of wanna be's, non-serious young adults, wankers. Possibles that just don't work out.
 
~Maybe, some are afraid of really going through with actually meeting someone on-line, you never do know what might happen.Or some may be too far and they thought it would work LD but collapsed.
 
~And maybe they have gone through many meets and just out of luck and/or fate have not gone onto relationships with the men thay have met.
 
I agree more with the "look in your local area", if you are not getting involved there you probably are not likely to go long term, long distance.
 
Missy.





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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 8:04:21 AM   
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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 9:31:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		Discussing this topic,  a client recently put it this way ... "its not that you *hate* men Mistress...but rather that you love yourself" ... lol admittedly I didn't know whether to twat him or spank him ...but  I'll always adore him ... that boy was kinda spot on ...

Loving myself .. eog bullshite . or loving myself in that I these are my ideals...love 'em or leave 'em ... is a powerful aphrodisiac

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 10:29:35 AM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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Status: offline 		Mia!
Oh, I see. I didn't realize that. Here I thought I was just incredibly busy in real life rather than living in some fanatasy world where I'm permanently clad in leather from head to toe, stomping around in 6 inch stillettos and wielding a whip 24/7. What was I thinking?  

I do believe I've had an epiphany!!!Yes, it must be that I'm just frustrated. Evidently an attractive, intelligent, sincere, and honest male that follows through on what they say and shares similar goals in life is simply too much to expect. Especially one that would appreciate a Dominant Woman that holds those same qualities. How horribly selfish of me. I'll have to make a note to flog myself with the cold fettucini in the refrigerator later tonight.

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 10:36:19 AM   
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quote:

I have found that many men that espouse this life---are using it as a means to procure or secure---a sexual partner--- their beliefs are " I want sex, raw and dirty, kinky, hot, passionate, nasty as long as I ( the male) am the object--so I will dominate it or submit to it--whatever it takes to blow the wad"--- the fantasy of the leather clad bitch from hell has invaded their masturbation dreams so much, they have come to equate it with reality.


Lets be fair here, though, and point out that you can ad 'wo' in front of every time you wrote the word 'men', 'fe' in front of 'male', and 'asshole' exchanged for 'bitch.'

Men aren't the only wankers, they just tend to sexualize their wanking (vice the emotional wanking no few females engage in.)

(coughs) to the issue at hand;

Some people are just more personable and socially adept than others.  People who are 'bad' with money or balancing their checkbooks often will blame their jobs for not paying enough, their landlord for charging too much, their car for breaking down, etc.  The fault often lies 'elsewhere' and the root (fiscal ineptness) lies rotting. 

Blaming dominants/submissives/males/females/circus clowns for whatever ill you face may well be satisfying in the short term, but in the long term will still result in emotional (or fiscal in the case of the checkbook) frustration. 

Some people have incredible "you must be this high" sticks, often towering over themselves.

"I don't care to belong to a club that accepts people like me as members." - Groucho Marx 

Makes socialization a little tricky.

Stephan

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 10:44:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		You know you were doing great there, and then you just had to throw in the circus clowns. I expected better than that from you after reading so many of your posts.

I'm blaming it all on the clowns now that I think of it. Because let's face it. They're just evil.

I hope you're happy, I'm not going to sleep for a week now because of the clowns.  

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 11:02:11 AM   
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If it makes you feel better, that's pretty much what I think of mimes, though.

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RE: So do single Dominant women hate men? - 9/27/2007 11:08:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Stephann,

Actually I was just traumatized by Bozo the Clown in real life as a small child.

I see, so Marcel Marceau didn't actually die of natural causes. I'm beginning to think that perhaps you stealthily killed him with a spork didn't you? I'm going to google mime deaths when I get back home. I'm keeping an eye on you young man.

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How glittering they shone -
And every One unbared a Nerve
Or wantoned with a Bone -

I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.

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